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Topic: RE: I am getting tired of the complications...when will it stop
Thank You for your encouragement...It means alot
Thank God I've been doing some healing finally!
Chana
Thank God I've been doing some healing finally!
Chana 
Topic: RE: I am getting tired of the complications...when will it stop
Yes, I can relate. This month is my one year "surgiversary" and I've had a series of complications, one of which was life-threatening. I had 3 really good months somewhere in the middle, but the rest of the time has been a fight to either survive or recover. Yes, I understand the feeling of "does it ever stop?"
None of us planned for it to work out this way, but hopefully we did our homework and knew it was a possibility. I just never expected one "possibility" after another! I have to believe the struggle will end eventually and I will look back at all this one day and say it was worth it. Would I say that now? Probably not.
But you know where you were before and the issues that awaited you if you did nothing. Instead, you were brave and took steps to improve your health. While it's hard now and the complications keep coming at you, fight one battle at a time. Hopefully the battles will die out and you'll resume the life you dreamed of. I have to believe that...for you, for me, and for everyone else in our situation.
Godspeed,
-Zook-
None of us planned for it to work out this way, but hopefully we did our homework and knew it was a possibility. I just never expected one "possibility" after another! I have to believe the struggle will end eventually and I will look back at all this one day and say it was worth it. Would I say that now? Probably not.
But you know where you were before and the issues that awaited you if you did nothing. Instead, you were brave and took steps to improve your health. While it's hard now and the complications keep coming at you, fight one battle at a time. Hopefully the battles will die out and you'll resume the life you dreamed of. I have to believe that...for you, for me, and for everyone else in our situation.
Godspeed,
-Zook-
Topic: RE: OKAY i am Worried NOW!
Yes, the Regrets and Complications Forums are both scary places, but I believe they still need to be read...*especially* pre-op.
I had RNY surgery one year ago and have had 9 months of complications, one of which was life-threatening. Now, unlike what was said by the previous posters, not everything is within your control. I followed the rules to a T, I take good care of myself, etc. Nonetheless, complications do happen and they may have nothing to do with your behavior. *Every* surgery, no matter how major or minor carries a risk. If you ignore rules and post-op guidelines, you are inviting trouble. But behaving yourself does not guarantee a smooth course. The question becomes, are you prepared to fight the struggles of medical complications in order to obtain a good, healthy weight and lifestyle?
Keep in mind that for most people, the medical course is smooth. If they regain weight it's because they're no longer eating properly. That much *is* up to you. But complications happen and it's wise to know what kind, how to avoid some of them (if possible), and honestly face whether or not you're willing to go through the bumps in the road.
Think carefully and let the information you discover here be the basis of a good dialog with your surgeon.
Whatever you decide, I wish you good health and success.
Godspeed,
-Zook-
I had RNY surgery one year ago and have had 9 months of complications, one of which was life-threatening. Now, unlike what was said by the previous posters, not everything is within your control. I followed the rules to a T, I take good care of myself, etc. Nonetheless, complications do happen and they may have nothing to do with your behavior. *Every* surgery, no matter how major or minor carries a risk. If you ignore rules and post-op guidelines, you are inviting trouble. But behaving yourself does not guarantee a smooth course. The question becomes, are you prepared to fight the struggles of medical complications in order to obtain a good, healthy weight and lifestyle?
Keep in mind that for most people, the medical course is smooth. If they regain weight it's because they're no longer eating properly. That much *is* up to you. But complications happen and it's wise to know what kind, how to avoid some of them (if possible), and honestly face whether or not you're willing to go through the bumps in the road.
Think carefully and let the information you discover here be the basis of a good dialog with your surgeon.
Whatever you decide, I wish you good health and success.
Godspeed,
-Zook-
Topic: RE: Regretting the DS
5'10", HW: 326/SW: 280/CW: 181/Goal: 165
I'm young, and was pretty healthy going into my DS surgery. No life-threatening co-morbids. Out of sheer bad luck (I guess), I've had a host of complications, including a partially collapsed lung, pneumonia, dehydration, electrolyte imbalances, nausea, vomiting, and severe lower abdominal pain. It has been a frustrating road. I am NOT the norm. Most people don't have this many problems.
