Regretting Rny

Thanks for the responses that i have received. But my mind is set and i am going to have a reversal. It will be six months from now. I know everyone says it will get better. But i know me. This just wasn't for me. When i had the surgery i weighed 253lbs. Now i am at 225lbs and my doctor only wants me to lose 50 more lbs. So that must mean i was not that fat to have him perform that surgery on me. I was wearing a size 18 at the time of the surgery. And now that is not even important to me anymore. So thanks for the responses but this wasn't the right move for me. Good luck to everyone else and the very best. Because this is hard. I'm just new to this so i really don't know what else is in store. Sincerely Jackie

Hi Jackie, I am so sorry to hear that you regret having the RNY. You will be having the reversal in 6 months and within those 6 months, you may change your mind. Did you give this careful consideration before having this surgery. It looks like you did not think it was going to be as hard as it was. Also, you have no allowed your body to heal the proper amount of time, before saying you regretted having it. Keep your head up and maybe within those 6 months you will decide you did make the right decision. Christie -61 pounds 1/25/05

Jackie, kudos to you for knowing yourself. I don't disagree with some of the advice you got (although the advice from the pre-ops kind of puzzled me) .. but ultimately, only you know what you are going through. When it's not right, it's not right, be it today or six months or six years from now. Things will work out the way they should. I am keeping you in my thoughts. j

Jackie -- I wish you every happiness in whatever you decide. My only recommendation would be to seek some psychological help...not because of this reversal decision but because this whole thing could really mess you up long term. What concerns me is that if your ultimate goal was to only lose 75 lbs, this surgery was never for you and a GOOD doctor who specialized in WLS would have told you that (Most require at least 100 lbs overweight). Please be sure you have a GREAT doctor now, for the reversal...and I would think a great doctor would require psychological assistance. You're in my prayers. Dawn

HI, JACKIE , GUESS WHAT I FELT THE SAME WAY , BUT WHY GET A REVERSAL THE HARD PART WILL BE GONE AWAY IN ABOUT 6 TO 8 WEEKS OUT , ABOUT TIME YOU ARE SIX MONTHS OUT YOU WILL BE CLOSE TO NORMAL AND EATING UP EVERYTHING LIKE MOST OF US AT 6 MONTHS OUT .SO I KNOW YOU WILL NOT NEED A REVERSAL BECAUSE YOU WILL BE FINE IN A FEW WEEKS. I CRIED AND WAS MAD AT MYSELF AND WA*****HING THE WALL I WANTED TO EAT . I WAS GOING THROUGH FOOD WITHDRAWLS LIKE A DRUG ADDICT IN REHAB. I DID NOT REALIZE I WAS SO ADDICTED TO FOOD UNTIL I WAS NOT ABLE TO HAVE IT .BUT IT GETS BETTER.A REVERSAL IS MORE DANGEROUS THAN HAVING WLS.GOOD LUCK PLEASE KEEP IN TOUCH ,I PROMISE YOU READ MY PROFILE AND YOU WILL SEE I FELT THE SAME WAY.

Hey Jackie, I am not going to try to change your mind...But i do have a question though... Are you from Fort Dodge Kansas? I am from that area and was wondering if you were too. Marti

When I woke up I thought to myself "OH my GOD, I have altered myself forever". I wi**** had never got this way. I wish I never had to have taken this road...but Its here, and its nto going away. I dont ever want to go back to the life i had 2 months ago...thats when I had the surgury. I feel sick sometimes after I eat...but you know...food isnt that important to me ..living with my family is. I was nearing 300 lbs and had a BMI of 43...I am happy to say that I have lost 43lbs in 8 weeks...and am thrilled. It still sucks when everyone else is still eatting and I push my plate away and sit bored...so bored.. I sometime crave flavors but I am never hungry...the cravings never go away... Personally i would be scared to reverse mine...I wouldnt want to get like i was two months ago. I didnt even recognize my face in the mirror...I can see me now and my goals...I guess for me there is no other path... I dont think anyone will be completely thrilled with this...got to take vitamins forever...got to watch the size of the food on your plate, got to chew it carefully...and have to pay attention to your body... Its your body and I am sad that you regret this and will undergo more surgury. I also hope you do find your path to happiness...I hope one day you dont regret undoing this.....I know I would....and even people that had the worst time and hated the whole thing now are thankful to have a second chance at life and happiness....please keep us posted on your reversal process..it is after all part of the journey as well.

Jackie where do you live and have you found a doctor to do the reversal ...I have been looking I am in Arkansas but willing to travel God bless

Hey there Jackie, I fell the same way as you. I dont think that I would do the reversal but I kinda sorta regrete everything too! I love food and I crave it so bad. I love the way Im looking though. I just had the surgery about 2 weeks ago and I'm haveing a hard time with the protein stuff. I wish that the pain and cramps that I get would be over and I'm sure it will, but right now I'm not to happy with things. I want to eat sooo bad and when I drink water I'm already full. I too get bored because I can****ch T.V\movies with the family because they are all eating popcorn and I cant. I cook good meals for them and I hear them say" wow this is good" and yet I cant taste it. I just sit with my SF pops. And wish that I could It. I went from eating3,000 cal. a day to water.lol I mean I think God for the surgery, but I really did'nt think that it would be this HARD. Its really HARD. I do wish you the best girl, I know what your going thru. But Is there another reason you wanting the reversal? are you feeling sick or what? God Bless Rosie

Hi i'm glad someone finally felt the same way i do. The reason i want a reversal is because i feel nauseated most of the time and usually after i eat. I also will get pain and cramps and that can be from drinking a couple of sips of water. I just don't like the way i feel now. Before the sugery i felt good and i could eat with out pain. I could drink what ever i wanted. I want that back if i knew what i know now i defintely would have not had the surgery. To me being skinny i could careless. My husband loves me regardless. Jackie