Hi, One Dr I saw (not my surgeon) said that 40% of WLS patients get divorced, where he got that # from, I have no idea. However, I can see how that is possible. Weird though, I'm actually discovering that my hubby is attracted to "plus size" women & I'm heading out of that range on a fast bus..lol! Guess we'll see what happens!

Karen, I understand where you are coming from. I could never bring myself to seriously consider RNY - I have a small child, and even though his dad would take the best care possible of him if something had happened to me, I just could not bring myself to accept the surgical risks. I instead chose to have a lapband implanted. It's a slower journey, but there was practically no chance that I wouldn't be coming home to my son. My risk of being in a car accident every day are probably higher than the risks of complications with this surgery. Just wanted to share my thoughts and experiences. Good luck on your journey.

YOU GO GIRL! I don't understand why spouses feel so threatened? If anthing you think they would be so proud! also respect the fact of how much youv'e acomplished. His Loss.

Hi! Iam Looking for Memorial message board? I'M doing research on what wls I will choose. I was told I might get some direction from here. This is such an important descision any help would be very welcomed. Thankyou (Kathleen)

Hi there Jackie, I want to get on the band wagon here and try to talk you into giving this a little more time. I know how it feels since I am am nearly 2 months out. My date was 4-18-05. I was really wondering if the pain in the left side would get better and all the other little pains. Of course they wearn't little then. I asked my Doc. about it and he said "I would wake up one day and find it better" and I swear that's what happened. I told him he was crazy at that time but it did happen. I'm down 47 pounds in nearly 8 weeks and I feel and look a lot better. I remember how I felt physically and mentally prior to the surgery and Lord what a difference. I had plenty of days of second guessing and worry but I am much healthier than I have been in years. Every time I try to eat something that I have been warned against I regret eating it. I.E. a peice of bread, milk, even 1%, I know it should be skim, but I crave it. I crave a lot of things but I can't let my self down or even my family and friends. You can do this and I know you will feel better once you get used to hearing what your body is saying to you. Please join a support group, voice your concerns and worries. Esp. on this site. People lysten and that is a God send. I wish you the best and again, give your self more time. You'll be gratefull you did. Hugs, Karen R.