My husband wasn't keen, but I never asked his permission. My body, my choice.

You may want to seek help if your husband is this controlling/disrespectful.

I believe that divorce after surgery is often because the person having surgery gains self esteem and no longer needs their spouse/partner to enable or even sabotage them.

You have a lot of thinking to do.

Does he give you any reasons why? Is he afraid for you, then take him to the doctor with you so he understands the pros/cons; is he afraid that you will leave if you get skinny? Therapy/counseling could help in either case. If you search here on the word spouse, there seem to be quite a few people that have dealt with similar non-supportive partners, maybe there is something in those experiences for you to use. Good luck doing the right thing for you, with/without his support.

I need help my husband said if I get weight loss surgery he will divorce me I told him I weigh over 500 surgery is my only hope to live long healthy life. I don't know what to do I'm fear to be alone but I know if I don't have surgery I will not be here long.

I started preparing for my surgery in May. I gave up everything white. Nothing made with sugar or flour. Nothing processed or refined. No bread, no pasta or noodles, no cookies, no rice, no cereals, no potatoes, no crackers, no ice cream, no donuts or candy, no high fructose corn syrup. I read labels religiously. I ate meal, eggs, fish, and no starchy vegetables. My vegetables did not include corn, carrots, peas, or lima beans. I ate spinach, broccoli, cabbage, brussels sprouts, cauliflower, lettuce, cucumber, and tomatoes.

I did eat large amounts of meats and vegetables because I did not want to let myself get hungry. I would prepare roast beef, baked chicken, turkey breast, hard-boiled eggs, deli meats, canned tuna and cheeses. I always had plenty of snacks ready to grab from the refrigerator. I also gave up caffeine and Diet Coke.

I spent a lot of time walking in the mall and looking at the clothes that I would be able to fit into after my surgery and weight loss. After a few days without sugars and flours, my cravings disappeared. I drank as much water as I could hold. Once I was alone in the office on the evening of donut day at work. There were donuts left over and I ate one. That is the only slip up that I remember.

When I had my surgery in October, I did not have to make many adjustments. I did not go through any cravings because the I had detoxed in advance. The only difference was that after surgery an ounce of meat filled me up instead of the eight-to-ten-ounce servings I had been eating.

By spring I was buying and wearing those cute outfits that I had been window shopping the year before. The best advice I can give you is to go through the ordeal of detoxing from sugars and starches. Once you are eating just protein and non-starchy veggies, your cravings will disappear. Fill up your mind with cravings for health and for great clothes in small sizes.

Research the Pima Indians who lived in Arizona. Before the white man introduced them to white flour and refined sugars, they were strong, lean, and healthy. After twenty years of white foods, they were obese and diabetic. I grew up in the 1950's. An obese person was rare then. Now they are everywhere. It is because of high-fructose corn syrup, white flour, and sugar in everything. Just give up everything white. You will not crave the meat and vegetables. You will eat to live, not live to eat.

I haven't had my surgery yet my Surgeon put me on a diet to get my weight down so she perform the surgery, but I'm have hard time on diet I've been having a lot of cravings for unhealthy foods. What are some tips you can give for fighting cravings.