I Regret Having RNY

Jackie, My name is Sophie and the 14th I will be 5 months out. I had open RNY, and I have to say, the first month I was wondering what in the HE** I had done. Here I am 4 months later, 107 pounds lighter and SO thankful I did it. It takes committment and determination and alot of trial and error. PLEASE email me and we can talk about the good and bad points. I will help you anyway I can. This is a life STYLE change, but it is for the better. I feel like I did in high school, and I so am glad that I did do it. There have been challanging times, but I had a hard time getting heavy, so getting thin and healthy shouldn't be any easier. It will be great..JUST WAIT! Being a loser is the best!!! 277/173/130

Jackie, it does not suprise me to hear this from you only being right at 30 days out. You SERIOUSLY need to reconsider. It normally takes a minimum of 6 to 8 weeks to even recover from the surgery. You are amidst ALOT of emotions right now coming down from the anesthesia, the emotional loss of food and obviously a lack of information going into surgery because you would have known, for the most part, what to expect. These feelings you are having are more normal than you will EVER know. Do you think we were all hunky dory at a month out? Not! I was nauseas for the first 6 to 8 weeks and many are, then one day you wake up and it's gone. Anyway, I don't go around telling folks they should have or need surgery but I DO tell them to wait before they think about a reversal. (early postops) We all contemplate this girl! The complication rate is 10 fold with a revision and the possibility of a death is even more prevalant during or after a reversal. You WILL eat normally Jackie if you will just give it time. I eat whatever I want for the most part and could probably eat anything if I let myself, unfortunately. My volume intake is that of a normal thin person and not very miniscule as you are dealing with right now or you may even still be on soft foods. You haven't even given the surgery a chance. How can you say this wasn't for you if you haven't put forth your best effort to work with it? I say this in a very caring way. Were you willing to work as hard with the surgery as you were to have the surgery? This is something you need to ask yourself. We all gave up on diets before WLS because it "just wasn't for me". Is this what you are doing again? Sending prayers your way for an informed decision and health. I think ultimately you would regret not putting your all into it and, ultimately giving up which is what you are doing. I am not trying to change your mind girl.....you just need to think about it and pray about it. Hugs... Erika

i was told by a friend they do sx. on your stomach not your brain. i went to a psychologist for food releted emotions and habbits. i had no idea i had an addiction to fodd he really helped. give it a shot. atleast ins should cover this untill you save up your money. best of luck. you will find another security blankett.

Jackie....the mourning of food will pass. It is like giving up cigarettes or alcohol...it's an addiction to eat too much food and find comfort in it...it is your life and you need tom decide how you live it...or not live. All I can tell you is that there is nothing out there that taste as good as being thinner and healthier. At 10 months out I eat whatever i want...just not much...and I am happy. I eat sugarfree/low fat ice cream on occassion...I eat lots of veggies and fruits....I eat 3 times a day and I feel like I have pigged out....on less than 1 1/2 cups of food a day...I no longer plan my day around when my meals are...if I forget a meal...I just have a protein drink at night...I try not to eat anything after 8PM....I was a night eater..I would eat 5-7 meals a day before surgery...I am so glad to not have that problem anymore. Down 111 and loving every minute....just 40 more to go. You have invested a lot into your future....give it time to work...no addiction is resolved overnight....see how you feel 6 months out and 100+ pounds lighter.... Good luck on whatever road you choose.

Hi there Jackie, I want to get on the band wagon here and try to talk you into giving this a little more time. I know how it feels since I am am nearly 2 months out. My date was 4-18-05. I was really wondering if the pain in the left side would get better and all the other little pains. Of course they wearn't little then. I asked my Doc. about it and he said "I would wake up one day and find it better" and I swear that's what happened. I told him he was crazy at that time but it did happen. I'm down 47 pounds in nearly 8 weeks and I feel and look a lot better. I remember how I felt physically and mentally prior to the surgery and Lord what a difference. I had plenty of days of second guessing and worry but I am much healthier than I have been in years. Every time I try to eat something that I have been warned against I regret eating it. I.E. a peice of bread, milk, even 1%, I know it should be skim, but I crave it. I crave a lot of things but I can't let my self down or even my family and friends. You can do this and I know you will feel better once you get used to hearing what your body is saying to you. Please join a support group, voice your concerns and worries. Esp. on this site. People lysten and that is a God send. I wish you the best and again, give your self more time. You'll be gratefull you did. Hugs, Karen R.

Hi jackie, Hope all is well and just wanted to check in on you. Are you still going ahead with the reversal or have you changed your mind? Whatever your decision I wish you a safe and speedy ending. Take care and god bless. Julie H