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Sarah C.
on 7/27/08 5:16 am
Topic: RE: my mom mary wright died from complications due to a
First off, I am so sorry for your loss.  It is truly painful when you lose someone close to you. Especially a mother.

Second off to everyone else on this page who is freaking out and upset that she is sounding like an alarmist.  It is her way of grieving, so if you don't like it, let it be and don't post anything.  I don't understand why people like to attack in this manner to someone who just lost somebody in their life!  Sometimes people don't know how to respond in a healthy or respectful manner.  I think sometimes when people are trying to be helpful they don't get things out in a correct matter.

If you want details read her profile or email her like she asked, don't get mad.  Just pray for her and her family! 

God Bless you inhonorofmarywright!  Keep doing what your doing and just hold your head up, 
Sarah C.
on 7/27/08 4:38 am
Topic: RE: Just Starting The Feeling Of Regrets
Hi Wendy!

My my my girl.. it sounds like you have been through ALOT!!! I can relate with the anxiety issues.  I have found that writing a list of your fears, worries, concerns, etc and bringing them to your doctor or a therapist really helps! I see a therapist about once a month and it has helped tremedously!!!

I know when I first was told I should go, I thought to myself this is never going to work and no one will ever be able to help me.  But I was SO wrong! I walked into the therapist office and within 2 minutes I was crying from relief of sharing my fears with someone else!  I also have tried anti-anxiety medication like Fluoxtine, It really does help alot! 

Also you should keep a journal for yourself just to write your thoughts and fears down.  It really helps to write things down to just get them off of your chest.  I would also recommend you write 5 positive things about yourself or things about the day that had happened.  You would be surprised at how much it helps to just get things out of your mind and on paper!  It is really important for people with anxiety to start looking at positive things in life and to believe in yourself.

Also, I used to work as a Chiropractor's assistant for 3 years and we quite a few people come in after WLS.  I can say I am almost 99% sure that your back and tail bone pain is because your body needs to be re-aligned after losing so much weight.  Your body is used to carrying around extra weight, and now that it has come off it just needs to re-adjust to it.  I would definately recommend seeing a chiropractor for your back pain.  You will feel soooo much better.  I promise after maybe 2 or 3 adjustments you will feel like a new woman!  The first one you might feel a little sore and not want to go back.  That is completely normal because your body is not used to be aligned at that weight.  But trust me go back a few times and you will see!!  Also, Chiropractic care is SO good for women going through menopause! 

I might also suggest getting a massage.  That will also help your body release those bad toxins and help regain strength at this new weight.  Plus it will help you relax a little and lift your spirits up! 

But I definately would go see a doctor about all of your symptoms and even get a second opinion if it helps.  Your doctor can also refer you to a good Chiropractor.  They are there to help you so just take a deep breath and keep your chin up!  Just have some faith in yourself and know that you are strong and you can conquere anything you put your mind too! I mean look at yourself, you have been through 9 open heart surgeries and a WLS!! If you can do that you can do anything!!  I think you are a strong amazing woman, but it just sounds like you have been through alot in your life and it has just built up so much that you are needing to seek relief!  So keep talking about your fears and know that it will all be okay girl!

 God Bless! - Sarah
(deactivated member)
on 7/23/08 2:41 pm
Topic: RE: Freedom!-Moving on beyond the lapband

I went to my dr today to discuss my options. Removal is covered! But I am considering revision to the sleeve. They are trying to see if the insurance will cover the sleeve with a revison. Otherwise, I will go with the removal for now. I really don't want any extra debt. However I do need to lose about a 100 pds. So keep me in your prayers. I pray that whatever happens, I will be just fine!

Thanks!

Kate -True Brit
on 7/22/08 3:43 am - UK
Topic: RE: Does anyone wish they had never gone through WLS?

Go on the specific boards and read what people say. No WLS suits everyone! I love my band and, like many others have lost 100% excess weight and am maintaining without any real effort on my part.

Kate

Highest 290, Banded - 248   Lowest 139 (too thin!). Comfort zone 155-165.

Happily banded since May 2006.  Regain of 28lbs 2013-14.  ALL GONE!

But some has returned! Up to 175, argh! Off we go again,

   

Samoan beaut-eee *.
on 7/21/08 4:58 am - Independence, MO
Topic: RE: Sad all the time
I am officially 3 months out now and all i can say is TOUGH IT OUT as long as you can with care from doctors may help but it may not i too thought that i was DYING mentally and my doctor knocked on my head and said hey Rachel you know how crackheads are addicted to Crack then he told me "IM ADDICTED TO FOOD" ive never been an emotional eater but i just LOVED the taste of food and now everytime my head says that smells good i remember the taste now since the surgery im NEVER hungry so i put myself on a schedule and really started working through my issues with food.  Its alot better and i went to a M&G from the Black American Forum on here and learned what had been making me sick for 2 months b/c i did nothing but VOMIT all the time and now i havent gotten sick once.

It is something to get used to but as of today im 85lbs down and im feeling GREAT!!!

Thank you everyone who wrote on here, you've been amazing and will continue to be that to many more!!

