I am getting tired of the complications...when will it stop

I am one year post RNY... have been hospitalized this year three times with serious complications ...does it ever stop??
I am startng to feel regret on some level and it scares me. I certainly didn't imagine or plan for it to turn out this way. I feel sad and lonely with my feelings and am ashamed to admit them...being brutally honest right now. On the other hand I had a death sentence waiting for me ...I had alot of health risks and I certainly don't think I could have lost this weight on my own. All that said I am in a funk and a part of me wishes I could slip back into my old cocoon of protection. Can anyone relate?  

I will be 5 weeks out tomorrow and I was doing great at first but the past few days since 3 days after I could start soft foods I have been getting really sick. The stomach bug has been going around and I am not sure if it is that or if it is from the surgery but I have found myself crying as I dry heave yet again and wondering what have I done to myself so even though it is not the same I can relate somewhat.

Thanks for your kind words. I guess misery loves company LOL! Just kidding! I'm sorry your going through such a tough time. I thought the begining was sooo hard too. But this most recent setback just takes the cake. I hope for your sake the journey gets easier... not harder...Best wishes sent your way
  

I would love to come on here and say that they do - but for some of us who have WLS - the complications never stop.
I am a little over 4 years - first year was really rough, next two were fine and I thought I was home free. Unfortunately, in the past year I have been hospitalized 3 times also - 2 of the times w/ severe internal bleeding due to ulcers at the reconnection site. (Which I never knew could occur, but the gastronlogist who saw me says he sees a lot of them in wls patients.)
There are some sites for people w/ complications. (NOT OH) I will give you the address if you want it - just email me if you do.
Anne

Hi Anne,

I was wondering if you can share some of the websites for complications which you have knowledge of. Appreciate any help. Thank you!

Regards,
Nicole

Hi Anne,

I was wondering if you can share some of the websites for complications which you have knowledge of. Appreciate any help. Thank you!

Regards,
Nicole

There is a Yahoo group that I belong to called OSSG_Gone_Wrong

I have to add a few more things - people always say to check out your surgeon's morbidility rate....That rate is based only on the number of patients the surgeon has die during their hospitilization for the surgery. It does not include patients who perhaps have to go back into the hospital 3 months later.
Also, RNY is a fairly new procedure. let's thing about all of the surgical procedures that have been done in the past (not necessarily weight lose) that were introduced as a panacea and then turned out to have horrid impacts. In addition, due to it's being relatively new in the medical field - many side effects may have not yet been discovered.
I do have to say for me my side effects and complications were NOT due to my surgeon, but happened several years later and were due to the surgery in and of itself.

What you are feeling is ok, don't discount the concern, fear, regrets you are feeling.  I have been on of the fortunate ones to not have any complications, food aversions to speak of or even the vomiting and slimming so many have; I count my blessings everyday. 

Even with no complications the long-term affects of WLS and what it does mentally can be quiet trying at times.

I wish you the best and hope the complications stop for you.  Please share your concerns and story because those doing their research need to know the TRUTH it isn't always glory and praise about WLS and no one should go into it without knowing everything that could potentially happen, even further out people can and do have complications.

I agree with Dana, please continue to share your truth regarding the current complications you are experiencing. It's people like me who feel great reading the success stories but know that it's not a piece of cake either...there a possibility of some complications, if not more than others. I have notice by reading that the complications level can vary depending on previous levels of complicatons -health wise before the surgery as per surgeon.

I wish you all the best and I know you can do it. You have many good people on the OH board praying and wishing for all great things and speedy recovery :)

See ya soon on the thinner side....

Thank You all for listening to my feelings. I appreciate the concern and prayers... May your higher power watch over you and I.. we are allon this journey together...