Givin' up the goodies after WLS...

Well hell - if you ain't feelin it - you ain't feelin it!!!!!

Good thing you ain't tell him - he don't know what he is missin - no harm, no FOUL!!!! lol

Fa Sho Thanks guys.  Well lets see how he acts tonight and I'll let you know how it turns out.  Ifhe act right I just might let him get a taste....maybe.

"Our relationship has been rocky for a long time as it is but now he's mad at me because for the past two nights he's been trying to get at me and I have told him I'm not in the mood.  He really has been turning me off lately the way he's been reacting towards me and not being as supportive as I thought he would be"

"He is not giving me the effection that I want"

Sis... this surgery should have been about him too... NOTHING FROM NOTHING LEAVES NOTHING...  You have to be honest with him... You stated that you didn't even tell him what the Doctor told you... so how does he suppose to really know what you really feel if you are holding out on the brutha... MEN don't think like we do...

Tell that man that the DOCTOR told you that you can have sex... however... baby... I am scared to have sex with you at this time due to my emotional issues that you are having... Assure that man that when you begin to heal... your going to lay it down like never before... Don't allow this surgery to end your marriage or make him feel like he has to go and get some outside of your home... cause that's next... A woman tounge is slick as oil... you never know who he's talking to about what's going on with you and him at home... NoT saying that he may be talking to someone to try to get at, but out of casual conversation... a woman can take that and flip the script then give up the booty...

It sounds like your making him suffer because you want some attention from him... he wants sex so he gives you no attention but at the end of day your marriage is going to suffer because nobody wants to give in... STOP the MADDNESS... GIVE His ASS A GOOD ******* and call it a DAY!! ***Theres only 2 types... Those who do it... and those that LIE and say they don't*** We are all adults...

Girl get that telephone and go in another room... Call his cellphone and get your ******** game up...
Meet the man half way... your going to change and he has to learn to deal with it in his own way.... So many of us have gone through what you are going through but it's not the end of the world...

I pray that I didn't cross the line... Please charge it to my head and not my heart...

Kiss and make up sis...  Things will get better...

Vonda

I guess your right.  actually he got online about an hour after I posted this and read everything and said the same thing to me but I can't talk to him that easily.  I felt like I shouldn't have made this post at first but then I thought to myself, why not I just want someone to talk to that can understand my point of view for once.  I doubt that he would resort to cheating though, we have been through way more than this.