Expect regrets? What SHOULD I expect?

I was going to do it.I had my surgery date and everything done,until I read your profile and researched more on the roux-en-y Procedure. I have read plenty of regrets and the memorial page and I have done the research and I have concluded that there is not enough Information on the well being of patients after a ten year period."thats scarey"! The roux-en-y procedure is a study in progress I think, and who knows how your body will function after 10,20 years?Or if you will even live to see it! I have a husband and a son I love dearly and to think I almost jeperdized that?"makes me think I need therapy". So,I am not going to sell my soul to the devil to be thin!!!! For those of you that it is a life or death decision?I wish them well and I mean no harm by this it is just my opinion and I am not a doctor I know.

I wanna thank you guys so much for all of the compliments.. It gave me a much needed boost!! lol.. I was actually blushing. So again, thank you. And thanks to those *****sponded and filled me in on what I should look forward to, I really appreciate it. I didn't want to go into this one-sided and wake up with the big shock - ya know, OUCH I'm in freakin' pain, and oh look, I can't eat this much or I puke! lol.. That sort of thing. I need to psych myself up for this or I'm afraid I'll meet with alot of dissapointment, so thats why I came here asking these questions and obviously on behalf of many fellow pre-op patients. Unfortunantly, I can't have laproscoptic surgery because of my insurance. It claims that there haven't been enough conclusive studies about it..it's fairly new, and they can't support something that hasn't been thoroughly looked through. So I just plan to have the open bypass, and cross my fingers. It bites that I'll be spending so much time out of school during my senior year, but this surgery will change the rest of my life (hopefully, for the better!) so I can't make much of a fuss. Besides, there was already one girl at my school last year who had the procedure...and she had GREAT results, and still did well in school. Anyways..thank you SO much, to everyone, for everything!

Oh.. about the laproscoptic; that's the surgery that I was initially looking forward to having, since it has such minimal down time..but like I said, insurance doesn't cover it. (big bummer!) About the Lap-Band, I considered that, and read about it. I'm not COMPLETELY sure about which procedure that my doctor will be performing. Thursday we decide on a surgery date, and I'll be able to follow up then!

Good luck sweetie -- you will have great success no matter which surgery you chose!

Hello Again Brandy, I totally respect what the other posters wrote to you, but I really disagree. You are beautiful and young and if your doctor and you feel you should have rny, then by all means don't question it or think of changing to lap band. I realize they are just thinking of your tender age and the (sometimes) harshness of gastric bypass. I really wish at your age I was given this chance. I would have jumped at it in a second and I wouldn't have even cared if I had to repeat my senior year! With this surgery at your age you will most likely be able to live a long, healthy, and "normal" life while avoiding the roadblocks most of us obese people face in daily adult life. You have already dealt with enough of that during childhood and early adulthood! As far as your surgery being open, from what I understand you will experience a longer hospital stay and a longer recovery. There is more of a chance of infection. Since I am pre-op as well I really can't tell you much more. I am supposed to be Lap, but they are not sure with my stomach. So, at least you know what you are waking up to! That is one good thing! Good luck Brandy! Keep us posted!

Thank you very much.. I was wondering if -everyone- was thinking the same thing. I might be young, but I've had my fair share of pain so I think I'll be able to get through the surgery just fine...lap or rny! But you're right about the hospital stay and things... thank you.

Good gracious, I am not sure what I would have done if this was available when I was your age. i do not think I was mature enough then to get through this, I am not sure I am mature enough NOW to get through this, lol. But alas, it is done, and I need to learn to like it. So far I have had no complications to speak of but it is difficult to learn to eat just a little, or you WILL throw up. Social eating is O U T of the question for a while that is for sure and I highly recommend you start NOW figuring out what you are going to do with the time you have now that you won't be eating. It is hard, I still find myself wanting to eat out of habit, not hunger. Oh man, it is difficult. But you know what? The first 51 years of my life as a fat person were even more difficult. You go for it girl, and when it is all said and done, you just come back here to these boards for the pep talk and support that you need. Good Luck, June

Thank you for your honesty about eating! Some people on here are like, "Oh, it isn't all that bad..You just have to feel out your limits and you'll be okay." I'll probably be like you..wanting to eat purely out of habit instead of hunger, and I'll have a few meetings with Mr. Toilet before I figure out that I cannot revert to the same habits again. Thanks again, I really appreciated your post!

Brandy .. I see where you have a surgery date now so I offer my CONGRATS! I also want to compliment you on having the foresight to post on this particular forum and discuss possible downsides and regrets. That, more than anything else, indicates to me that you will be a raging success. Good luck! J

I thought that I would add just a few more items to the expectation list that was posted earlier. I too had my surgery about 5 1/2 months ago and am feeling fine - well, make that great. This was one of the best things that I have ever done - but it does come with ups and down. Expect to have days where you just don't want to eat anything - but you must. Expect to get a to a point - especially at the beginning - where you are basically bored with food. Expect to look at a smaller pair of pants and not believe that you will fit in them - and you do. Expect to dump even if you are being careful with your food choice. Expect over time to be able to change your relationship with food. Expect it to be a bit hard the first couple of months to learn to get in all your water, vitamins, protein supps and everything else that is required of us. Expect to look in the mirror and not recognize yourself one day. Expect to look in the mirror another day and actually believe that you are beautiful and begin to love yourself again. Good luck on your journey and may God bless.