It will get better, i thought i would never say that.  If you need ANYTHING i will be here...

~Angel


MNMommaBear
on 7/21/08 4:23 am - MN
Topic: RE: Sad all the time
You aren't alone in your thoughts.

I am just 2 weeks out and I have been sunken so deeply into depression and regret. My dr has prescribed antidepressants and a return to the psychologist and PCP, although it doesn't really feel like it's helping.  Everyone keeps telling me it'll get better, I am having a hard time believing it.  I feel like I'm dying mentally.  I don't know what this surgery has done to my head, but I want it undone.  I've been trying for a couple days to check into reversal, I'd really rather be fat and struggle with it than to be such a basket case I can barely care for my 3 children.  They know something's very wrong and are scared even though I keep trying to hide it from them. 

Has anyone been so desperately regretful that they have had this undone?  Is severe depression a legitimate reason to have it undone?
huskergalWsD
on 7/21/08 1:09 am
Topic: RE: Just Starting The Feeling Of Regrets

                                      WANTED TO ALSO MENTION  TO EVERYONE ;;YOU ARE  WELCOME TO GIVE ME ANY TIPS HOW TO MAKE THIS WEIGHT LOSS JOURNEY LESS FULL OF ANXIETY.....THANKS..........WENDY

                              
7stents (2003)...Heart Attack(2004)...Open Heart (2004)....Wls (2007)...Heart attack 2012...1 stent (2012)...Heart Attack (2013)...Heart Attack (2013)...1 stent(2013)
~~~Best Vitamin For Making Friends  B1~~~

(deactivated member)
on 7/20/08 4:56 pm
Topic: RE: Am I the only one??
Hi there!

I couldn't help but notice...you're pregnant?

Congratulations!

An awful lot of the emotions you are describing also go with pregnancy?  The ups, the downs, the ... well, everything.  like crying, boredom, feling lost and useless to the world -- and then right back up again!  You shouldn't even be losing weight right now, anyway.

When are you due?

Jenn1973
on 7/20/08 2:26 am - Ottawa, Canada
Topic: RE: Just Starting The Feeling Of Regrets
Wendy,

I am sorry to hear that you are having such a hard time of things.  Anxiety is never fun and it can be as dibilitating as any disease.  Have you spoken to someone about your anxiety?  It sounds like you might need someone to help you sort out what is going on - both physically and emotionally.

Some of your symptoms may be directly linked to pre-menopause, some may be the result of WLS, and others may be from your open heart surgery.  Your mind and body has been through so much - if it is also going through menopause, then it is continuing through more changes. 

If I were you, I would list all of my concerns and go and see a doctor that I trust. Bring a friend with you.  The doctor ca help you to organize the ailments and figure out a pplan of attack that is built for you.  Your friend can be there to listen and write down what the doctor has to say.  I have read that bringing a friend to the doctor is a good idea when you have a lot to tackle - that friend will be abe to assist you because they are hearing things through the eyes of a friend - not the patient.  Often, when we are the patient, we are worried and sometimes miss things.

I wish you well and hope that your journey becomes easier with time,

Jenn

huskergalWsD
on 7/19/08 3:52 pm
Topic: Just Starting The Feeling Of Regrets
   HOPE ALL IS WELL WITH EVERYONE             
