Let me keep it real

Hey Cassandra, Thanks for the great response. I stopped going to my support groups a long time ago because, I got so tired of hearing all the glitz and glamour and I also wanted to be able to speak my mind without being picked over doing the question and answer session. I wanted to ask real hardcore questions I found myself being picked over. Let me say this I love my Surgeon and I think he is excellent that is why I have recommended so many people to him. I can respect that this is a buisness for them and in their Support Group meetings they can not have someone in there that is going to possibly scare away perspective clients. I can understand this. So I choose to vent here and on my own online support group called Obese No More on Yahoo Groups. Adrienne

I am WITH YOU ON THE EXERCISE! OMG...I HATE to exercise! I am only 7 weeks out, but with all the research I did, I know that it should be required to see a psychologist not only just once before your surgery, but for SOME TIME after! The "head hunger" and dealing with the reasons you eat too much BEFORE the surgery is not gonna just "disappear" afterwards! At least I had no delusions about that one! I KNOW I'm gonna need help with the head!! And while I'd like to GET exercise...I hate DOING exercise. However, I am looking into a belly dancing class!!! (And the ones that take it are no small potatos people!) At least it would be fun and I'd burn a calorie or two. Ya know....I think you ought to start your OWN support group. Not the one sponsored by your surgeon or the Bariatric group...just your own...for your home town!! I'm gonna do that here in my small town in CA. Just contact Monica Ganz at OH by email (you can find her profile here by searching under "peers") and she can give you some tips on starting your own group! I'm going to be working with her to get mine started! Best of luck to ya' and keep on keepin' it real!! You rock! Debbie "Stagedoor"

i like that Belly dancing Idea. I really think that sounds fun. Thanks for your response I do appreciate it and I do go to a Therapist. Adrienne

OK let me keep it real. I have no idea how it is in California but where I am from everyone told me that it was a LIFESTYLE change and exercise would be a part of it. It sounds to me like you just wanted a magical tool to stop you from eating and the pounds would melt off. If you researched this as much as you say you did you would have seen that exercise is important and that it is a TOOL not a magic solution. For that matter, anyone who just wants WLS to make them stop eating needs to get to the root of why they eat and if they are ready to make a serious commitment to be healthy, including exercise and choosing healthy foods. You seem to me to have little to no self control and you are mad because surgery didn't do what you can't. You have still lost and if you had committed more to it would probably lose more. I imagine the reason that the doctors don't want you speaking out in group is that you are seriously uninformed and you are not an example of WLS not working for you. You are an example of someone who didn't care enough to fully make the tool work. BTW I weighed 300 when I had my surgery May 11. I am now 225 and committed to working with a personal trainer. I also am committed to eating right and doing what I need to do to stay healthy and to reach my goal. Maybe if you felt the same way you would be happier.

First of all I do noy live in California, second of all you do not know anything about me, and yes, I am mad and i have been researching this since 1999 and I could care less what you think, I know how it is for me and I m not the only one that feels this way, that is GREAT if it has worked good for you, NONE of the research I did expressed exercise and if I wanna be mad that is MY CHOICE, who are you to lecture me, Even though I am not happy with my results does not mean that I am not HAPPY for OTHERS my husband included who it is working for. You BETTER CHECK YOURSELF before you come calling yourself correcting ME. I AM BOLD AND HONESt enough to say that my research did not give me what I NEEDEDED.For real to HELL with you. I said what I meant and I mean what I say. You do not know me, you do not know what I have been thru, I said that it is not working for ME, I even admitted my FAULTS do not try and lecture me, everybody is different. this is a WLS REGRET FORUM. Remember we were all FAT ASSES with PROBLEMS, that is why we had SURGERY INCLUDING YOUR PERFECT ASS!!!!!!! Adrienne

I'm so glad to be reading your opinions rather good or bad. i don't want to hear only the good things. I'm pre-op right now waiting for my orientation date and consult with the surgeon. The person who stated they only needed to lose 3% be thankful, with Kaiser in CA it's 10%. I was talked to about the exercising part by the dietician. I'm cool with that because it help with my diabetes and cholesterol. But I must admit, If I had my choice I wouldn't. Sometimes it's hard to get motivated and do exercise. I only do walking. Keep keeping it real. I'm feeling you! Von

Hi Shevon, I appreciate your response, sometimes with this surgery, well I should say most times with this surgery, if you say anything other than whats in the textbooks you get bashed, the poster previous to you had no reason to be so angry with me for expressing my views and what has happened to me, but most people would rather be lied to than told the truth. I am going to keep it real no matter what others think. Adrienne

In the support groups did they more so concentrate on the good parts instead of the bad? I read about you talking about your husband having the surgery and doing great with it. Is he doing something differently or just having better luck? I hope it gets better for you. I know when one has a thought of how things are going to be and it isn't it's so disappointing. I think the support comes when someone tries to understand what you are feeling instead of saying what you should be feeling. Von

Hey Shevon, Thanks again for your response. Let me tell you about my husband,he had way more to loose than me so he had the Distal which causes a more rapid weight loss and the fact that he is a man and men loose faster. My husband eats and drinks what he wants, has never watched a THANG he ATE. I lie to you not, he does no****ch CARBS or SUGAR and he does what and eats what he wants and looses like crazy. Now we can contribute that to him being a MAN and the fact he is under LESS STRESS and has no HORMONES. As far as the support groups, they only wanna hear the positive, I rarely if ever spoke out in those groups because I saw how they tried to avoid the people who were very VOCAL and wanted to tell the downside of this. I can understand, these support groups are funded and organized by the Surgeons, this is a Buisness for them and they can not afford to allow people to come in with real issues and cloud the vision and perception of perspective clients, so I can fully understand why they limit the comments to basically the GOOD and GLAMOROUS, I can not fault them for that. On another note, I read thousands and I do me thoudsands of profiles and most of them have been loaded with glitz and glamour and the profile is the one place where you can and should speak frankly. Let me tell you, I will be the first to say I have faults and because I know I am imperfect that is why I still encourage people to go thru with the surgery because everyone is different and i have also refferred 10 people to my surgeon, 8 of which have had surgery already, so you see, I am not dead set against it, I just only speak of what happens to me and how this surgery has affected me, that is why I can not understand anyone sending me such horrible messages, because I still support the surgery 100% I just express how it has affected me. Adrienne

What is distal? I'm not familiar with the different surgeries. Going into these different sites I'm starting to learn. Like I'm reading responses about the lap band. Von