Dating after surgery
on 10/25/18 9:50 am
Very well put and I hadn't even considered that before.
Wait a minute. Dating implies the possibility of not wearing clothes?
Interesting . . .
6'3" tall, male.
Highest weight was 475. RNY on 08/21/12. Current weight: 198.
M1 -24; M2 -21; M3 -19; M4 -21; M5 -13; M6 -21; M7 -10; M8 -16; M9 -10; M10 -8; M11 -6; M12 -5.
You seem to be implying that I don't look like a supermodel.
6'3" tall, male.
Highest weight was 475. RNY on 08/21/12. Current weight: 198.
M1 -24; M2 -21; M3 -19; M4 -21; M5 -13; M6 -21; M7 -10; M8 -16; M9 -10; M10 -8; M11 -6; M12 -5.
on 10/29/18 6:24 pm
My husband once told me, "Honestly, I don't care what your boobs look like. They're BOOBS, and the fact that I get to look at them automatically makes them the best boobs ever. So don't worry about it!"
Sparklekitty / Julie / Nerdy Little Secret (#42)
Roller derby - cycling - triathlon
VSG 2013, RNY conversion 2019 due to GERD. Trendweight here!
THANK you for saying this "out loud". I'm two years out and I have felt this way for so long. I try to remind myself that anyone worth getting naked with wouldn't be so shallow, but it's a block for me.
My sister had WLS two years before me and has no trouble dating--a lot. I have some contributing factors towards not being as care-free, but I wonder if plastic surgery is the answer.
Sorry, I have no words of wisdom on this--just commiserating and letting you know you're not alone.
Forgive me for being old fashioned, but why are you so worried about being nekkid so fast? I just don't understand the concept of hooking up.
When it comes to dating, try just that --- dating. Get to know each other, REALLY know each other before anything physical beyond kissing is even considered. Wait until the emotions and the mind is involved just as much in that celebration as the hands and body. If you have his heart and soul, the physical attributes become secondary and boy will it mean something to both of you!
Valerie
DS 2005
There is room on this earth for all of God's creatures..
next to the mashed potatoes