Clothes shopping

Took the kids and went to the mall. I passed Lane Bryant and thought I would browse. My son was grumbling because he really wanted to go to Gamestop. He said" Nothing will even fit you there. It's all too big." I walked in and he was right. Smallest size they had was 14's. We walked out and my son said, "See I was right. We wasted time. I could tell all that stuff was too big." Weird to think that I can't wear anything there as I used to shop there alot. Even weirder, my brain thinks I am still that size.

The image of your son trekking through Lane Bryant and then an "I told you so" expression cracks me up.

I have trouble too realizing that I cannot wear plus size clothing. I gravitate towards those sections in every department store! It's a hard habit to break.

Its funny how your brain messes with you. and part of it is habit too!

I understand completely.

Five years after RNY, and I STILL feel the pull of Lane Bryant. It was my favorite place to shop as a plus sized woman. I always found great clothes, and even though they were pricy, they were great quality and always fit nicely. I was also always treated with dignity and respect there, in comparison to shopping the plus sized section at any department store, where any passer-by could s****** at the "fat chick" clothes and the women shopping there.

FWIW, my brain still has trouble with the fact that I'm no longer plus sized. Even shopping in the regular sizes, I tend to still grab large and extra large sized blouses, even though I'm a small or medium, depending on the brand.

I've accepted that my brain will always be this way.

So I'm almost 2 years out and still have the issue. I've gone from a size 24 to a size 8. I was getting dressed for a party the other night and looked at the dress hanging on my bedroom door in the mirror of my dresser and said - whose dress is that? Then realized it was mine and yes, I was that small. My husband says that when he changes loads of laundry he looks at my shorts and is amazed by what I've done.

It takes a long time for your brain to catch up.

The brain is weird. I went from a 3X to an L / XL (Im only 6 months out) and I still get confused when clothes are too big for me.

I'm 6 years out and still pick up larger clothes when I shop. I don't see myself as small unless I look at myself in pictures. It's a surprise every time. I don't think my brain will ever adapt.

They still have the best bras on the planet. I special order them in my size.

Yeah this one takes a while.

i recently tried on a dress in a size 14, and was like, I like it, but it's a bit baggy in the under arms, maybe I'll try a smaller size? Or get it taken in?

The clerk was like um, yes you definitely need a smaller size. I left with a size 8...

then, a week later I caught a glimpse of my arms and was convinced I was regaining everything, and everyone must think I'm failing, look how big I am....no gain, still fit in an 8...

i started at sizes 28-32 most things at Lane Bryant didn't even fit. What a trip.

the behaviorist suggested taking a lot of photos to see yourself. I also find it helpful to see pics of myself with other people, for scale. Which sounds weird, but helps my brain process things a bit I think.