Am I the only one??

As of being bored..I think shopping, walking, planning a vacation (big or small), find a local walk or charity run to try to get in shape for and then attend that..things to look forward to and have hope for should help

No, you are not the only one. I really struggled after my surgery with finding something to do to replace the time I woud spend eating. It made me realize how many of my coping skills involved eating: coming home after work for a glass of wine and some doritos, watching TV and eating popcorn, reading a book and eating ice cream. All of a sudden my strategies weren't there for me any more. I went through a period of depression as a result - I just couldn't get the "blahs" out of my life.  It sounds like you also are going through a bit of buyer's remorse. I did that too - doubting myself for the decision I had made. Thinking I should just have tried harder.  I needed to go on anti-depressants, and continue on them now - you might need to consider this. It sounds like you might be depressed. I also needed to find something to take the place of food - don't laugh - I am spend my time doing crossword puzzles. I also am trying to do more with my friends - which is hard for me as I am an at home kind of person.  Be kind to yourself. Things have changed a lot for you in a short period of time. Day by day things will get easier. SherryB

it sounds like to me that you are dealing with issues with food that you did not know you had.  we are supposed to eat to live, not live to eat.  go to a counselor!  or a psychiatrist.  they can HELP.  you can be addicted to food the same way you can be addicted to drugs. I know, i was addicted to both.  and when i got sober, the first stage that i went through was boredom and depression.  it is totally normal.  you have to retrain your brain. i noticed you also said that you can no longer take care of your husband, and that was your only purpose. WRONG. your life is yours.  if you are depending on someone else for your happiness that something is wrong.  you are not giving yourself enough self value.  you owe it to yourself to get health and happy.  can you imagine how productive your life would be? dont be afraid to call your doctor and ask them to recommend someone for you to talk to.

I know this is going to sound a bit twisted...but I am SO envious of you guys. I had lapband surgery on 3/26/07 and completely regret it. To date, I've had 5 fills and have only lost 41 pounds. I have gone down one whopping size...big deal. I am so depressed, I cry almost everyday because I come on here and see how awesome the RNY patients are doing...you guys are dropping MAD amounts of weight and I'm still struggling after over 8 months. Talk about depression....I'm even more depressed NOW because I feel like I should have chosen RNY over AGLB...this surgery could have been the ONE CHANCE for me to be normal...and by normal I mean THIN. Really thin...and fast.

In light of my disappointment with the band, I am trying to convert to RNY but I'm sure my insurance company will give me grief. I have heard that if you lose less than 50 pounds, you could become eligible for a conversion surgery....and I can only hope this is true. PS - I too am an emotional eater...but I KNOW deep down that if I were to drop 110 pounds I would see myself in a BRAND NEW LIGHT and food would NEVER control me again. I want instant gratification...and this is just something that isn't possible with the band. Man, hindsight is always 20/20 isn't it...?

I don't have any answers for you but I can relate my personal experience and struggle. I've not had WLS yet but about 2 yrs ago, I was on a liquid diet for 13 weeks.  I remember thinking around week 9 that I was going to go stir crazy.  I was bored and felt agitated because I missed food so much.  I cried to relieve the stress.  I realized then that controlling my relationship with food is worse than other addictions because those you can cut out completely, this one you have to learn to control.  I thought quitting smoking was hard (did that about 15 years ago).  Needless to say, I didn't learn to control my relationship with food and honestly, didn't spend the time I should have on it, which is why I'm revisiting this issue prior to having WLS.   When I did my psych evaluation for the surgery, I related the story to the therapist.  He suggested I begin behavior modification therapy and go an anti-depressant before surgery to deal with these issues post surgery.   I'm in the process of following his advice.  I'm going to join Overeaters Anonymous to help me with these issues and ask my PCP for an anti depressant.  It took me a while to admit I was this far gone but you know, having the courage to acknowledge it is the first step. Pat yourself on the back.  Your recognition of this issue will allow you to overcome it and not have the weight regain many WLS patients have later on.

Hi there!

I couldn't help but notice...you're pregnant?

Congratulations!

An awful lot of the emotions you are describing also go with pregnancy?  The ups, the downs, the ... well, everything.  like crying, boredom, feling lost and useless to the world -- and then right back up again!  You shouldn't even be losing weight right now, anyway.

When are you due?