          LET ME TELL YOU MY STORY;;FIRST OF ALL, I AM HAPPY WITH MY WEIGHT LOSS SO FAR (OR NOT) ,,DONT THINK I COULD HAVE LOST  THIS MUCH ON MY OWN..I STARTED AT MY CONSULT 307 ( I AM 6' 0 ) DAY OF WLS I WAS 297 ; I AM NOW 214, EVERY MORNING I WAKE UP AT 211. WANTED TO GET TO 180. SO THAT IS A TOTAL OF 96 LBS.? ??  ......I HAD 120 LBS.TO LOSE TO BE VERY VERY HAPPY...NOT SURE I WILL MAKE IT,,SEEMS THE ONLY TIME MY SCALE MOVES IS WHEN I START MY PERIOD,,I HAVE HEARD LOTS OF WOMEN  ON HERE SAY THE SAME THING,,I AM THINKING IT HAS SOMETHING TO DO WITH  MENOPAUSE. I JUST TURNED 51 IN JUNE 08.....THE FEMALE HORMONE STOPPING MY WEIGHT LOSS..??.  I GET SO CONFUSED HOW TO GET MORE WEIGHT OFF AT THIS POINT ,CAUSE IT HAS STOPPED FOR OVER 3 MONTHS,, IF I DON'T KEEP UP ON MY PROTEIN MY HAIR IS STILL FALLING OUT AT 16 MOTHS PO NOW...NOT MUCH LEFT.....SINCE WLS I HAVE HAD ONLY 4 CYCLES,,(NOT GOOD) ONE EVERY 4 MONTHS....I KNOW I KNOW ......BE HAPPY WITH WHAT I HAVE LOST RIGHT NOW,,IF I DONT WALK 2 MILES EVERY DAY ,THE WEIGHT  STARTS TO CREEP BACK ON LB BY LB.. I WEIGH 2 X A DAY MORNING AND NIGHT,,IF I DIDNT MY WEIGHT WOULD HAVE COME BACK ALREADY....I AM DOING PRETTY GOOD WITH MY EATING.....LEAST I THOUGHT I AM.....WELL I HAVE HAD 9 HEART SURGERIES PRIOR TO WLS OPEN HEART INCLUDED.....MY LOWER BACK KILLS ME EVERY DAY,,I'M SURE MY MATTRESS PLAYS A BIG PART IN THAT, I CAN'T AFFORD TO BUY A NEW ONE,,I KNOW A PILLOWTOP WOULD HELP BUT I JUST DONT HAVE THE MONEY,,SINCE WLS I HAVE HAD SUGAR CRASH'S ;; THEY ARE WORSE THAN WHEN YOUR SUGAR GOES TOO HIGH...AT LEAST YOU ARE COHERANT  IF TOO HIGH,WHEN IT CRASHE'S GOES TOO LOW..CAN EVEN DIE FROM IT..YOU GO COMATOSE IF WAY TOOO LOW..MINE HAS GONE DOWN TO 44... YOU PASS OUT..... I DON'T WORK OUTSIDE THE HOME BECAUSE SINCE MY OPEN HEART SURGERY I HAVE BAD ANXIETY, ( I ALMOST DIED) WHEN THEY INJECTED TOO MUCH MORPHINE.WENT INTO RESPITORY FAILURE,,AND I WON'T TAKE ANTI-DEPRESSANTS  OR ANTI- ANXIETY MEDS..FOR FEAR OF WEIGHT GAIN ..THEY DO CAUSE IT .....I LOOKED INTO TAKING ST. JOHN'S WORT ,I WAS OK WITH THAT .........THEN I HAD A PROBLEM WITH THAT.......... MY HEART STOPPED TWICE JUST 30 MINUTES AFTER TAKING IT..BUT I AM OK NOW ( AS YOU CAN SEE) BUT THE ANXIETY ON TOP OF THE ALREADY ANXIETY IS KILLIN ME...I THOUGHT LOOSING WEIGHT WOULD HELP MY LOWER BACK PAIN AND MY KNEE PAIN,AND IT HASN'T, NO ONE WARNED ME MY TAILBONE WAS GOING TO HURT ALL THE TIME AFTER WEIGHT LOSS,,I LOST 50 LBS BEFORE ON MY OWN YEARS AGO AND I NEVER HAD TAILBONE PAIN...........I WORRY CONSTANTLY THAT I AM GOING TO DIE BECAUSE OF MY HEART AND WORRY THAT IF I GOT SNOW BOUND SOMWHERE SOMEDAY I COULD POSSIBLY DIE WITH NO PROPER FOOD AND VITAMINS AND PROTEIN..I WORRY IF I EVER GOT IN A SITUATION TO CAUSE ME TO GO TO JAIL THEN I WOULD FALL APART IN JAIL ,THEY DON'T TAKE CARE OF YOU VERY WELL IN THERE (TRUST ME)... MAN THE ANXIETY NEVER STOPS..I WORRY THAT I AM NOT GETTING ENOUGH VITAMIN B12.... I AM SUPPOSE TO TAKE 500 MG TWICE A DAY ACTUALLY 3 BUT WHEN I DO IT CAUSES ME TO PASS OUT JUST LIKE YOU DO WHEN YOU EAT TOO MANY CARBS ..SUPPOSE TO GIVE ME ENERGY BUT IT CAUSES JUST THE OPPOSITE TO ME.. YES WEIGHT LOSS HAS HELPED ME WITH MY BLOOD PRESSURE AND DIABETES.( NO LONGER ON ANY MEDS FOR THOSE) BUT I NEVER HAD THIS MUCH ANXIETY BEFORE MY OPEN HEART SURGERY I WOULDNT WISH THAT ON ANYONE....SO GLAD ALL OF YOU ARE TRYING TO TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEALTH WITH WLS.. .SO I WORRY WORRY WORRY WORRY....AND I KNOW STRESS (ANXIETY) KILLS ...........I AM CONFUSED THAT I AM REGRETTING THIS OR NOT?!!!..........I JUST WONDER IF IT'S ME CAUSE I'VE HAD OPEN HEART SURGERY OR IF OTHER PEOPLE HAVE THIS MUCH WORRY AS I DO IN THE SAME SENSE AS ME.....SO IS THE TRADE OFF WORTH IT? YES I'VE LOST WEIGHT BUT THE ANXIETY IS KILLIN ME JUST AS MUCH AS THE HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE AND THE DIABETES WAS.,,,THANKS FOR READING MY STORY,,LETTING ME LET IT ALL OUT AND SOMEONE TO LISTEN TO IT.........WENDY

                              
7stents (2003)...Heart Attack(2004)...Open Heart (2004)....Wls (2007)...Heart attack 2012...1 stent (2012)...Heart Attack (2013)...Heart Attack (2013)...1 stent(2013)
~~~Best Vitamin For Making Friends  B1~~~

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