DON'T SUFFER IN SILENCE, PLEASE!!!!!

I RECEIVED THIS POST FROM ONE OF THE MEMBERS FROM MY ONLINE SUPPORT GROUP AND I FELT IT NECESSARY TO POST, BECAUSE THERE ARE MANY OF US SUFFERING SILENTLY, FOR FEAR OF BEING FLAMED OR TALKED DOWN TO. THIS SURGERY IS A MENTAL MOSTLY AND I JUST WANT YOU ALL TO KNOW THAT I LOVE YOU AND I AM HERE FOR YOU DAY OR NIGHT AND I MEAN THIS . ADRIENNE Hey all I just wanted to share so sad news with you .It is not me I am fine But one of the members of my cali support group killed her self this weekend.She was 4 years post op and miserable and like many turned to other things to fill the void of food.she was one of the most supportive people I know but none the less she needed more support than she gave. I will truly miss her .Family please lets stay focused on support both giving and receiving we really need to listen when people are telling us they are tierd not everyone is alike But we are all human and gods children so lets love each other in the name of jesus unconditionaly so if you are upset with someone close to you take the time out to call them and tell them you love them.I am going to sleep now I hoped I made since And last but not least I LOVE YOU ALL.Wasia PS I am not upset with no I just love Ya'll soooo much.

Lady A, I am so sorry for your friend. You are right if someone is having a problem, they need to talk it out rather than to do other things. Christie

Exactly, That is why i felt it was important to post it on this board, because it is a regret board, and although i have had my regrets,, I am not about to hurt myself, but there are some not as strong and I just want them to know that i am here for anybody who needs me. Adrienne

Lady A, that was a terrible thing to have happened. I will say a prayer for your friend tonight. i have often thought of the problems that may arise from having the surgery , and that is why we really need to be happy with ourselves even when we are big. God gives us the will to seek him and i will. thank you for your post. it will make me think and be thankful. Linda keene

Thanks Linda, I did not know her personally, but I felt the need for people who are suffering to know that there are people out there that care and I am one. Adrienne

Lady A, Those of us who are struggling through post WLS life do need to speak up. I know that I have quite often in the past just to be sent emails telling me that I should get help for depression or people telling me what I "need" to be doing. I was ready to strangle someone if I heard one more time how the surgery is just a tool and that I need to use the tool properly to make it work for me...they assumed that I wasn't doing that already. I also get quite a few emails from people who tell me that they are going through the same things as me and that they are glad to know they are not alone. I really am starting to believe that those of us who are struggling will only get true support from others dealing with the same stuff. When I see someone's profile and they are so proud that they are wearing a size four or six but they look so unhealthy I don't automatically assume that they are doing something wrong. Ok, sometimes I do think to myself "geez, she looks anorexic" but I would never dare assume anything. Sometimes I think some people are quite passive/agressive about it all. They seem to be offering support and advice but it often ends up seeming like they are assuming I am totally screwing up and that there is no way that WLS doesn't work the same for everyone. So yes, Lady A, we do all need to speak up and offer support because we truly do need each other to get through all this. I often go through profiles and message boards and try to email people who seem to be struggling a bit. Unfortunately, I believe that most of the people struggling do stay silent and eventually just disappear. I love the fact that you speak up often, you are the voice for many silenced because they feel like they have failed themselves. Keep it up! Debbie

I FEEL THE SAME WAY, I SPEAK UP FOR ME AND THOSE WHO ARE AFRAID OR ASHAMED TO. ADRIENNE