That being said, had I known I'd face those issues, I'd still do it all over again. There is no way I could live with any other surgery. Period.
That being said, had I known I'd face those issues, I'd still do it all over again. There is no way I could live with any other surgery. Period.
5'10", HW: 326/SW: 280/CW: 181/Goal: 165
Topic: RE: What have i done
Hi Latrice,
I happened on this post today while visiting different forums here on O.H.
I wondered how you're feeling now that a little bit of time has passed since your posted this thread. Sometimes it takes time to adjust to everything your body goes through. We naturally mourn the loss of food. For most of us food has played a major role in our lives for a while. We turned to food to fill a need, like boredom, anger, lonleness, frustration, joy, the list is just about endless. I rermember being two weeks out and crying because I had to take my vitamins. I laugh at that now. Feeling "blue" is generaly a normal reaction after most surgeries. Try to remember to take it slow. As you adjust to your surgery, and learn from first hand experience what and how much you can eat/drink it will improve. The results are well worth the effort you put into this now. I am three and a half years out and down a total of 225 #. Take advantage of your "window of opportunity" Because it will end. I struggle everyday with my eating habbits, but I am determined that I will win this life long battle of the buldge! Please do let me/us know how you are doing now that it's been five or six weeks. Thank you.
God bless,
Annette
I happened on this post today while visiting different forums here on O.H.
I wondered how you're feeling now that a little bit of time has passed since your posted this thread. Sometimes it takes time to adjust to everything your body goes through. We naturally mourn the loss of food. For most of us food has played a major role in our lives for a while. We turned to food to fill a need, like boredom, anger, lonleness, frustration, joy, the list is just about endless. I rermember being two weeks out and crying because I had to take my vitamins. I laugh at that now. Feeling "blue" is generaly a normal reaction after most surgeries. Try to remember to take it slow. As you adjust to your surgery, and learn from first hand experience what and how much you can eat/drink it will improve. The results are well worth the effort you put into this now. I am three and a half years out and down a total of 225 #. Take advantage of your "window of opportunity" Because it will end. I struggle everyday with my eating habbits, but I am determined that I will win this life long battle of the buldge! Please do let me/us know how you are doing now that it's been five or six weeks. Thank you.
God bless,
Annette
God bless,
Annette
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Topic: RE: Someone please just tell me this is a phase I'm going through!!
Thank you so much for reading and reply to me...
I'm am doing better now, I think this was shortly after I had surgery. I am able to eat more and don't feel deprived now. I'm actually dealing with hunger and able to eat anyting. I've only lost about another 5 lbs since this post. I'm into a size 8 though so I try not to stress about the numbers.
I am on an anti depressent and I think it might have helped, I'm on wellbutrin and klonopin.
Do you have any helpful hints on what to do about the hunger and ability to eat more, and how to keep motivation? I would still like to lose another 40 lbs and it seems I've gotten very lazy with the rules.
Congratulations on your succesful 3 years, that is awesome, I hope to be one of those far out people like you that are able to come back here with positive results.
I did lose 152lbs before, I had to do a year with my surgeons dietician and I had been denied once before by my insurance, they said I had to lose some on my own first. I liked the accountabilty of knowing I had to see her every month. I think I need that again, I'm only accountable to me now and I won't weigh myself if I think I may be up a lb. Lieing to myself doesn't help. I decied to go ahead with surgery because I had lost and gained 100lbs at leat 5 times since my teens.
I'm happy now with my decision to have the surgery , I'm just at a point right now I have to recommit to the rules and stop with the lil cheats, before I've undo the work of getting healthy and slim like I've always wanted.
Thanking you very much for stoping by and talking to me, I look forward to hearing any advice you might have on how you have stayed so succesful and what you do to keep on track.
Have a great night and I will talk to you soon...
