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Dear children of Mary Wright:

Please accept my sincere condolences.  It's so right that you are posting your story here.  Please describe what happen as much as you can or care to so that all of us who are considering this surgery can benefit from your Mother's story.

Thank you and I'll keep you in my prayers.

Kathy (MN)

Sorry to hear all the suffering you, your family  and your mom went through. God be with you and yours. Nancy

I am so sorry for your loss. I am considering the same surgery. I know that I could die, but I will die if I don't. What is a person to do? We just put our faith in God to protect us, and if that is the end, I least I tried. Hugs and kisses to your family.

May God help you find peace. I'm glad you're telling people what can happen, because this is very serious surgery with possibility of serious life-threatening side effects. 

You obviously believe you are honoring your mother's memory by sounding the alarm bell about gastric bypass. Once again, I don't know what you hope to accomplish by this, but I think your efforts could be better used. Here's what I think you could better use your time doing if you really want to honor her memory: - Start a scholarship fund - Start an exercise and diet program for obese children/young people - Volunteer at an animal shelter, homeless shelter, nursing home or hospital - Help with Meals on Wheels, drive elderly patients to doctor's appointments and to the senior center - Tell people about your mother while you do these things but get off the alarmist stance and thinking you're providing a service when indeed you are not - Stop yelling about ONE surgery that went south and try to focus on something POSITIVE I'm very sorry you lost your mother.  You could have also lost her to obesity, as I lost both the grandparents who helped raise me and were like my own parents.  My grandfather died right in front of me from a heart attack, and he was closer to being my daddy than my own dad.  I was eleven years old.  I know heartache. Please get off the negativity and start trying to do something positive to make the world a better place.

SophieGrace, WOW!  This is my first time to this board and obviously I don't know most of the people here or their personalities, but this was just mean!  Clearly, this family is grieving and this post/site/etc. is part of that process for them.  Who are you to slam her for what she is doing, or have the audasity to "suggest" what she do instead??  How many of those things have you done? It is no big secret that people die from this or any other WLS... it's not like she revealed some big WLS community secret that newbies or those considering surgery (like me) aren't supposed to know.  I, for one, feel she is providing a service!!  I come here, purposely, to learn THE TRUTH about the consequesnces of WLS so I can make the BEST and MOST informed decision for myself!  I read your profile and it doesn't seem your experience has been all moonlight and roses - but who's slammin' you for telling your story? As far as her negativity: Personally, I would MUCH rather ride off into the sunset on my "negativity", than get trown off my "high horse"!!   I rarely get fired up on OH, but I feel this certainly deserved it!  And, BTW I do not have kids, but if I did, no, I don't think I would want someone like you teaching them!! Tonya G.

Sophie, you are not being a kind person at all and obviously have never lost anyone you care about. Please remember the addige of if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all and certainly don't purposely be mean to people. Karma is a ***** beware!

I don't think it was mean at all ... I agree with what you said. Annette

I agree. I don't think your response was mean at all.

I didn't know that volunteering at an animal shelter would ease the pain of a mother's passing!  What a stupid response.  Why don't you start a scholarship for people to go to school and learn manners and sense a decency.  Oh wait...those things can't taught.