do people treat you differently after weight loss surgery

Very few of us are going to be uber slim. Sometimes in the second year after surgery, but most have regain in third year. I was very small for the second year and just enjoyed that phase. Never had any feeling of people looking down on me for that.

I wonder about that too ?

I never had people looking down on me for it as well. Envy, yes. Concern, also yes. But being looked down upon because of being thin? No, not in this town.

I think the hardest part of the whole wls is the whole negativity, we do get in regain with wls. People expect you to fail. How sad is that? We have to be happy with the new us, embrace every part of your journey. Im at my 4 year mark losing 106 and maintaining 106 lbs Weight loss. Its a battle everyday to be mindful, its a battle to ignore the people that think we took the easy way out and will regain. I spent 47 years on a diet and now taking 1 day at a time. Embracing the new me

People do not care as much as you might think. The more time goes by the more they adjust to your new body. If someone did accuse me of taking the easy way out, I completely agreed with them. For me surgery was the easy way out. I did the same things i did with years of dieting but after the surgery it worked.

I have told people I took the easy way out because the hard way did not work for me.

UBER thin is a real thing and many people experience it post wls. I went from being a 300lb 6'1 male to a 135lb 6'1 male. It was not pretty - if you saw Christian Bale in the move The Mechanic or Steven Kings movie Thinner, that's the UBER thin I'm talking about. I would estimate it's 10 to 20% of people post wls, including women.

It's an important concern when considering wls and in determining the type of surgery that's appropriate. No regrets about wls for me, but definitely "what a long strange trip t's been."

Heck yeah. It was a mind game. I had problems with it for awhile. Some people were jealous and I lost some friends or I guess I would say some didn't trust me anymore (why?). But I found I went from being invisible to visible and it was not always easy to deal with. I did go back to the psychologist I had seen previously....and he helped. But losing weight is an emotional journey in lots of ways and you really can't prepare for it. I realized some of the things I had done or said to skinny friends ~ and I realized we all have been indoctrinated by our culture. But I did go back and apologize. One example, I was in a mixed exercise class of men and women and during a break most of the men had left the class, I mentioned something about it being cold in the room and one woman said "well maybe if you ate something you would stay warmer" and all the other women laughed and thought it was funny. Because I was now the skinny one and they thought it was okay to comment on my weight. Anyway, just remember besides the physical journey of losing weight and learning self care, there is an emotional journey too. I would recommend staying involved in a support group (if it is really supportive) or continuing with a therapist. it really helped me and still there was so much processing to do. Best of luck!

It was night & day for me after I lost the extra weight.

I joined Weigh****chers in my early teens and got down to goal weight and found the attention from men overwhelming which took part in my regaining all the weight I'd lost and more.

I was always looked down upon and considered to be 'weak' by everyone; family, friends, strangers, etc. The looks and comments from strangers (yes, people are brazen enough to say things to strangers!!!), would always make me feel horrible, ashamed, useless.

I yo-yo'd through the years until I was 36 years old and had reached 312 lbs. and finally decided to get a VBGB in 1998.

After losing the weight I now became 'human' in the world! Like others have said, I suddenly was looked in the eye, smiled at, even SPOKEN to! I had arrived!

I won't lie and say I didn't like the new attention, but I cannot post this without saying that a part of me really resented these people who wouldn't talk to me before and now I had become 'worthy' of their attention.

Now you probably won't believe this.... but I sometimes catch myself looking at a morbidly obese person with scorn! I am ashamed of myself and immediately take a reality check and remind myself that if it wasn't for the surgery - there I would be - but the feeling & reaction is there.

It makes me wonder sometimes if the tendency towards shunning the obese isn't an innate thing? Why would I start to feel resentment towards the same thing that I was? It makes no sense!

I truly wish people would just accept that everyone is different in their own way and stop all the hating, but I also wonder if God didn't intend people to have these feelings for some reason that we just haven't figured out yet.

I hope my honesty doesn't hurt anyone's feelings as that is surely not the reason why I posted this.