Feeling Defeated and Not Motivated

Thank you very much for your words of encouragement and support.

Yes yes I get it TOTALLY.

I think I've been depressed and medicating w excess food pretty much all my life .

At least I'm still alive and trying to do better.....

I have done the same with food. Always been an emotional eater. Hope you are feeling better!

I am 73 years old and have never been depressed. I have had setbacks, sadness, and more health issues than most people would ever guess. For me, the glass has always been half full.

Depression is a disorder that a person needs to own. Owning it means that you take the steps necessary to deal with it and to get better. An alcoholic who admits to being an alcoholic, but refuses to stop drinking is admitting the problem, but not owning it.

You need to see a doctor and get help. It might be medicine, therapy or both. You need to follow through with the treatment and work on getting better. If you cannot get to a doctor today, then go to an emergency room or urgent care. Start getting help immediately and then get more help as needed. There is no reason to live in depression.

Thank you for responding. You are right that I need to own my depression and go back and get help again. I gave up a little bit after a bad experience with medications and also I had a therapist that I felt I could not work well with. I didn't feel like it was helping me at all but I won't give up until I get it right.

Hello friend my name is Jessica and like yourself i am in a funk. Sometimes its easier to stay in bed for days and not face the world head on (even just the mere thought alone is extremely overwhelming and intimidating! Believe me, I know) but what ive learned is that if I try to do anything in life on my own, by my own terms, then thats exactly where I stay. In the bed, in my own sad world, feeling helpless. Ive also learned that having anyone in your life no matter who it is, to hold u accountable is so very helpful! Having someone there to motivate and encourage you and just to remind you from an outside-of-your-mind perspective of what we cant see in ourselves at the time can be more helpful and healing than you know. If your anything like me, than being left in your own thoughts is super self destructive and only digs the hole that much deeper when we are already having a tough enough time seeing the light. I hope things get better for you. Im here if you want to talk

Hi Jessica,

Thank you so very much for sharing your experiences and insights. I appreciate it very much. I tend to stay to myself and not reach out to my friends and family and then the depression just hits me so hard that I cannot function at times. I can tell you understand. I appreciate your good advice and you really hit the nail on the head!

I feel your pain! I could easily stay in bed for days but my husband would get me up. You need to see a psych and a therapist to get you started. The first step is the hardest. If you can't afford docs, drugs and therapists you could try exercise. Even just walking will help release endorphins to ease depression. You've admitted the problem - now you need to take the next step! We're here for you. I've been depressed for years and been on meds for it. Feel free to message me - I will be your personal cheerleader! Linda

Hi Linda,

Thank you so much for understanding, sharing and for responding. Ive been down this road before with counselors and medications but I am going to give it another try, with a different team. I have been thinking that I need to exercise and move more. Staying in bed does nothing for me that's for sure. I appreciate hearing from you!

Yes, getting up and moving.. changing focus to others instead of self..both grat wasy to get started on road to healing...