Who has regained all the lost weight at 10+ years out?

The person who posted had the RNY, not the DS.

I agree with the others who said to find a good therapist, if you haven't already. You have been through so much and did what you had to do to get by. Now you need to focus on your health.

I would focus on 10 pounds at a time. The whole picture can be overwhelming. Track your food, get some sort of activity in (I focus on walking), and be kind to yourself.

You've got some great advice and I definitely think you should look at losing regain as a series of small goals rather than the total picture.

Losing 30lbs is very doable in a fairly short time and then have goals of 30lb increments thereafter.

I lost around 60lbs of regain in, like, 8 and a bit months, so it's definitely slower once you get nearer goal. You could probably lose 60lbs in 6 months, if you really knuckled down and what a difference that would make to you.

I am so very sorry for your loss. I encourage you to find a support group or therapist to talk about everything so they can help guide you through the rough patches

I AM happy you are here... We all experience regain and getting back into the mindset is hard. YOU KNOW you can do this because you've done it before. Focus on little goals first. Tracking food (good or bad) will hold you accountable and help with actually knowing what goes on your plate/in your mouth. See your surgeon or nutritionist for help. Something may also be wrong and labs/tests may need to be drawn. You said yourself, You "aren't sure", your surgeon can help you with that "unknown".

Start small, work towards goals and list them in a place that you see ALL THE TIME... remind yourself that YOU ARE WORTH IT.

Sending big hugs**

I forgot to add...

Don't be afraid to start all over again... you may like your new story better this time around.

At least you know why you have gained nearly all the weight back. Most are in such denial they can't even admit to themselves why. Knowing is half the battle. You say you are just grazing all day long because you cant eat much in one sitting. What is your day like? Do you goto work..Or anywhere for an extended period of time...Or are you just left at home with nothing to do but graze all day? My weight loss surgery program told me to eat 3 times a day, no more than a 4oz serving of lean protein at meals, a half cup of starch, and as much non starch veg as i need to get satisfied. Realistically that doesn't work for my lifestyle...I get two 15 min breaks at work and a 1 hour lunch..and I have a fear of taking a poop at work. So i just dont eat at work. When I come home I tend to eat a big meal most days. Still making smart choices by keeping my carbs to a minimal, But I will admit still overeating. Even with the overeating tho I am eating so so few hours of the 24hour day that I am not gaining weight and actually still losing (extremely slowly). But If I wasnt at work for 9 hours I would probably be in a huge pickle trying to follow this way of eating. I would try my best to eat the way my WLS program told me to...3 meals a day spaced 4 hours a part...4oz of protein in a meal with a half cup of starch and as much non starch veg as I needed to get satisfied.

People with DS permanently malabsorb fat. They can retain their weight loss by eating low carb and high fat. If they switch to low fat, high carb diet, they will regain.

People with RNY malabsorb everything for the first two years. By the end of year three that malabsorption is gone and we absorb everything we eat. The experience of bounceback regain occurs in year three for almost everyone,

While we blame life's trauma for the increased eating, the regain would have happened even if life had not given you the sad events that happened. Your body had learned how to absorb calories again and sends hunger signals telling you it needs more food.

During year three I rejoined Weigh****chers and have followed their program since 2010. I have had times when I have just eaten what I want and the weight accumulates amazingly quickly. Weigh****chers is what works best for me.

For your original question, it is a lot of people. About 50% regain 50 pounds by year five. Regain is worse every year. I had RNY surgery in 2007 and can easily eat as much as I did before surgery. I only control my weight through careful planning and realizing that hunger is not an emergency and it is OK to still feel hunger after eating.

Losing regain is hard work. Your surgeon has dealt with this many times and should have recommendations for a therapist and nutrition counselling. My surgeon has a program for people who have regained. It is run by a team of phycologists who work with the mental and emotional issues of people who have had weight loss surgery.

I would urge you to call the surgeon today and make an appointment to get his help.

Thanks for sharing with us-it's a fear that we all have, and so easy to go back to old habits. I'm 5 1/2 years out and I do struggle. Right now I'm at 252 lbs I'm 5 lbs above my lowest weight of 247 lb. 5 lbs above may not seem like much but it's frustrating to me that I never could get lower than 247 lbs!!! And although in those 5 years I've never really went above 10 lbs past my low, the fact that I cannot break it make it seem like 100 lbs!

I've always felt it's more of "what eating us?", as opposed to merely "what we are eating?". If we become morbidly obese, it's more than just hunger that has driven our weight 100-200 lbs past average weighted people. I'm no Dr or expert-other than in how to fail in keeping weight off. But I would consider therapy. Don't be ashamed, you know what to do. The longest journey starts with "one foot in front of the other" Start stepping today. I just keep putting one foot in front of the other-I'm confident eventually I'll be ok. Wish you well!!