Let me keep it real

wow glad I just saw this. I'm a sowwy massa maybe dis how I should be talkin! I'm an attorney, writing is what we do, vocabulary is my craft. I am a poet, I find nuance in words to be important. I do not write "down" to my audience because I would never denigrate anyone by assuming they can't appreciate my diction. My apologies if it was a tad reaching for you.

Apologies for what? It is obvious that you are not reading her post correctly, did you see where she said to me about street corners and that I give Black Woman a BAD name, so what the HELL is it that I said to warrant that. I never made this a BLACK and WHITE issue, she DID. You need to go back and read all of her threads and see what nasty things she said to me, calling me a CRACKPOT and saying I am crazy. What are you not able to comprehend that at not one time that I never said a bad word to her but she jumped out of the BOX attacking me. I started my research back in 1999 and that was when you rarely if ever heard of this procedure and NOTHING and I do mean NOTHING stated that it was a REQUIREMENT to EXERCISE to be SUCCESSFUL and I know this to be true for a FACT my husband has lost 127 pounds in 4 months and eats and drinks what the HELL he wants and does not EXERCISE, so it is OBVIOUS that this is not a REQUIREMENT. Now days the Surgeons are stressing EXERCISE, but when I started my RESEARCH they were not and I COULD CARE LESS WHAT YOU OR THE OTHER HATER THINKS, I KNOW WHAT I READ. So if you are waiting for an APOLOGY for me expressing my PERSONAL ISSUES, Please and I do mean Please HOLD YOUR BREATH!!!!! Adrienne

Freedom of SPEECH goes both ways hun. For starters...IF ANYONE has bothered ready what I said I never ....NEVER LADY A..CONDEMED YOU FOR HAVING AN OPINION..but LIKE YOU I HAVE MINE..AND I AM GONNA STATE IT. BLACK AND WHITE...I AM SO SICK OF THAT ISSUE. EVERYTIME SOMEONE SAYS SOMETHING OUT OF THE WAY IT AUTOAMTICALLY BECOMES A BLACK AND WHITE ISSUE. PERSONALLY I JUST THINK YOU ARE LOOKING FOR A REASON BELLYACH. AS FAR AS HOLDING MY BREATHE....I WOULD NOT WANT TO DISSAPOINT YOUR BUTT>>>>> BUT YOU CAN KISS MINE THAT IS FOR SURE! SO KEEP THINKING YOU ARE SEATING IT REAL. I AM GOING BACK TO THE REAL WORLD WHERE LIFE IS REAL... BTW...I WAS RESEACHING THIS IN 1999...BEEN RESEARCHIGN THIS FOR A VERY LONG TIME...SO DONT PROCEEDE TO PREACH AT ME. OH GEEZ BUT SINCE YOU HUSBAND IS THE NO IT ALL OF WLS THEN LETS ALL JUST GO AND SEE HIM ABOUT IT HUH..I THINK NOT. AND FOR PETES SAKE....YOU ARE AGAINST EXERCISE PERIOD>.....BUT YOU ARE REFFEREING PEOPLE TO YOUR DOCTOR.....YOU MAKE NO SINCE WOMAN. I FEEL FOR THOSE THAT ACTUALLY FOLLOW YOUR PATH. THIS HAS GONE ON WAY TO FAR. YOU CAN SIT HERE AND KEEP INSTIGATING THIS IS ONE THAT WANT BE HOLDING HER BREATH TO HERE FROM YOU..BUT PLEASE FEEL FREE TO HOLD YOUR BREATHE THINKING I WILL IN THE PROCESS.

Nothing you said made since, Nothing. I never said my husband was the know it all of WLS, my husband has nothing to do with this. The problem is you are upset because you want this surgery and for some reason you can not have the surgery and you are angry with me because I had the surgery and am not pleased with my results. I understand that you read what you want and go from there, because you have not comprehended a thing I said, because if you had you would not be saying the things you say. As far as the Black and White thing it was created by Keri with her statement about the Sistah, who else could she have been referring to? I am sure not Lilly WHite. At anyrate, I understand your frustration, you are upset because you would give anything to have lost what I have and you are mad at me for speaking about a truth you so badly want to experience and I understand and I can not say I blame you. Adrienne

You dont udnerstand cause you chose not too.. I reffer your husband cause it seems to me that you are UPSET at him in some off ball way that because he lost 127 lb.....why cant you. Everyone has different losses. And hun...dont chose to know me cause you dont. Dont by know me ans mistake me for someone that thinks you give a dam. I by know means are upset that I have not had the surgery and you have. I lead my road down the right path and DO KNOW WHAT IS COMING..unlike you and your reasearch apparently. God helps me every step. Sistah.....I call my friends Sistahhhhsss..black and white. Words are too controversial these day to the fact that people use them and abuse them to there meanings. As for this post. It has lost its meaning... Oh and BTW..You seem to have this obsession that I am angry at you cause I want what you have went through??? BBBBWWHHAHAAHAHAHHHAHAAHAHA Funny...I dont think so hun. I have yet to see any truth about what you have directly spoke about as far as your issues.

Let me say this to you, I love my Husband with all of my being, i will Hurt A B***H about him, i am in no way mad at him, because for one he does what I do not and he is a man and they loose faster, and regardless of what you say, you are MAD, because you DO want WHAT I HAVE AND YOU CAN NOT GET....... Adrienne

I agree I didn't have surgery to weigh 330lbs. It bothers me a lot to know that my goal weight will still technically qualify me for WLS. But I have no idea if I will ever get close to that. I have permanently changed my body to find out now that I have a condition which my body produces abnormal amounts of fat and stores in my abdomen and legs. Sure I am glad that I have lost 130lbs, but in 16 months, that is not what I expected and I do exercise, I enjoy it. To my surprise I have worked myself up to being able to do 30 minutes on the eliptical and walked a 5k this past Spring. But is this it...330lb...barely fitting into a size 30 jean. I never expected to be able to weigh 120 like that stupid chart says I should, but I at least wanted to be closer to a normal weight than I am now.

Hi Sarah, Thanks for your response, you can definately relate to my issue here. the sad thing is this is a regret forum, yet you still get flamed for your personal feelings The funniest thing is, one of the angriest posters is still PRE OP. Now I am not saying that Pre ops do not know anything, but they can NEVER relate to a DARN thing until they have had the Surgery and have walked at least a half a mile in the steps of a POST OP. Adrienne

Hey There Lady A, I just wanted to jump in & say i agree with u 100% NOBODY knows jack about it untill they do walk in our shoes... They have this forum but heaven forbid u SPEAK your mind, everyone is all SOOO READY to pounce on u for giving an opinion they ALL need to remember this is AMERICA !!!!!!!! remember freedom of SPEECH !!!!! Deb

Thank you Deb, After reading the profiles of some, I understand their anger now, but what I do not understand is, if you are having trouble getting approved, why would you come to a WLS Regret Forum when you already know that you are Angry? Adrienne