Let me keep it real

Let me say Publicly, that I apoligize to you for anything negative I have said to you. I read your profile and I understand why you are angry with me. Understand I am not apologizing for the things I have said that concern me, but I am apologizing for feeding into your opinion in a negative way. Everyone has a right to an opinion and I should have known there was more to your story that is why you were so upset with me. I will tell you this, I wish you luck on getting approved for surgery and starting your own family. I mean this from the bottom of my heart. Contrary to popular belief, I really am not a bad person and I feel for you and your situation. Adrienne

You know what. I am woman enough to accept your apology, that is if it is meant for me. Since you want to pretend you know so much about "why" I am angry.....let me jsut fill you in. I am ANGRY that someone that is fortunate enough to have this surgery and lose weight dont see thatlosing that weight is a blessing. You made it through the surgery......YIPPIE..HOORRAAYY...You came out of it with some weight lose slowly but surely. WOOHOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO I AM ALIVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE. But instead you want to turn it into a negative outcry just because you say you never seen that exercise after weight loss surgery is nessesary inorder to help lose the weight. Since day ONE....doc. have unfortunalty spoken that nasty word exercise. NOONE wants to exercise......I am the first one to tell you. I hate it. But as with the rest of reality...life goes on. I realize you are only gonna beleive what you want about it though. Never said that you were a bad person Lady A....just some of your post seem way tooo controversial to me. You have taken a few statements that I have saw wayyy out of context just because you didnt like what that person had to say. Besides what you just dont realize is that what has happened here ha**** a few others real hard and stupid , ignorant words and name callin have past. I am not saying that they came from you, cause I am not talking about myself....this is coming from a few other people that emailed me and told me about it. So...I imply to you, if you are not the bad person that you say you are not ...how about ask these people to drop there "NEGATIVITY...and ignorance"

Point taken, however you said exactly what I said you were angry about. You in no way can understand what it is like for a Post op to go through this surgery and the outcome be anything less than what they expect. You have great expectations for this surgery, you have educated yourself fully and that is great, but weither it hurts or not I am not going to stop telling people how it has affected me. When you have surgery and I pray that you do, I hope that it is everything and more for you that you want, because honey when the reality hits that it is nothing like you think, Knowledge and all it is hell. Anyone that comes to a WLS Regret Forum and expects things to be peachy creamy and they are Pre op trying to get approved should put on a suit of Armour and not wear their feelings on their sleeves. I have said nothing contradictory, I have said from the very first post of what has happened to me and I maintain that. You and others may not like it and maybe if I were in your stage of trying to get approved I would feel the same. However if you noticed all of the negative responses came from Pre Ops. Why? because post ops know what it is like. I apologize to anyone whos feelings were hurt by anything I said, however I will always, and I do mean always express what is going on with me, so if you see a post from me, the best thing to do is over look it, because most likely I am gonna say something you do not like. Adrienne

Point taken Lady... BUT I never said that being Post -op or Pre-op for that matter was rosey. I dont expect that . I have known that there are trials and tribulations to everything..including this. And the first one to sugar coat anythign about WLS needs there head examined anyways. But I have to say...it is not only Pre-Oppers that you say are the ones that are saying these negative responses. Even ones that you have generated. Now as far as your last statement. This is prolly why this post keeps going. I too am gonna post what I think. I have an opionion just AS I HAVE STATED MANY TIMES before I have never condemed you or anyother for have your opionions. When I see something I dont agree with I state it...just as well as you have.

Well, the main reson the post is going to continue is because no matter what the topic I always respond to my email. So that is why it is going to go on. I always respond. At anyrate, we will agree to disagree and when you have your Surgery, because you will have Surgery I am going to pray on that one in all sincerity because I believe that anyone that wants this done should have it especially if they qualify. But when you do have your Surgery, just stay in touch with me and let me know how you are. i will never say I told you so, I just wanna know will your views be the same. Adrienne

I understand all of that and my comments were to things that were implied directly towards me. Adrienne

As I read all the responses to this post I think some people just need to say things to hurt others. The problem I have is bringing Black and White into this Ms. Keri. I feel that Lady A can feel the way she wants about this surgery, she didn't say everybody should feel the way she does. That sistah and corner thing just wasn't cool. I was talked to about the exercise thing but who would I be to say that Lady A's doctor had to have talked to her about it? I couldn't. What do Lady A's opinion have to do with being a sistah? NOTHING! It's just her opinion you can take it or leave it and if it upsets you so much why keep responding to it? Anyone *****ads these posts aren't just going to take one persons opinion of the surgery and make their decision from that one person, or they would be nuts! This is really entertaining. I know I'll probably get some (-) feedback, take your best shot! Von

Thanks for the response Shevon, Let me tell you this, they know nothing about me or what I stand for, they do not know of the hundreds of people I have helped inspite of all of my ups and downs. Nothing they say can hurt me, because I know my heart. I have come to the realization that Bull is upset because she is Pre op and wants this surgery and can not get it for one reason or another and she is angry with me, because I have had the surgery and am disappointed in my results. Being as though I have had something she wants so bad, how dare me say a bad word or something she disagrees with. Until she is Post Op and have gone thru what I have she can say nothinmg to me that matters and from this point forward, I will not respond to her. I have already given her toomuch air play. It is very sad and I will pray for her instead of feeding in to her negativeness, because she is hurting inside and the only way to make herself feel better is to try and down me and this is so typical of a person who is suffering. However thanks to you for being supportive. Adrienne

We all know, to some extent, that losing weight requires less calories in and/or more calories burned. Isn't that why this should work? Whether or not a surgery has whatever combination of restriction/malabsorption - the general idea is that we are consuming less and burning enough to lose. Right? I know that seems like a duh factor - but I wanted to preface what I said next. I don't exercise. I wanted to. I still want to! It was part of what *I* wanted to do to make long-term changes for a healthier life. But, I don't do it. I plan to, starting in January 2005 (It's in my planner, written down in June 2003 - yes, I am a nerd!). I still lost quite a bit of weight. I still got healthy. Ubt, yannow, I still don't eat much. Some days more than others. It works out. I don't usually tell people I don't exercise - I won't lie about it, but I don't want to set unrealistic expectations (if that makes any sense). I had never been to this board before, and this thread took off to such lengths! I hope you don't mind me chiming in. I have very strong (and often conflicting!) opinions where WLS surgery is concerned and the attitudes of those who have it. I agree, though, that noone can tell anyone how to feel. Strong as my opinions are = they are just opinions and like feelings, all our valid to their owners. Anyway - if you ever choose to exercise, I hope you find something you like that will just help pursue optimal health. But, if you never want to - then I don't suppose it is anyone else's business! I still have to say congrats on 76 pounds, I hope you can enjoy that. It is DEFINATELY worth something