Bariatric Divorce

You need support, and if your husband doesnt support u.. then he is not the right person

I know this is very difficult. But you only get one life to live. There should not be conditions that relate to your health attached to your love. Bottom line. Lived it for many years. Do whatever you need to feel like you have done your best and then, RUN! You are growing. Don't let anyone stand in your way.

Was your husband a feeder or someone with a fat fetish when you met or married?

I know that's kind of personal and blunt to boot, to ask, the reason why I am asking though is that while I'm not a clinically trained professional and not trying to pretend to be one on here, while most surgeon's now have protocols that include therapy both prior to surgery and recommended after, if you associate food with love, it might be helpful to address that also in therapy before you have surgery, as well as getting to the root cause of the power structure that seems to be a factor in your marriage.

Both food as love and history of the opposite where food and or weight being a reason not to be loved regardless of where someone fell on size spectrum from childhood to present, can kind of shape our relationship with food.

Realizing how you got to where you are (there's no judgement here, only a desire to try and support) now and your past history to present with both food and familial relationships and working with your surgeon's office at the same time, will best prepare you for post operative life, as well as if you have to go through a divorce during the surgical process preoperatively, you'll learn healthier coping mechanisms that aren't food related when self medicating with food is no longer an option post operatively.

Like the others, I do think you deserve better and hopefully therapy and support both before surgery and if you go through it after, you'll be in the best place you can be both physically and mentally, as I too would rather be alone than be with someone who doesn't have my best interest at heart, like literally and figuratively speaking.

best of luck to you.. peace...

He is trying to control you. You need to do what's best for you. Remember that. You come first in your life. 500 lbs is not healthy and not living life.

I feel so bad for you. You are HIS crutch, You need to live healthy Honey. Living like that is not,

Go get the surgery and get more self confidence. You may want a divorce. Best of luck with your decision

He sounds like a man with a fat fetish, more in love with your fat than the person underneath. Your life is more important than anything or anyone else.