I actually just went for my annual yesterday (7/6/05) and my Dr. told me to watch for a period that last more than seven days or if you go through a pad an hour. She suggested to me that if periods become irregular, they may put you on some type of birth control to help regulate them. Hope all turns out well. Gayle

How did your visit with your surgeon come out? I hope he was able to help you. Maybe you need some metabolic testing done before having another surgery. The question that immediately came to my mind is why did you wait 2 years before addressing the problem? If I had not lost at 2 months I'd be in his office demanding that something be done. Best of luck!

It's hard to give advise or input on your situation. Nothing in your profile says what weight you started at or where you are today. I will say looking at your pictures that you look a lot better. Yes you may still be overweight but you wouldn't stand out in a crowd since most people are overweight in today's society. The only person who knows how compliant you have been is you. If you were compliant and didn't lose weight you might just have to accept that you will never be thin. If you weren't compliant you know why you ended up where you are today and another surgery wouldn't fix the problem. My surgeon tells me I will be able to lose about 30 lbs when I have my plastic surgery. I am still in size 18 jeans but after plastic surgery I should be in a size 12-14 and I can live with it. I'm still struggling to lose the last 18 lbs before having plastic surgery. I've averaged about 5 lbs a month from months 12-17 so I think I can still reach my personal goal of 195. My surgeons goal for me was 215. My surgeon told me up front I'd never fit the insurance weight tables but that I'd feel and look better when I stopped losing. I have been very compliant, not taking in more than 30 grams of carbs a day, working out in the gym for 45 minutes 5 days a week, additional walking 4 nights a week in large stores, staying around 700 calories at 17 months. I'm not sure why I told you most of what's in the paragraph but maybe it will help you to compare where you are today. Some of us just won't ever be skinny. I'd die of starvation if I were anorexic and still be overweight. Best of luck to you. Pat Surgery 1/20/04 410/352/213/195 (less 30 more lbs when I have plastic surgery)

Unless there was rape---continuing from the last response. This could be a trick on her part. But, maybe not. You have to judge for yourself whether was a true occurance. This looks to me like this is NOT a first incidence. Should you tell the wife? My thou ghts are no. This is for the simple reason that she is a friend and you ma y form a wrong opinion about this. I would however, tell a minister or someone of that nature because of the sensitive issues involved. It is serious to cry rape, or child-molester or someone like that. i would lay off and see where the chips fall. If it hapens again, meet with the man and tell him you know everything and then tell him if he does this again you are taking his wife away (and kid as well) to live with you. If he goes crazy then you have a cop nearby. If he seems complacent, then repeat the same. However, you do need more facts before you do anything

Karen, I understand where you are coming from. Have you thought about the lap band instead of RNY. I was in your shoes and seriously scared of anything too major. While the lapband is slower and probably will not accomplish as much weight loss as a bypass, I am satisfied with a slow and steady progress. My regular physician, who wrote letters for my insurance approval, told me I probably could never lose 100 lbs. by myself. My history was to lose weight, not stick with it, and gain more than I lost. I knew I had to take a drastic measure but needed to do it less dramatically. My mind could not handle RNY, I knew it. My surgeons office is 90% bypasss ands that is the procedure they specialize in. So I am happy with my decision and just wanted to share with you a different point of view. You are the only one who can make a major decision like what to do. I am down 26 from April. Definately slower but I am satisfied with the progress as long as the needle on the scale moves downward instead of upward. I think anyone who makes any decision to undergo any of the options should be commended. It is not a magic pill, all options require dedication and work. Debbie