To the newbies and people who are considering wls

the bus will roll tomorrow. im back im not gonna have a pity party technically i live in a gym in every since of the word

GOOD FOR YOU I AM GLAD THAT ALL OF YOU ARE SHARING. I DON'T WANT ANY OF THESE POUNDS COMING BACK AND I NOW KNOW THAT THEY CAN AND WILL IF I DON'T STAY ON TRACK.

Lisa, this was the reason i stepped up because i could have been silent and sat on my gift but i decided to share it. i will be putting up post on my workouts and progress

Hey Garland - this post will help a lotta folk!

I have lost 200lbs myself and I will tell you I get positively INSANE if I gain 5 lbs!!!  Folk think I am crazy for always being  on the scale or carefully tracking my food - but that's the ONLY way to keep things on track!!!!  Once you lose sight of the shore - it's hard to find the horizon!!!  (Finally - a NON food related analogy!!!lol)

Anyways - I feel you on the road back being hard - I am trying to lose my last 20lbs - had 10 off, now I am back at needing to shave off 20 - but I will be DAMNED if I let it turn into 30........

Keep us updated, bruh - one thing I have learned - BAF at least keeps me HONEST!!!!

TOGETHER, (WE) WILL !!!!!!

When you stretch your pouch, is is possible to get back down to where you were or are you forever damaged? Anyhow thanks for the advice!

Garland, I am going to try to be as gentle as I can however I outgrew my "kids gloves" so please forgive if any of my words come out as mean sounding, I don't mean it that way but sometimes what a person need is not to be coddle but a bit of tough love. I will leave the coddling to others.

First, I admire you for stepping forward with your story to help the pre-ops and those thinking about surgery as well as the post ops and those who think the pounds are "gone forever". Pounds gone forever is only for the lucky few unless work at it and make a lifestyle change.

Now to you. To gain back all your weight, over 200 pounds and almost 300, means that something else is going on with you and I don't think just going to the gym is the answer to your problem, dont get me wrong, it will help.  I think you need to make an appointment (if you have not already) with a head doctor to get down to the root of the problem. As black folks, we think going to a skrink is taboo, but it really should be part of anyone life that need it.  It is so easy to say that I am getting back to the gym and I read your enthusiasm right now about getting back on track and that is great, but without getting to the root of the problem, how long will this last?

I know you are saying that you will be living in the YMCA, where you will have access to their gym equipment but as you and I both know, life have a way of getting in the way so you need to firgure out how you going to deal with this through life.

Have you gone back to your surgeon since your regain or are you trying to do this alone. There could be a medical reason why you gain all your weight back, I think you need to put your shame on the shelf and go back to your doctor so that you will know if there is more to it beside you just going back to your old habits.

I wish you nothing but the best, please don't think any thing else, however I believe in facing reality and reality is...IT GOING TO TAKE MORE THAN SAYING YOU GOING TO DO IT.  You took the first step, you came back to BAF, admitted that you have a problem, the next step is facing the problem head on. One of the problem could have been denial however one cant deny numbers, so you need to find a place where you can weigh yourself at least weekly so that you will know if you gain weight.  I remember when I went crying to my angel that I gained 7 pounds, and without missing a beat she asked me "HOW THE HELL CAN YOU GAIN 7 POUNDS WITHOUT KNOWING IT IF YOU ARE WEIGHING YOURSELF REGULARLY.  I can honestly say, that was the last time since my surgery that I have gain more than 3 pounds without getting it back under control.  At this point, the scale should be your second best friend.

God bless you, don't be a stranger

"HOW THE HELL CAN YOU GAIN 7 POUNDS WITHOUT KNOWING IT IF YOU ARE WEIGHING YOURSELF REGULARLY"




((((Laverne))))

hello luscious, fisrt of all let me say thank you for reading my post and replying. secondly i could not agree with you more, yes i am agreeing with you. because sometimes i feel like i only went through the process to gain the attention from the opposite sex (women). i beleive i may have come off a little desperate sounding. considering i never really had that attention before surgery and after i lost the weight and met a woman i stopped going to the gym and just let myself go now i admit that is not the mark of a person that truly loves themself. so i beleive you are right that i need clinical help to pinpoint the problem. but first i am gonna take this time to get in tune with Garland. thank you luscious

Garland....Good to see you !!!!!!!

I applaud you for having the courage to admit that you've regained the weight you lost, and for doing what you must in order to get back on track.

I, myself gained some weight since surgery ( in fact I never made it to goal ) and I was down for a bit, stepped away from BAF and made a bunch of excuses along the way.  But thankfully Im back and Im using the motivation from this board to work on my mental. Im just 2 lbs from my lowest, but I had gained as much as 15 or so. 

I tell you this is one of the hardest things Im gonna have to do and continue to do to live the life I want to live.  I only had a small taste of what my ultimate dream is to be.  In the process I am learning to love every part of me and thats what motivates me to say  " girl dont give up - this is only the beginning "

I wish you luck keeping that thought process positive  and your determination strong as nails. You are not alone dude.  One day at a time, one meal & moment  at a time. 

Keep the faith -