Let me keep it real

Thank you Mendi, I certainly appreciate your response and mostly thanks for being honest. Adrienne

shoeeeeeee I need a cigarette Hope all is well,Love Brittany.

Me TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO Adrienne

for those who don't want to argue only: i had my lap band in may and i was told to my face by my doctor in front of my husband that i would loose 100 pounds in one year exercise or no exercise reguardless of what i ate because this doctor is so successful. when i started i weighed 239 and i am 5"2. it has been 4 months and i did exercise at curves 3 or 4 days a week and now i weigh 222. i feel lied to and ripped off and i feel i went through a whole lot of pain and agony and money for nothing.. people at work don't even think i had the surgery. i should have lost at least 40 pounds by now, right??? i have canceled my gym membership because what's the point. i never would have thought this could happen, i drink a 40 gram protien drink every morning and drink enough water. i feel like a failure. but the worst part is i can't eat. i went to eat at my son's school and i got down half a steak finger, 2 green beans and two bites of mashed potatoes. their teacher was making them eat their food and they were looking at me like i was a freak. and the whole time i am fighting pb'ing in front of them. and we don't eat out anymore because i'm afraid to and its just too much trouble to eat in public anymore. i'm really regretting this and the doctor is blaming me for the slow weight loss and trying to keep my band so full i couldn't swollow water and went in for an un-fill and he said no i needed a fill. i guess he doesn't want a bad record, so he's going to make me loose it any way he can. to hell with my mental state or my health please answer me keepin it real

Hi Lisa, I understand what you are going through and people think that I am lying when I say that none of the research that I did said I had to exercise to make this work. I see now that I was not the only one that was told this. Adrienne

Hi, Lisa -- Can you find another Dr.? He is delusional when he tells you that you will lose regardless of eating or exercise habits. If he wants to fill you when you can't even swallow water......????? 40 grams of liquid protein isn't enough, especially when you aren't able to consume sufficient calories or other solid proteins throughout the day. I hope you get the help you need. It can't be heathy and that isn't what you signed on for! Good luck!

Your band is too tight and your doctor is a *&&^&$^#!! Tell that sorry s.o.b. that if he doesn't unfill you SOME, not all, and you get sick or something WORSE, he will be facing a lawsuit!! Then I'd be looking for another surgeon anyways!! In spite of the fact that doctors in other countries are considered low on the rung of doctors, from what I've read most of them, expecially the mexican doctors, are more humane and helping. For some reason doctors in the USA have to take this 'I am God and the patient has no sense' class. Not all, but most. From reading posts from people that go to Mexico for surgeries and treatments, they are actually doing better in most cases. You hear horror stories about Mexican doctors bu****ch shows like 20/20 and read magazines like Readers Digest and you read that about 180,000 people in the US die due to something the doctor did wrong. As for the doctor wanting a good record and making you loose anyway he can, how will he feel when you end up in the hospital for malnutrition?? Call his sorry butt Monday and DEMAND a small unfill or else you'll contact a lawyer. Then I'd still be looking for another doctor on this. Someone else on the Lapband board had the same problem, a doctor not wanting to undo a fill but after a scene ensued, he removed a small amount and the lapbander is doing so much better. I hope this helps! Good luck

Adrienne - Sorry to see that you spent so much time researching but missed such a vital part of a healthy lifestyle -- exercise. Perhaps in 1999, when everything was new, researchers didn't place the value on exercise they do now. Although you may not be happy with your current results, do you feel better (physically, not mentally)? Are you able to do things you weren't before? You clearly are fitting into smaller clothing -- does that make you happy? I agree that all overweight people (barring a true physiological condition) have mental issues that need to be addressed. If they aren't NO WLS will help them long-term. If you feel hormones play a role, contact your PCP for some testing and possible follow-up meds. Finding a Dr. who specializes in eating disorders shouldn't be difficult - contact your local mental health board, nutrition dept. @ a local university, etc. You are entitled to voice your opinion, and I think it is important for people to know all aspects before ANY surgery. However, if you want to start losing and gain a different perspective, you may have to do some work that involves MENTAL exercise. I don't mean that as a personal slight. I believe EVERY WLS patient should be required to follow-up w/ a psychologist for at least 6 mos. post-surgery. There are many roadblocks people will encounter that could be allieviated by a trained professional.

Thank you Elizabeth, I really appreciate and respect your opinion and I will keep looking for a therapist that understands. Your response was welcomed. Adrienne

Hello Lady, WOW... I was so surprised to see that this post went so far down hill, so fast. I am still Pre-op and waiting to get my date but I understand what you are talking about. 5 years ago I did all the research for the RNY and was 5 days from surgery when it was canceled because of my anemia. My Dr then told me that if I do nothing and just sit on my butt I would lose 100lbs which at the time would have put me at about 220 but if I got up and started moving I could lose 150. When you are 320lbs and have been there for a while and have health issues, losing 100# sounds good and you don't have to break a sweat. Also at that time I would hear about people having to have a psych eval but neither my Dr or insurance required it so I was happy. And true back then most of the post you read were just about how much weight people had lost and how fast. Now my Dr not only requires a psych eval but it takes 3 hours and to top that off you meet with a Physical Therapist to show you how to get started with exercise as simple as walking and some stretching and how to start to build it up. I have started this now, not knowing when my date is but I want to be ready. I have been warned that my mental health will go for a roller coaster ride and I don't know if there is any way to prepare for that but it sounds to me that that is what you are going through so I hope that you find that using this site helps you if for nothing more than a place to express what you are feeling, when you are feeling it and to let it go. If you ever need to talk I am here and if you email me I will give you my IM addy so we can talk. Take care. M.