Desperately need to vent and advice!

Hello!

I had Gastric Bypass Surgery on September 22nd and I am absolutely miserable! I'm regretting this tremendously! Everything I eat gets stuck and I imagine it's from not chewing well enough and/or eating too fast. But it's not just when I eat solid foods, it also happened once when I drank water, then another time was when I was eating tuna solid.. I literally throw up like 2-3 times a day.

I'm dreading Thanksgiving because we're hosting this year and making all this yummy food and I'm barely going to be able to eat. And it's not the small portions that bothers me, it's the food getting stuck in my esophagus that really annoys me.

My mental health is not doing too good. I've suffered with depression before this and thought that this would help because who doesn't want to be thin and better looking? But now I'm starting to find that I was happier eating what I want, when I wanted. I'm just not the same. I don't want to do anything anymore, nor have the energy to do so. I cry almost every single day. Sad thing is, I could've did this without the surgery. I lost over 50 pounds on my own in 6 months before I got the surgery. I got the surgery to speed things along, I suppose. I'm just truly regretting this.

Please tell me this gets better? Please tell me my body will eventually be back to normal?

Here is how I used to explain this to new patients. I showed them an empty 2-liter soda bottle. That represented their old stomach and it was a conservative size. It is about 28 ounces. Some people's old stomach held 40 ounces. Then I showed them the cap from the soda bottle. That represents the size of their new stomach. That is the amount of food to fill you up.

I did not even eat anything soft until three weeks, just liquid. Then graduated to purees of applesauce consistency. I started eating more solid things like steak and salad after three months. By six months, I could handle a half slice of toast. By 18 months, I could eat most of a six inch sub sandwich from Subway.

Fourteen years later, I can eat a meal like a normal person. My first Thanksgiving was a one inch cube of turkey, one teaspoon mashed potatoes, and seven kernels of corn. I was stuffed.

Now I look back and miss the days when I was newly out of surgery and could eat such tiny amounts of food and be full. Take advantage of this period of getting full quickly and lose as much weight as you can. By Thanksgiving 2023 you will be able to eat a full meal and be worrying about weight gain again.

Please be patient with yourself. Your only a month out and your body is still healing. The body is saying "What the f did you do to me?" It does get better.

Have you talked to your medical team? If you're throwing up multiple times a day, they should be aware and assist. You could also see if eating slower, chewing more help since you called them out as areas of concern. You could also take a step back in your food progression and see if that helps, the rules are General so some people do better progressing slower.

They may also be able to help you with the mental aspects as well. There have been a number of posters that refer to having had buyers remorse (short term) while going through the healing process and the hormone dump so that could be it too -- but your medical team should be able to help determine if it's that or something else.

good luck!!!

Thank you all! ?

I have another question- Is there an app for this support group and if so, what is it called?

I'm using my internet browser and it's a pain. Lol.

Eight weeks is the usual first time you start to feel good .

Your insides are healing... you essentially got hit by a Mack truck ... walk walk walk drink and eat whatever you can right now.

It?s normal to feel miserable ... you?re in excess food withdrawal and learning a new way of living. (((())) hugs

( btw even I didn't eat " chewable " things at your stage ... maybe that's why you're throwing up ( which really concerns me )

I hate to admit this and I feel like an absolute failure (which probably adds to my depression), but I've been trying out solid foods. I'm fully aware that I did this to myself (me feeling sick, that is) because I've been knowingly doing things wrong.

However, the only uncomfortable feeling I'm having a HUGE issue with is food getting stuck in my esophagus, which then will make me throw up. They say it's normal, but does it ever go away?

I also think you need to be checked for a stricture. There is no right or wrong way. Some surgeons start people on solid food the day after surgery. Everyone heels at a different rate so your plan might say you are ready for a certain food, but your pouch may not agree.

It's okay Bae ... I think the rebellious half of us have tried exactly what you've done ( as did I ) .

And ten years post RNY I'm 5' 9 and 135 hot pounds .

Best thing you can do .... walk a lot . It releases endorphin hormones which make you feel satisfied and happy... also encourages better breathing and quick healing . ((( ))) hugs

Thank you so much! ?

I also want to ask you- Is there an app for this group? I'm using the browser and it's a pain. Lol.