Any Regrets??

Thank you Nia! Becky who stillhasnotregrets! and LOVESLIFE!

THANKS FOR THAT WONDERFUL INSIGHT ON ME NIA, YOU NEED TO GO BACK AND READ MY PROFILE IN ITS ENTIRETY AND NOT SKIM THRU IT, BECAUSE HAD YOU READ IT THOROUGHLY, I CLEARLY ADMITTED THAT MY ISSUES WERE DEEP ROOTED AND THE LOSS OF THE ABILITY TO EAT CAUSED ME TO TURN TO OTHER ADDICTIONS. THANKS SO MUCH FOR YOUR ANALYSIS OF ME AND WHAT IS WRONG WITH ME, GO BACK AND READ AGAIN. THE FORTUNATE THING FOR YOU NEWER POST OPS IS THAT YOU ARE BEING FEED WAY MORE INFORMATION THAN I WAS WHEN I STARTED THIS RESEARCH, NOW THERE IS A WEALTH OF INFORMATION, BECAUSE SO MANY PEOPLE SUFFER FROM DEEP ROOTED ISSUES AND TRADED ON ADDICTION FOR ANOTHER. AGAIN, I CHALLENGE YOU TO READ MY ENTIRE PROFILE, BECAUSE I BELIEVE I STATED THAT THESE WERE MY OPINIONS AND MY FEELINGS ALONE, BUT IT DID NOT STOP MY NON PROFIT ORGANIZATION FROM DONATING OVER $25,000 LAST YEAR ALONE FOR PEOPLE WHO WANTED THIS SURGERY, WHO NEEDED MEDS, VITAMINS, CLOTHES, THERAPY ETC. MY FEELINGS HAVE NOT STOPPED ME FROM RAISING THE 13,000 FROM ONE FUNDRAISER THAT I HAVE HAD THIS YEAR AND THE 3 MORE I WILL HAVE BY YEAR END. SO YES THESE ARE MY OPINIONS AND I HAVE A RIGHT TO RESPOND TO PEOPLE WHO CHOOSE TO BE SO HARD ON ME, PRESENT COMPANY INCLUDED. THANKS DR OR WAS IT PHD, OR LCSW NIA

I may be late on posting but I think all of you guys are Right!!! But I too feel the way Lade A feels (sometimes) It is very hard for me to deal with all the protein and liquids and all. I guess I wasnt prepared for all the mental stuff. All I heard was good things from the surgery. I mean It is all good and I thank God for this new life,but I wished that I could've read a lot about the downs of the surgery so that maybe I could've thought twice about having it or just would've been better prepared. And this forum is for advise and encouragement,but also we need to hear the REAL TRUTH about everyones journey. Adn LADE A i think your doing a good job helping other people. All or you guys have different exp. and thats all GOOD. And thank You all for your wonderful stories. God Bless Rosie

Thank you!! We can have our own opinions and I am glad I am not the only one here that beleives that. Thank you Phat Diva cause I truly have not one regret in having this surgery. I am currently 60 pounds down and feeling great about life! Hope you are well. Becky

Adrienne: I am only two wks post op WLS 4/7/05. When I was released home two days after surgery. All I could think was "what have I done to myself". I just kept thinking I would have been happier fat. I suprisingly can eat solid foods now, but I chew them extremely well. I have not had any major problems yet, and truthfully if you asked me tomorrow would I want to change and go back and try and do it another way I would say. HELL YES PLEASE!!!!!!!!!! Tamika Harrell Wash, DC 11lbs 8 days post op

Tamika, Thanks so much for your response and your honesty. There are many people who will say they have no regrets and they really do, but they are not real enough to be honest. I get flamed daily about my honesty, but you know what, I will never stop being honest for no one and you never be dishonest to save face for anybody. Email me anytime and I am here for you if you want privately email me and I will send you my phone number. Adrienne

Lady A, Please keep it real that's exactly what people need. Step up anytime. I'm pre-op, and I need to hear the good, bad and the ugly. This surgery is a last resort and it "ain't" easy. I have a family member right now that had the surgery. Yeah, sister girl is in a size 8, but miserable. She never worked on her mind. She sits home on the weekends eating oreo cookes and crying. Her being fat was just a symptom to a larger problem. On the outside she looks fly, the bomb, a "dime peace" and crying on the inside. She denied that she had the WLS to everyone, so she's denying support from her family. I'm pre-op and read everything I can find on the issue. Making sure my husband is fully aware of what is about to happen. In addition, I have a good support system. All in all, I'm not sure how the outcome is going to be, but I'm educating myself and not looking at everything through rose colored glass. This is serious!! Thanks for the honesty, people don't want to hear the truth. THEY CAN'T HANDLE THE TRUTH!! My husbands always tells me, "baby, people don't want to hear the truth". Now, sum-ma-don-na and be nice, some people are so fragile (smile). Thanks!!

I know the truth hurts, but that is why i share the truth, because when I was having the issues I had, there was no one real enough to tell me the truth. I posted to the boards looking for help and telling people how bad things were going for mentally and i got beat down instead of helped. This is a wls regret forum and you should be able to speak your regrets without having to beat down for them. Adrienne

Adrienne, I too am pre-op and came into this forum to see what sorts of things people are dealing with post-op. I think this is a great idea but the one impression I am under in reading through this forum is that people are making it personal and pointing negative fingers. How is that support?? We need to be able to come to OH's website and post things free of fear from judgement. Each of us is going to have an individual experience with the possibilities of similarities and that is what makes us stand strong together. Why should this forum turn into a place for backbiting and fighting?? That is just the impression I have gotten on my first visit to this site. I wish you all well and will keep you all in my prayers that for those of you who do have regrets you will be able to work through them and get to a place where you are happy with your decision to have WLS. In love, Pam G

I can appreciate and respect your response. This all stemmed from a post a made awhile back speaking of my regrets at the time. I was going through alot and I had like 150 responses and people were beating me down like crazy. Then there was one lady that addressed a post to me, beating me down yet again she was pre op. I have not heard from here since I responded to her. If you want to know all about me and my journey then by all means read my profile. I am not just a bitter person, I was really hurting and I came to a place that I thought I could vent. This particular poster of this here post was the main one that beat me down like crap and she too was pre op, but I have not heard from her either since her surgery. So I said all of that to say this. You should never as a Pre op tell a post op how or what they should feel, because until you become post op you can not fathom what you will go through and you will go through things at one point and time and anyone that has said they have never had a regret at anytime is a LIAR. Even if the regret was when they woke from surgery in pain like hell, believe me they said to themselves, what have I done to myself, I should not have done this. Maybe later on they will be fine and have no regrets and that is great, but at one time or another there will be some form of something, but only the BOLD dare to TELL. Thanks and much luck and success to you... Adrienne