Julie
I'm am doing better now, I think this was shortly after I had surgery. I am able to eat more and don't feel deprived now. I'm actually dealing with hunger and able to eat anyting. I've only lost about another 5 lbs since this post. I'm into a size 8 though so I try not to stress about the numbers.
I am on an anti depressent and I think it might have helped, I'm on wellbutrin and klonopin.
Do you have any helpful hints on what to do about the hunger and ability to eat more, and how to keep motivation? I would still like to lose another 40 lbs and it seems I've gotten very lazy with the rules.
Congratulations on your succesful 3 years, that is awesome, I hope to be one of those far out people like you that are able to come back here with positive results.
I did lose 152lbs before, I had to do a year with my surgeons dietician and I had been denied once before by my insurance, they said I had to lose some on my own first. I liked the accountabilty of knowing I had to see her every month. I think I need that again, I'm only accountable to me now and I won't weigh myself if I think I may be up a lb. Lieing to myself doesn't help. I decied to go ahead with surgery because I had lost and gained 100lbs at leat 5 times since my teens.
I'm happy now with my decision to have the surgery , I'm just at a point right now I have to recommit to the rules and stop with the lil cheats, before I've undo the work of getting healthy and slim like I've always wanted.
Thanking you very much for stoping by and talking to me, I look forward to hearing any advice you might have on how you have stayed so succesful and what you do to keep on track.
Have a great night and I will talk to you soon...
Julie
Topic: RE: Someone please just tell me this is a phase I'm going through!!
Aloha and wow...I am blown away by your story. I rarely come into different forums from my usual Over Fifty Forum, but today I wandered over here, and am shaking my head. I had no idea of the feelings about WLS that are so negative.
Did I read this right that you had lost 152 lbs. WAITING to get surgery? You must have been doing something right! I'm wondering why you had this surgery at all. "Misery and Unhappiness" are strong words to use following WLS and I think maybe you need to see your bariatric doc to get depression meds. I feel a little strange posting here as I'm MUCH OLDER than I think you probably are.....in my 60's....but also I am a retired clinical psychologist so I have that background from which to pull information and experience.
OK...let me tell you what it's like at almost 3 years out......I eat LOTS of good food. Last night I had a steak with mushrooms, broccoli in butter, garlic mashed potatoes, and for dessert a sugar-free piece of lemon cheesecake. You cannot tell me that I am missing out on anything!! (I weigh half of what I weighed 3 years ago...)
Hang in there sweetie...and IM me if you would care to discuss this further. I still can't get over your losing 152 lbs. and still having surgery. I need to know more info as to why you did not just keep on doing what you were doing...obviously, it was working!
Aloha nui loa,
Maui Karen
Did I read this right that you had lost 152 lbs. WAITING to get surgery? You must have been doing something right! I'm wondering why you had this surgery at all. "Misery and Unhappiness" are strong words to use following WLS and I think maybe you need to see your bariatric doc to get depression meds. I feel a little strange posting here as I'm MUCH OLDER than I think you probably are.....in my 60's....but also I am a retired clinical psychologist so I have that background from which to pull information and experience.
OK...let me tell you what it's like at almost 3 years out......I eat LOTS of good food. Last night I had a steak with mushrooms, broccoli in butter, garlic mashed potatoes, and for dessert a sugar-free piece of lemon cheesecake. You cannot tell me that I am missing out on anything!! (I weigh half of what I weighed 3 years ago...)
Hang in there sweetie...and IM me if you would care to discuss this further. I still can't get over your losing 152 lbs. and still having surgery. I need to know more info as to why you did not just keep on doing what you were doing...obviously, it was working!
Aloha nui loa,
Maui Karen
Topic: RE: What have i done
Aloha Latrice......I don't know why I wandered over into this forum today, but I am so glad that I did. I FEEL your pain in way that maybe only someone who is almost 3 years out from surgery can. It is filtered through having many friends who have had this surgery AND having just this morning taken a dear friend to the airport to fly from Maui to Honolulu for her 2nd surgery to repair an intestinal problem that only just came to light after her surgery almost 5 years ago. However.....let me say that my friend looked amazing this morning....she went from approx. 275 lbs. (at 5'2") to 114!! That is too low for her, but that is because of this intestine problem she is having.....she has had to drink liquids for the past couple of weeks.
