Need Help Staying in Control of my Diet

It might help to consider talking to a bariatric/weight specialist therapist to help address the addiction side of things. It will help, believe me. This journey is life long, but starts with a first step and then a first meaningful step (like talking to someone, even virtually if going to the office isn't possible). Even surgery will fail many if they don't address the underlying cause of obesity and we can't do it by ourselves. So the next meaningful step is to call your local bariatric specialist and explain your situation and get in contact with one or two of their recommended therapists. See what clicks. You will be happy you did. Good luck.

Thank you for your help

I am so sorry you dealing with all of that. Nobody should be in ta position like that, totally hopeless..

Can you reach out to any clinics who can help people of your size?

IMO: therapy is a must. For you and your mother. For both of you. You got to that size by eating more calories than your body can burn. That means that most likely your mom, as much as she loves you, is catering to your life style, providing you food that you eat. Too much food. and most likely, the wrong food, as in food that promotes weight gain.

I had my WLS surgery over 11 years ago, and when I eat food that promotes weight gain, I can gain weight very fast. And the more of that food I eat, the more of that I want, and the more my body tries to store the extra as fat.

When I make myself eat the right foods, i can control my appetite, and I can control my portion. But making the right choice - what I eat - is all me, the long term post surgery me, that knows that making bad choices would case me to gain weight, or feel badly, or both.

Most of us who had a weight loss surgery, we knew we needed extra help. Some of us knew, or learned, that unless we are dedicated to the lifestyle changes, the surgery itself is not going to make us skinny, or even less fat long term, if we don't do our part.

Those of us who are successful long term, are very dedicated to maintain weight loss.

Most clinics ask obese patients to show a significant weight loss that can how the doctors that are dedicated and they are ready to do their (very hard) part of the process.

I know a few people, who believed the surgery would fix their problems with overeating, and did not do enough work. They initially lost some weight, but never got down to their true goal, and regained most , if not all of the weight they lost initially. They are now in much worse condition they were originally. Not only they are back to being obese, but they now have the side effects of abdominal surgery, i.e. malabsorbtion of vitamins and minerals. For those of us who had RNY (gastric bypass) after a few years, our body learned to absorb all the calories , but malabsorption of vitamins and minerals stays with us for ever. We have to take a lot of them, and in some cases, we may need additional medical help to get the ones our body simply does want to absorb (i.e iron- I need iron infusions to make sure i have enough to make new blood. I don't absorb oral iron)

Surgery,weight loss surgery, can help you ONLY if you are really dedicated before and after it long term.

IMO - any public forum, like this one, can be a possible support platform for you, for small things, like recipes, sharing good moments,etc, but IMO - you need professional help, team of doctors, and support stuff like a high quality dietitian, to find a good way for you to address your issues.

My mother doesn't cater to me eat what I eat nor does she carry me food ect. I'm not that kind of helpless person I do everything on my own except for driving. My father died years back and both of them have been been my side helping me deal with this since I was a child. This isn't something that happen when I was in my 20s or 30s. I have always been a heavy child in grade school I weight over probably 150 pounds. I have a thyroid disease and I take the medication Levothyroxine. I'm not a Diabetes, the only medical issues I have is gallbladder. My parent are the reason I'm able to do the little things I do. I have had a good childhood except for been overweight. I was raised in a good home 6 brothers and 4 sister. I don't have any emotions issues beside feeling helpless and why I can't loss weight. But I know seeing a therapist will be best for me.

I hope you and your mother go to counseling together. She also needs to learn how to support you while you lose the weight. Parents want to nurture us and unfortunately food is one way they do that.

It sounds like you have seen a bariatric surgeon and have been told to lose 200 pounds. Did he give you any advice on how to do that? Does he have a nutritionist on staff?

I hope you find the support you need.

Yes once or twice but it didn't last long because I didn't like the doctor. Now when I think about it I should have keep going.

You said you need to lose 150-200 pounds for surgery. How long ago were you told that? Have you looked into a bariatric clinic recently? Can you look for one that has staff that will guide you with diet plans, etc to attain your pre-surgery goal and also train you to eat more healthfully in the future? I know some surgeons seminars I went to said they will use the Orbera balloon as a first string effort to get the weight down and then later transition it to rny or whatever. They also had diet plans, metformin, etc. Look around, those clinics want to help you, that's what they are there for, find one that is willing to guide you. They get just as excited as you do when you succeed.

Fill yourself up with water and lots and lots of veggies and lean meat. Snack on pickles and salad greens with no or little dressing. A tip you hear for salad usually is dressing on the side -but don't dip your lettuce in it, just dip your fork.

You can do this and I wish you the best, if you need to talk, I am here.

Yes in June of 2019 doctor told me I had to loss 150 to 200 pounds before. I have tried getting help but maybe it's me but I don't like the way the doctors talk. I'm a person with a weight problem but I'm human to with feeling. Last doctor I saw with a smile on his face with no feelings said you going to die just keep saying it every chance he had. I know if I don't loss this weight that is what's going to happen. Anyway

Thank you for the advice.

Don't go through your primary care doctor at first. Call some of the local hospitals and find out if they have bariatric programs/seminars and get info packets from them. I don't doubt what you are saying, I just wonder if you are asking the wrong people. I once asked my primary care doctor for help and he threw his pen against the wall and said really condescendingly, "There is only one way to lose weight. Eat less than you burn." The acid in his voice made me feel so bad. I went on from there to gain more than 100 pounds over the years. I finally just couldn't take it anymore. I called several bariatric programs got their packets and went to their seminars. I didn't really need my doctors permission. Just the insurance company. Bariatric surgeons make money doing this, they aren't going to treat you badly.

You can move forwards, how you got to where you are doesn't matter nearly as much as the choices you make today and in the future. Don't be hard on yourself for the past. You are only human, like the rest of us.

Thank you