External pressure

I had my nose fixed to help me breathe better but also partly because my BF thought I would look better. I look a bit different, I guess maybe better. Now he is suggesting I remove some belly fat that I mentioned I was having having hard time losing. I am having hard time knowing what I want anymore. My friends, family and therapist haven't been helpful. I feel like I need some way to reset my thoughts and decide what I want. A coworker rearly likes SweetLifeService for life advice but I thought I would ask here before spending any money.

Any thoughts?

You worry you don't know what YOU want anymore, so you're asking strangers what we think about what you want??

i just don't see how any input is going to help you differentiate what you want vs. what others think.

All we can offer is opinions- you need to lead your life.

with all due respect, I think you need a new boyfriend.

I'm not sure that looking to other people, especially strangers to find out what you want for yourself is a good idea. I'm guessing the sweetlifeservice is some kind of life coach thing? Frankly if I was gonna spend any money it'd be on a trip to a tropical island to relax & figure out what I'd want out of life, instead of giving my hard earned money to someone else to tell/guide me on what to do.

Take care of yourself, this might not be the place to get the answers you desire.

I recommend finding a new therapist. You might also consider dumping your BF. I think that these things, and being single, might help you get the reset you're looking for so you can figure out how to listen to your own needs and wants again.

I'd dump the boyfriend, too. Who the heck is he to tell you to get your nose fixed and to do something about your belly fat? Screw him. There are MUCH better people out there.

The suspicious, tinfoil hat wearing part of me is wondering if this post is a clever ruse to advertise the service mentioned in the post. The way things are worded just sends up some red flags for me.

That being said-have you had WLS? If so what type and how far out are you? And most importantly-do YOU feel like you need to lose belly fat??

I thought the same thing. Sounds like a commercial.

I checked out the website for Sweet Life Services. In my opinion I would not use a website that requests $3.00 for the answers you seek. Like others have said, find a good reputable therapist to replace the one that is not helping you. Only you know what life looks like for you, no one else.

You are absolutely your best expert...remember... you are going to be with yourself forever....the bf..maybe not....take care