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following message posted by Dx E at 11:27 AM on Tuesday, December 27, 2005 PST:
WARNING! WARNING! WARNING!
OK,- Re-Post,
Just in case
Some have missed it...
WARNING! WARNING! WARNING!
For those of you
Who are looking into Weight Loss Surgery!
Or,
Are in the "Planning Stage," to get yours.
Just So,
It won't come as a surprise later-
1.) THIS IS MAJOR SURGERY!
And as such, it comes with some givens-
THERE WILL BE PAIN!
How much?
It seems to be quite different for Everyone,
But I've yet to see a person out here that had None.
THERE ARE RISKS OF COMPLICATIONS!
Blood-Clots, Pneumonia,
Adverse Reactions to Anesthesia,
(These You Get With ANY Surgery)
And Leaks!
How great are the risks?
That depends on your health,
Your Surgeon,
Your predilection to any number of ills.
If percentages give you comfort,
They are easy enough to find out here.
THERE IS THE PROBABILITY OF POST-SURGICAL DEPRESSION!
Yes, Probability, not just Possibility.
With any major surgery, people tend
To experience Depression afterwards.
This surgery is NO Exception.
2.) THIS IS NOT A MAGIC CURE FOR OBESITY!
It IS, Statistically the best chance for overcoming Obesity.
It IS, The "Last Resort," as a method of overcoming Obesity.
If you are ready to make a life long commitment,
Then it may work for you.
Likewise- If Not,
It most likely Won't.
3.) THIS IS NOT AN "EASY WAY OUT!"
It is a Drastic and Complete change of lifestyle,
That comes with the probability of many challenges to overcome.
There WILL BE some Nausea.
How much?
It seems to be quite different for Everyone,
There WILL BE some Hair Loss.
99.9% of people have this to some degree.
How much?
It seems to be quite different for Everyone,
4.) THIS IS NOT A COSMETIC PROCEDURE!
If you are interested in WLS, so you will "Look Good,"
Find something else!
Saggy, Superfluous and Redundant Skin is a given.
Look at the "Before" Photos on the Plastic surgery websites.
If, even in the furthest back regions of your mind
Your motivation for getting WLS is for looks,
The Overwhelming chances are that you
WILL BE Greatly disappointed.
5.) THERE ARE NO GUARANTEES!
Statistically, most people succeed
At losing 60 to 80% of excess weight
As a result of WLS.
Some Much More,
And some much less.
EVEN IF, everything goes
"Text Book Perfect" with your procedure
And after care, There is a Chance
That you may be the "Statistic"
That balances the whole.
It MAY NOT WORK!
6.) THERE ARE MORE OPTIONS THAN JUST "GASTRIC BYPASS"
RNY, DS and the Lap-Band
Are the Most popular types
Of Weight-Loss Surgery- Presently.
Before assuming that they are all alike,
Or even remotely similar,
Research the options.
In buying a Car,
You wouldn't assume that All Cars were FORDS.
WLS is far more permanent
Than the purchase of a car. Yes?
7.) THERE ARE SPECIFIC AFTERCARE PROCEDURES AND REGIMENS!
These are specific to each Dr.
Ask and Know about them PRIOR To Surgery.
If you find out that your Dr. "Has No Plan,"
Then find one that does!
The ANSWER
To nearly 30% of the questions asked on AMOS is-
"What does YOUR DOCTOR Recommend?"
Know this before your surgery.
How does one know these 7 simple things?
They Ask questions,
They Read all of the info they can get their hands on,
They Read it Again and Again on this very Board!
I Repeat-
They Read it Again and Again on this very Board!
The Exact Wordings of-
THIS IS MAJOR SURGERY!
THIS IS NOT A MAGIC CURE FOR OBESITY!
THIS IS NOT AN "EASY WAY OUT!"
THIS IS NOT A COSMETIC PROCEDURE!
THERE ARE NO GUARANTEES!
THERE ARE MORE OPTIONS THAN JUST "GASTRIC BYPASS"
THERE ARE SPECIFIC AFTERCARE PROCEDURES AND REGIMENS!
"What does YOUR DOCTOR Recommend?"
Now, many of you will say-
"We Know all of this! What a waste of time!"
And Yet,
DAILY, on one Board or another,
Someone is Posting-
"If Only I had Known!"
"No One Told Me!"
"If I had Known This, I'd Have NEVER Had WLS!!"
Not asking a question or seeking support-
Just Posting!!!!!!
And typically,
People in that first two weeks phase of
Emotional Post-Surgical-
"OH No! What Have I done To Myself??!?!!"
Will drop a line out on the Boards,
Specifically BLAMING
The "WLS Cheerleaders" for presenting WLS
As an Easy, Quick Solution to being Overweight.
"I've never seen anyone post anything except how easy it was!"
(that was an actual post from 2 weeks ago)
They SEEM to have NEVER read
Anything about the Challenges of WLS.
Here is my LAST Caveat -
It is the INDIVIDUALS RESPONSIBILITY to FIND OUT
About WLS BEFORE Having it Done!
Not every little detail about the milligrams of Magnesium in
Canned Lentil Soup,
Or Which Protein Supplement tastes So and So-
BUT -
To go it to surgery Not knowing that
They Might have pain?
They might have a leak?
Then Shame, Shame!
It is the INDIVIDUALS RESPONSIBILITY to FIND OUT
About WLS BEFORE Having it Done!
This is certainly not intended
To "Scare-Off" anyone seriously Looking into WLS,
But,
Like EVERYTHING IN LIFE,
It IS Buyer Beware!
If you find yourself saying-
"Why did I never Know...?"
More than likely The Answer is-
"Because you DIDN"T ASK!"
Or-
"Because YOU Heard -
WHAT YOU WANTED TO HEAR!"
Why in the World would I put this out here?
It Seems So Negative and Non-Supportive!
I say it now,
So that Later,
When someone posts
In a vulnerable State of Nerves and Anxiety,-
"My Dr. Didn't tell me about_____!!"
I can THEN REPLY-
"Well, Bless your Heart Darlin',
How about trying ______,. That seems to help many people with just that problem...."
"Hope you're doing better soon!"
No Sugar Coating on the Front End,
But Support for when you're Down Later.
This Seems a lot better than the alternative
Of the "Other Way around." Yes?
Best Wishes-
Dx
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