Anyone else in the why bother mentality?

I must say I do have the "Why Bother Blues" Doesnt bother me on a daily basis. However everytime I think of being married with kids, somebody calls me with some "hubby" drama. I am happy and content where I am for the most part. I really do want kids, but I also like the fact that I can come and go as I please without having to get a babysitter, or answer some jealous man's question cause he think I'm up to no good everytime i leave with the girls. I'm cool with being by myself and just having my male friends for now.

It is truly sad to see so much cynicsm where relationships and potential marriage is concerned.  After my divorce over four years ago, I thought I had initially run into my soulmate--someone I worked with.  That ended disasterously and I decided I was going to make it my business NOT to get emotionally involved with anyone.  Why?  Because, while we often hear about the indecisiveness and immaturity of males of the species, but virtue of the fact that they are human, too, there are those of us *****alize that there is indecisiveness, fear, and sometimes immaturity from out female counterlparts as well.   I was more than ready toss in the towel and be a "confirmed" bachelor for life.  After all, I'd already been married and have a wonderful fourteen year-old daughter.
However, I'd been forced to change my mind when a wonderful woman crossed my path.  I believe that the Higher Power graced us to be in each others lives and I am more than willing AND able to follow. 

For you cynics out there,  while there is nothing wrong with being single, humans are social creatures.  There is nothing wrong with having that special someone, either.  We just have to exercise discernment and listen to our instinct when it comes to potential mates. It isn't enough that he is foine with a big johnson and a bigger bank account...or she has the booty of life and a punanny to match. 

Then again, I could be wrong.   In this case, I hope not. 

I know you asked for single advice but let me throw my .02 in. I started dating my first husband at 17, married at 20, divorced at 24. From 24-28 partied like a rock star (seriously lol) I vowed never to get married again! I went out at least 4 nites a week and had a FULL rotation of dudes. I had to color coat them bamas in my Treo. I was having so much fun. Then of course I met my hubby and got married quickly.

Moral of the story, when the right man comes along he could possibly change your whole line of thinking.

Hey Tonya, not single and answering anyway.  It took me 3 tries to get it right.  My DH is as opposite from me as can be, but he accepts me as I am.  If I travel, even with guys, he trusts me.  He loved me at my highest weight and and loves me now.  He doesn't question how much I spend as long as the bills are paid.

We never did combine into that "one" where all the problems can come from.  We are both very independent people who are respectful of each other.  Our interests are so different, but we don't force the other into our mold, nor do we change ourselves.  I guess we are there for each other yet we walk parallel paths.

I tried changing someone else, and I tried changing me.  Neither worked.

The right person is out there.  I sure wasn't looking when I found this one.