Mothers!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! (kinna long)

I want to know from BAF do you get along with your mother?
Does she still try to control you?

My mother irritates me to the fullest extinct..it so very hard to explain.....My mother is very controlling if things don't go her way she has a coronary.  Case in point -She does not celebrate holidays she is a Jehovah's witness I am not left at 18 and did not look back anyway she is pissed with me because I did not want to go to an indoor water park on thanksgiving weekend with her and my 3 little cousins that she has custody of.

I explained to her that me and hubby and the kids had plans and mimi(my daughter) was going to her father house for a while, and I also had plans with girlfriends...I mean it's thanksgiving weekend, just because you don't have a life and don't celebrate the holidays we should stop our plans. (I did not say this 2 her)

She is all mad and tells me I was just trying to spend some time with my grand-kids and I'm like why don't you take them yourself, she say's it's to much to go by myself with all of them ages 12,6,4(hers) (mine) 3 and 8. 

I understand but don't hang up in my face cause you can't get your way.  It burns me up already that you have to be mother teresa to everyone but **** on me and my kids and turn us off and on like a light switch!!

But let me say the kids are going to my biological mom's house and it's a problem "oh u never bring them over here" well that's because you always say no or when they spend the night I have to pick them up in the morning at ridiculous times in the morning like 7amor 8am!! half the time when I get there the kids are not even up, and If I am 10 mins late it's a problem.  I don't even bother sending them over there (when she allows it)

I am just at my wits end with her ass and I think I really need to talk to a therapist before I say something to her I will regret. 

Do you feel just because they are your mother that you are suppose to have this wonderful, magical relationship with them?

You MUST be talking about my mother!  She's the same way.....I love her to no end, but one day I wish I could just say what I felt and let that be it.   She doesn't babysit, and complains when my daughter is at her other grandmother's house.

Girl, I even thought about moving home temporarily (to help her out, but it would also help me).  She told me I would have a 10pm curfew!  Not if I'm paying half the mortgage....don't think so.

Damn Hershey!! You feel my pain what the hell is wrong with them it's like they think they are supposed to get a pass becasue they are our mothers!! I am at wits end with her ass who the hell would have u come to get a child at 7am in the morning!! my biological mom on the other times takes them all the time and so want to get involved in any way she can!  I hate to say it but she is a better granmother to them then she is.  I can't even say it's becasue she came into my life and wants to be a part, because my sister has 5 kids and she had the first at 17 and she's always been there for her through thick and thin!! why can't I have that? why don't I deserve that same thing from my mom, I am good mother =, person, wife but yet it's still not enough for her!!

ROFL....moms love to keep her grandkids....but when I go home to visit....we have a dayum curfew still LOL

We missed curfew one night at the club and told the owner to have a lock in cause we were locked out!

 @ She doesn't babysit, and complains when my daughter is at her other grandmother's house.


I used to have this problem with my Mom (because she said the only time that she would keep him would be for work related reasons only) but then she got jealous now I can call her anytime and leave my son.

Faith I thought about doing just that I feel like if you don't want them someone else will!!

I can vouch that it worked for me.

I don't have a perfect relationship with my mother but we get along fine. She makes me laugh and I like to spend time with her when I can. She is too busy for me. She always has something to do. She is a real laid back kinda of a person it takes a lot for her to be mad. She may not agree with a lot of my decisions but she doesn't trip to hard.

But when she catches a attitude. Watch out she can be hard to deal with. Thankfully it doesn't happen very often.

Andrea you are lucky as hell!! and I am so hating!!

HA. But like I said its far from perfect. My mother has also perfected the guilt trip. There are times when she makes me feel like the worlds worst mother. I swear if she could knock me off and keep Jayla without going to jail she would.