Karen, I am now in your shoes. I have gotten approval, set up evaluation dates and tentatively scheduled surgery. I have been overweight for about 10 years and my weight keeps creeping up. I have been somewhat successful at Adkins and Weigh****chers but the weight came back and then some. I am afraid too. However the surgery doesn't scare me. I am not afraid of dying. I am afraid I won't be successful after having it. What if's keep popping up. I don't want to gain more weight. I used to be very thin and active and I hate being fat. I have hypertension that is resisting medication and sleep with a cpap machine. My knee joints and hip are killing me half the time. I want to be active again. I would rather have surgery than a heart attack or stroke. I know I won't do it on my own so this is my "major event" that will help me break out of my old habits. I would like to hear from anyone *****grets having this surgery and why. Good luck to you whatever you do. Jean

My husband and I have been married for 10 years. He is my best friend now. I was also chunky when we married and over 10 years have put on 100lbs. He still tells me that I am pretty or that I look cute. Most importanntly I still feel like he is attracted to me at my current size. We communicate very well. I think he will be jealous after surgery but I know that we can work through it. I am not going to let weight loss ruin my marriage!

My cousins talked me into going to have a drink last Monday. I didn't want to but I did. I had water and they drank. They are two very beautiful girls. We live in a small town and I guy that we knew growing up had come in and one of the girls bought him a drink and talked with him all night. The two girls acted like goddess all night. Had the music they wanted everyone would buy thier drinks. One complained that her shoulder hurt and wanted someone to rub it. Well this guy that we knew growing up is married now. His wife had called the bar looking for him and the bartender said that he just left. Then the 4 of us left. I wanted to go home. I wasn't drinking and I am not into that. If it were my husband I would be mad. Today the wife called me and wanted to know if I knew where he was. She was upset and stated that he got home at 7am and beat her up and raped her. She was crying and everything. I am shocked now. She didn't deserve that. When we where heading to my house the two girls where saying alot of bad things about the wife to him. Almost like they where trying to get him mad at her. When they where at the bar they kept saying that they wanted to go skinny dipping. If the wife wanted she could easily find out that he left with us. (Small town people talk) They she would be really mad at me for not telling. What do I do? Tell her yes he left with us but I went right home. Lie to here. Or see if I can find out the truth for her. Honestly I know that my cousin is a big tease. She is beautiful and her job is a stripper so she wouldn't htink anything to skinny dip in front of someone. Do I think that anything else happened. NO! I have never know her to be like that. I just want someone elses opinion..... Thank you! Karen

Hi Robin, Actually I mean plus size. I am an 18W. But that is down from a 28/30. And you are right I fight the devil every day to keep the junk out of my mouth. The surgery has given me a great tool, but now God and I need to do the rest. I can eat anything I want and seldom get any ill effect from it. This means He works overtime on me. Thanks for your reply and I will pray for you also. Good Luck DeAnne

DeAnne, I know what you mean, after over 4 years out I am not where I was hoping to end up. I am thankful though that I am not where I was before the surgery. At least where I am now I feel hopeful that through healthy eating and exercise I can get to my goal if I truly wanted to. At my highest weight I felt so hopeless because it was so much weight to lose but knowing I only need to lose 40 pounds , well, that sounds doable to me. 115 pounds is really something to be proud of and I bet that a little plastic surgery would do wonderful things for you. I think that one of the hardest things to deal with is trying to figure out what to do with my lose skin because it often looks like fat in clothing. Good luck and remember to be proud of how far you have come. Debbie