Let me keep it real

this is the post AW it was posted specifically to a very derisive post on a different thread it was not directed at Bull but at the same time some does apply to all the negative attacks you have recieved. "ignorance is not always bliss." Well you certainly exercised it in copious amounts, what if I told you that she was one of the most supportive people on this website? What if I told you she was being honest about her decision and problems with WLS? What if I told you she had an outpouring of emotion in an effort to generate support? Would you still be so derisive? So ascerbic? Does it make you feel better to use ad hominem and admonishment rather than actually exercise even a de minimus amount of concern? Swing by the BAF boards and you'll find that her reputation is one of a selfless individual who is facing the reality that she was not fully prepared for something she thought she was prepared for. I happen to know as a fact she frequented these boards prior to her surgery (as I happened to meet her on these boards at that time) and she did rely heavily upon what was garnered here. Perhaps had there been a post like the one she made she would have been that much more informed. Ever consider that her post may potentially serve a valid purpose? Even if its no moreso than to warn that it is not "magic bullet" that frustrations will be apparent, that patterns must change. Do you and your notions of impuning someones character include benefit that may result? Or are you content in just offering a few lines of non supportive malicious text? This board is about support. The woman was obviously in pain, obviously suffering angst anger and regret and you lampoon her. What does that say to the pre-op who may actually benefit from hearing about her situation, or the post op who may concur with her sentiments? The greater question may be what does it say about you? That your idea of posting on a support board is to ridicule someone elses suffering. To be so self-righteous in your denigration that you use some hackneyed and trite cliche to capture your disgust. Where is the sense of community in that? P Presumptively we are all morbidly obese, we all suffer a similar set of hurdles, many of us are willing to risk our lives to undergo a change to free us from this suffering. Why then see one of us in pain and instead of offering words of comfort or at a minimum constructive criticism would you launch into attack. I do hope that we as a community do better by one another that this. So an honest question, where or what was supportive about any of the comments that were made? I really am curious.

Thanks for the support Tphil, I am so happy that at least someone on here knows my heart. Adrienne

Not surprising at all...I figured he was the one behind it.... That person runs it mouth...but doesnt want anyone to see his remarks....how hypocritcal can you get I swear!

don't think you were referring to me but just in case, I didn't have that post removed, had that been my intention I would not have linked to it, I would have simply pasted my text to begin with, but like I said don't think that was aimed at me.

I read Bulls profile and I understand her anger now. However it does not change the fact that she was rude, but I forgive her because I understand her now. That is why I did the right thing and apologized for my part in any negativity. Also you have be taken for being my husband because of your response. Adrienne

Wen is a good lookin guy I could do worse but if they'd seen how we first met and fought they might know better, miss ya babe.

Thanks Tphil, You are so right if they saw that they would really have something to say I miss ya too. Adrienne

Oh gawd you two get a room for pettes sake.

Seriously do you live for ad hominem? Is it your purpose in life to draw attention to yourself or to be derisive. I had not spoken to AW for over 4 months likely more, we initially met over a disagreement (I was vocally supportive of someone who made some controversial comments) and became very close via email subsequent to agreeing to disagree. But your continued snide remarks are neither witty, conducive to a positive atmospher or contributorily positive. I have made insult nor comment of malice towards you. It would be appreciated if you could exercise some degree of decorum and stop with the childish antics, you write well. That indicates to me a degree that you are a bright lady, if only you would desist with the facetiousness your contibution might amount to something worthy of being called support.

What's with all the intellectual verbage? Did you use your "word-for-the-day calendar or your word processor thesarus? Maybe you should consider "getting real."