Not that it matters....but I am a retired clinical psychologist and had my RNY surgery July, 2006. I am one of the lucky ones who came through without any complications and just 4 months ago had tummy surgery to take away excess skin, so that now I have a flat belly and basically a skinny body.
Please, do not fret too much. What you are experiencing is so very normal.......depression. They told us that was to be expected, and I had it for about a day, but luckily not more than that. Your end result.......health, fitness, and freedom in your body will make you blossom in the months ahead. Please, follow your surgeon's rules.....you will be glad you did.
In addition to being a psychologist, I am currently a newborn hearing screener at the local hospital and see all the beautiful new babies born on Maui. TO have a 10 month old is both delightful AND stressful. Please love that new life.....and he will have a mama that will see him/her graduate from college as a healthy mama instead of a FAT, out of shape mama who might not get to see his first grandchild.
With so much aloha,
Maui Karen
Not that it matters....but I am a retired clinical psychologist and had my RNY surgery July, 2006. I am one of the lucky ones who came through without any complications and just 4 months ago had tummy surgery to take away excess skin, so that now I have a flat belly and basically a skinny body.
Please, do not fret too much. What you are experiencing is so very normal.......depression. They told us that was to be expected, and I had it for about a day, but luckily not more than that. Your end result.......health, fitness, and freedom in your body will make you blossom in the months ahead. Please, follow your surgeon's rules.....you will be glad you did.
In addition to being a psychologist, I am currently a newborn hearing screener at the local hospital and see all the beautiful new babies born on Maui. TO have a 10 month old is both delightful AND stressful. Please love that new life.....and he will have a mama that will see him/her graduate from college as a healthy mama instead of a FAT, out of shape mama who might not get to see his first grandchild.
With so much aloha,
Maui Karen
Topic: RE: What have i done
Hey there Latrice, I am truly sorry to hear what you are going thru.
I personally have not yet had bypass surgery as yet, I am waiting on Ins. approval, however I have had major surgery in the past. Also having cared for family members who have had major surgery. Many people do not understand what happens after. And from my experience, no Doctor will explain this to a individual. I ask the Doctors way to many questions, and not many of them like it when you do ask. Except of course the surgeons from the Bariatric clinics. In saying this I agree with all the other responses, go talk to your surgeon. The one question you should ask, " after surgery how long does it take for your insides to recoup". Cause from what I know to be fact, It will take anywhere from a year to a year and a half, for your body to start to feel any kind of normalcy. So yeah you might need some Meds. to help you along the way!.
But in the mean time keep the faith and maybe look for support groups in your area. Everything your feeling is normal, keep on keep on goin girl, you can fight this!, everyone is here to support you 
HUGS LORRAINE
Topic: RE: What have i done
I really feel for you and I know what you are going thru. I'm six years Post Op and that first month was a lulu for me. I remember sitting in my recliner watching television. I never really noticed how many commericals there were for FOOD. While I wasn't hungry, I had regret. Then an ad came on for I think 7-11 where this gal was buying nachos. I just broke down and cried because I thought "I'll NEVER BE ABLE TO EAT NACHOS again" Such depression for the best friend I ever had . . . . food. One doctor I had when I was a fat teen told me mother that I turned to food because it's the only thing that doesn't talk back to me. It was my comfort, my salvation. So now you are going thru a loss. This is a loss just like a cherished loved one. But the good news.....this shall also pass. I next went thru anger. Why is it that EVERY family gathering had to center around FOOD!!
You do need to tell your doctor about your depression. It's very real. Hang in there.....it will get better!!!
You do need to tell your doctor about your depression. It's very real. Hang in there.....it will get better!!!
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