Let me keep it real

Hey there, I didnt mean this as an attack, it's just some don't realize we are all in jeapordy if we keep gaining weight. I know that you are tall and even at 250, you wouldn't be satisfided with that weight. No one would. But I am here for you and I don't knock you or kick you. I, like some of the rest, just wish we could say something to make you feel proud and good about yourself. For one, anyone who takes the courage to get any surgery to lose weight, I admire you. And to lose, even if you don't reach your goal, I admire you. you have strenth and beauty all in side of you that I know will come on out. You don't have to be a model to be beautiful. I've read some of your post here and I see the beauty shining through. Keep smiling girl, it's a break through. Dont' kick yourself cause already you've done something that many of us who don't have the surgery admires. You are brave, and kind hearted, and you will go far. Best wishes, and I'm here for you anytime. Lydia

I apologize for jumping to the defense. i have tried probably more than I should have to make the doubters understand the reason for my post until i guess I am a little up tight. Thanks for your support and words of comfort. Adrienne

I just got through with your profile and I am fixing to email you .. because you have no idea the burden you have lifted off of me. Jeanie

Ok, I think I have received your email. Adrienne

hi lady a, thank you so much for keepin it real.... your profile is nice. i am new to researching in this forum ( under the regrets) but im a bit unclear of what you are regreting. are you upset with your slow pace or weight loss? or how the procedure have made you feel? and what precisely are you feeling? are you waking up hungry and upset or just sick or what? im still in the waiting for a date process but my mind is made up of having the surgery. it seems like i am having the same feelings you are having now after and im having them before. i truly appreciate being able to speak to someone being truthful in this forum. eventhough you do not go to groups your words of wisdom is appreciative here in the forum.

Hi, I see that you live right in the area I live in. i also live in Edgewood. I do not go to support groups because they want Optimist and i am a realist. i am going to give it to you straight, I am going to tell you about good days and bad, I am going to tell you when I eat anything other than what the Protocol suggest, I am just going to keep it real. I have gone from a 32 to a 16 so I know that I am loosing it is just that after 2 years of research and over 1000 profiles I am so upset that I did not get the real picture of what this journey is like. You will get so many people that will lie and sugar coat this and say all is good and just tell you minor things like the dumping and vomiting, neither of which I fell victim to, but you will rarely see anyone that will tell you about the mental stuff you go thru. that is very vital, this has been more mental for me than anything and it is hard. Very hard, I still encourage and support peoples decesion I just let them know how I feel. Like my husband he has lost 127 pounds and has none of the issues I have, but I still support him and encourage him and tell him how proud I am of him. So you see it works good for some but not all. By the way, who is your surgeon? Adrienne

i agree lady i had surgery july 8 2003 i have lost 160 pounds but i have stopped losing and still need to loose 150 more for my goal i started out at 500 or more yes i am pleased with this but would like to get to my goal and at 328 pounds now its hard to walk much less go to the gym. and sometimes i feel like the people at my support group that started out less than me right now dont even have a clue about what im dealing with .i hope you will soon get the results we all are looking for .angel h

I am sure one day we will be posting that we made it to goal. Adrienne

Dear Adrienne- So glad to see your post. This surgery has not been what it was talked up to be, at least not for me. I was 248 pounds in Nov 2003 when I had my surgery, at 8 months out I weigh 174. It has been a full time job trying to get this weight off, and now I have almost given up. I have been at this weight for almost 2 months. I was in the chat forum not to long ago and a gal said to me "is that all you have lost in 8 months?" I could have choked her for such an insensitive statement. I excercise and I hate it, I watch what I eat and still the weight loss is so slow. I also got a wound infection called MRSA, which will be with me for life. My Doctor says I am out eating the surgery, but I know I am not. No one seems to want to talk to you when you are a WLS failure, they only want to hear the good things. Thanks for your post. Robin

This is so true, because everbody wants to tell you what and how you should feel and that just ****** me off. Adrienne