I have also started a Yahoo group if anyone is interested. http://health.groups.yahoo.com/group/WLS_Regrets/ Jenn RNY 10/24/05 264.8/242/1??

This is so incredibly sad. Peace to her family and to her soul. jeanie

Robin, I posted this on another board. I hope it helps, especially when people make it sound like you're not working at it, or you don't want it bad enough. You need encouragement right now, not chatisement. Don't despair. We all hit plateaus, and it's really frustrating. We have to remember that the weight comes off fast in the beginning, especially the more we weigh. But once we get to that 6 month mark, it slows down dramatically. I've also found that sometimes I have to take a break from the OH boards, or it just depresses me. Everyone is posting about their wow moments, or the sizes they can wear now, or how they've already hit goal, and I wonder what I'm doing wrong. The answer is "nothing". People lose weight at different speeds based on their gender, height, starting weight and especially, age. So when I see that someone who had the surgery on the same day as me has lost more than I or is already at goal, I have to remind myself that they may have been heavier when they started, they may be shorter, or they may be younger. This isn't a race nor a competition, it's a life changing event we chose to get our health back. I'll never wear size 5 jeans, but that was never my purpose in having surgery. I wanted to get healthy again, and I'm now off of all my medication but one pill, and that's at a quarter of the dosage that I was taking. Don't stress anymore about it. One of these days, you'll find that your pants are looser even though the scale hasn't moved. The next thing you know, you'll step on the scale and it's gone down again. Keep the faith. Terry

Hi Robin, Yesterday was my worst day yet. I simple have spent the last few weeks in the frame of mind of regret and "poor me" over this surgery as well. I am also 4 months out and have lost 38 pounds total. It has been very frustrating and the constipation is the worst part for me. I go 3 to 5 days without a BM and then when I have to go, it is painful and takes a long time to pass anything. I cried for several hours yesterday and wished I'd never had this surgery. I am so messed up inside that I have been having a difficult time with this. At first, I had no depression or regrets, but now I feel like you. I know I should be encouraging you, but my personal truth is what it is. Hope we both have better successes soon. Blessings to you, Lori 293/254/130 (wonder if that will ever happen)

Bless your heart! Some surgeons don't tell all do they? I did research for approx 6 months prior to deciding on the DS and it was amazing how many surgeons don't tell you all of your options. Have you spoken with your surgeon about your disappointment? I hope everything evens out for you. Try to keep your chin up! If you have to, go to another Dr for your follow up care. Best wishes, Tonya