I can't WAIT for the ulcers, malnutrition & feeding tubes, dehydration, forgetfulness, having to get my tube stretched, infections, hair loss, bone loss, constant pain, and all the other wonderful things I've now learned I can look forward to that my dr never mentioned.
I feel betrayed by the WLC I went to.  The only negative they mentioned was the usual blah blah about the risk of surgery and how it's just like getting a hernia or gall bladder surgery.  Nothing to worry about.
No one mentioned ANY of the above or any of the 5000 other bad things people are having to deal with from the surgery!

 I just wonder why these surgeries are promoted as being the answer to all of our weight problems and they never tell you all the health problems they will cause.
I've never been told ANY negative effects!  I'm almost 1 month out and reading these posts is scaring the crap out of me!
I still can't eat any of the good foods and I'm sick of stuff in a can.  I'm already bad at taking my vitamins because they make me SOOOO sick.
I dread getting up every day because it seems like the whole day has to revolve around my surgery...planning and taking my food with me everywhere, remembering to take my meds later in the day cuz now I get sick if I take them in the AM, worrying because I can't drink much or get all the protein in,etc.
It's a complete pain in the ass and it's not a TOOL, it's basically something that will make eating so miserable and complicated that you can't eat normally again.
I hate being fat, but I hate this feeling even more.  I'm hoping it will get better (everyone SWEARS it does), but I feel like I've stopped my life and have to take care of this pain in the ass stomach all day long while everyone else has been going on with life as usual.
I feel really alone with this and I have no friends to talk to and no one seems really interested in hearing my woes.

Hi Everyone, I just want to say i am so happy for seeing this post!! I am having my RNY on Mon. 11/9, I am soooo scared and this last week have been soo emotional having thoughts of NOT going thru with it, I am afraid of the outcome, effects, change of body... I want to do it, and I have to do it for my health I am 100lbs over weight but major health issues related to the weight. I have two more days to go and I already feel like i failed this, my mind is going crazy lately.... I just want to stay in bed, cry and be alone!! I know I am ready.. well let me say "this is as ready as i will ever be" My husband is having his done 12/21, so we are kinds going thru this together.... But this has not hit home with him yet, so he just keeps saying stop being negative about this... and i am NOT by all means, i am just scared, afraid of complication dying etc. I feel very much alone like some of these people stated in there postings. Has anyone felt like this before surgery day? Will this pass? please let me know, Thanks soo much

I am six years post surgery and I have to say that I DO have some regrets, but feel that they aren't due to thinking that I'm missing out on any fun in my life.  I can eat almost anything I desire (note the "almost" there) and I do have an occassional drink. One thing I can tell you about alcohol is it hits you FAST and is through your system even faster. I am not condoning over drinking under any cir****tance, just as I wouldn't condone over eating, especially to someone who puts themself through something as drastic as SURGERY.  I too did not have any co-morbids, except for pain in my knees and acid reflux. You need to look at your age and more importantly your health.  Being at a healthy weight will let you feel better ABOUT yourself and in turn, continue to be a good mother and a HEALTHY one that will be around longer for her kids to love!  If the surgeries today are anything like mine was, you will go through some intensive psychotherapy and counseling in order to see if you are mentally ready for the surgery. It was required by my surgeon.  Those sessions helped me decide for certain whether or not I was ready.  I did postpone it once, but went through it after thinking about it for another month. I still eat fun foods and DO fun things. The surgery might help you get off those pain meds also, but not sure as I don't know what you're taking them for.  My knees don't hurt me as much, however... and here's the big HOWEVER... I feel that I traded my extra weight and the problems that came with it for the existing problems I have now, which mainly relate to digestion.  I have had nothing but pain in my intestines since the surgery, and I'm talking E.R. trips pain.  It is mainly due to gas, bloating and constipation.  I don't know if others have that problem as well, but mine is very real.  I'm taking the long way in saying think long and hard about what you'll be getting rid of for what you might be getting!  You'll lose weight, you'll look better, you'll feel better about yourself, but you might be trading off some things for others.  Just make sure you go into the decision to have surgery with wide open eyes after having done all your research.  These surgery discussion groups were a treasure trove of answers to all my questions and the people were wonderful.  I do enjoy being LESS of the woman I was before, but I just wish I could have less pain along with all the good stuff that came with the surgery. Would I do it all again if I could?? Hmm, I'm not sure.  I would probably opt for the lap-band instead, but I do realize that the effects may not be as long-term for it as it is with the bypass.  I had the RNY.  Good luck with whatever you choose to do!

Even though this is an old thread I'll respond.  I'm 18 months post op with the sleeve and I love it.  I originally had a band 3 years ago and absolutely hated it.  But my sleeve rocks.

I'm not really worried about regain, I totally changed my diet and ways of doing things.  I don't eat crap anymore, mostly produce.  I am a grazer but considering I graze on veggies it's doable.

The one reminder I would give anyone is that most of us got fat on white carbs, not broccoli.  No WLS type fixes white carbs, that one is all up to us.