WLS regrets? yes and no.....

Have you considered that you may have lost him if you had not had the surgery? I have not heard the 80% divroce statistic and find that hard to believe. What I have heard about divorce and WLS is that the surgery itself will not change the relationship. If you have a good relationship prior to WLS you will have a good one post WLS. If you have a bad relationship prior to WLS having the surgery will not make it better.

Marilyn, I'm so sorry for the loss of your "best friend". I know how that feels. I also know how it feels to find a new best friend. After my divorce I thought I was through with men. I was heart broken. I had broken my promise to God, and I didn't feel like I could go on. I was so disappointed, but knew I had done the right thing (he was abusive). After a year of morning the loss of my "soul mate" (and attending group therapy), I started dating again. I had no interest in finding a new "soul mate", I just wanted enjoy life. I liked "playing" with men, but didn't want to keep any of them. After 5 years of being single, and really loving it my new "soul mate" arrived in my life. Just when I least expected. We have now been together for 10 years, and I don't know what either one of us would do without the other. I hope that you too will find a new "best friend" someday. In the meantime enjoy your new life the best you can. If your are still have difficulty letting go of your ex you may think about group therapy or something along that line. I joined a church group "relationship rebuilding". It was a God Send! TTFN Lady