Hi Marilyn, I too have gotten divorced after the WLS... It was a long hard road for me as I had alot of problems afterwards... Like you. I didn't know the divorce rate was so high, I also miss my old life ALOT at times but, I would do the surgery all over again.. Like the young lady who posted to you, men THINK cuz your overweight and not confident about urself that they can treat ya like dirt if they choose to.. We at the time, don't realize this or CHOOSE not to see it for fear of being alone so we just accept it.. Not me, not anymore.. I have gained back 50Lbs but still not the person I was before the surgery... I've become very very independant now and I LOVE IT... I'm also looking into a revision, a bit scared but I don't want to go back to the old me EVER.. You are a beautiful woman, I'm sure you will meet someone that will rock ur socks soon enough! :sexy: lol Hugs, Crys

Hello, I have not wished I had any other surgery not one day since I had my band. Of course I made sure I had loads of pre op testing and I chose a skilled surgeon to make sure the lap band would be good for me from a health stand point. So far I have no reasons to regret my band, it does requires some level of discipline, at least 80 percent of the time. But I can say it has been the easiest diet I have been on. I can pretty much eat what I want in smaller quantities and still lose weight good luck N.

Hi Valerie, Just to let you know my starting weight was 326 (BMI 49), I was a sweets, volume and emotional eater and a yo-yo dieter, I finally ballooned up to over 300 pounds, before I had weight loss surgery, I would diet and lose weight and eventually gain it back plus more. I was deeply concerned just like you that that lap band may not work for me. I would not think your BMI is too high for the lap band. My doctor did not sway me either way to gastric bypass or lap band, but he did let me know they are both tools and both procedures requires exercise although the other procedures like rny and the sleeve I would probably lose quicker in the beginning. I looked at all the procedures, such as complication rate, death rates, weight loss, quality of life, long term complications, re-operation rates, fastest recovery and living with the acutal procedure. By far the lap band had the lowest, I was willing to have a slower healthier gradual weight loss as opposed to losing 100 pounds in six months and risk being sick all the time. I am not saying folks who get other procedures are sick all the time from losing weight too quickly, but the risk is high. I will share from my own personal experience with the lap band. First off, I lost about 15 on my pre op diet, my surgeon wanted me to lose 30 pounds this would have been either lap band or RNY. Secondly, I had some restriction early after my operation and quickly lost about 40 pounds in two months, the heavier you are starting out the band the quicker you lose weight. I followed my doctors post op diet plan, which was basically all the healthy foods I like anyway, I was not a burger king milkshake, fries type of obese person, so basically I have not changed my eating habits much. I like sweets, I still eat them, I have eaten sweets pretty much every week since I have had my lap band. I have lost over about 118 pounds since my surgery over 13 months ago. But the key for me is that I don't indulge every day and I exercise about 5 days per week (brisk walks about 30-45 minutes). Once the lap band is properly restricted it is very easy to stay on track because it reduces your intake and makes you feel full quick and I will tell you it is very hard to over eat on a tight band, without consequences. I would go with my gut, you are the one will have to live with the procedure not your doctor. I am over a year out from surgery, I am still obese, but not morbidy obese like I was when I started, I probably will get to my goal weight next year, so basically for those starting out over 300 pounds with the band it does takes longer to get the weight off as opposed to someone who typically gets gastric bypass. I am very pleased with my weight loss so far, I am still losing weight with my band there is no window of opportunity, I started out in size 26, now I am in a size 14/16, my goal size will be a size 12, (I am tall about 5'8, so I would not want to be too thin anyway) I will probably reach that in about 6 more months, (knock on wood) I have not been sick one day with my band, I feel better and look better and I can eat all the foods I ate prior to surgery, (the lap band can be adjusted to our own needs) I don't maintain my band too tight, just enough to eat small amounts to make me feel full. Once I get to goal weight I will probably remove a small amount of saline where I can eat more to maintain my weight loss. If I was more strict and did not eat sweets weekly I probably could be more close to my goal at this point. Good luck and all the best in what ever you choose... Naomi

Sure go onto the revision board here. Most of it is lapband to rny and rny to ds stuff like that... check it out

My eating habits scared me away from the band. Now i am looking at the vertical sleeve gastrectomy, it seems much better for a bulk eater like me.