Why can't I go low???

I'm giving you the impatient sticker on this. Your new direction will give results, but it's not going to be as fast as it was your first year. Keep pushing.

I'm a man, same age, and close to the same weight. I was 185 in high school and had to starve myself to make that weight every week during wrestling season. Army weight was in the 230s plus. I hit a high of 481 before VSG. I've been hovering in the low to mid 260s since January.

You've already gotten the "eat fewer calories" sermon so I won't repeat that. I do have a couple of questions for you to answer for yourself, not for me or anyone else. One, how does your current weight relate to your height and build? The BMI chart tells me I am still obese at with a number of 35. But I am fairly lean these days, barring some loose skin. Two, what is the rationale behind the weight you have decided you need to be? In the end, it is just a number. If you look and feel good at your current weight, do you need to beat yourself up to get to an arbitrary number?

i am not trying to make any sort of judgement as to whether you are wrong or right in your desire to lose some more weight. I'm only giving you a couple of things to think about, coming from someone who is very close in age and weight. I would also encourage you to join us on the men's group for the weekly weigh in. Some weeks there are more of us and some weeks there are less. You are as accountable as you want to be. It is helpful, knowing you'll be posting your progress, and it helps to be able and look back at that record from time to time. In any case, I wish you well in your endeavor, and hope to see you join in on the weigh in.

Thanks, I like the "Men's Group" and its accountability, how do I join that forum? And like you, my BMI is "35" and while I feel ok, at this weight I am somewhat self-conscious still of my appearance. When I was down to 250-255 I felt ok about how I looked, so while 235 lbs would be my goal I'll be happy losing about 10-15 lbs along with weight training for muscle and a leaner look. Also it appears that my cholesterol and other blood work is always within the normal range when I am under 260 lbs. I'm 6 ft tall, you may be taller so have a more lean look. I like the idea of the Men's Group and the weigh-in. When I am monitored and also monitor myself and log my food I always do better. Left to my own device, I tend to go off track. I have noticed that while for the most part I do eat less calories during the week and lower carbs, weekends I tend to eat more, and also more bad food! And the funny thing is I do not even notice it until I look back on Monday so its a bad habit and routine I need to break and be aware of. Although I am 59 I do have an 11 year old energetic boy, and while he keeps me young, it also means I find myself at parties, events, eating out, etc. of which I need to prepare for in advance. So yes, it is accountability and taking control of what I eat- no doubt. Funny, since I've asked for suggestions I can now see in retrospect where I fell off the wagon-a little here, some there, a little there and so forth. Thanks for the comments, its very well appreciated. Good health is doable we just got to do it!

I see you found the men's group. Welcome! I am a whopping 1" taller than you. I'm like a Pontiac. Wide Track. I suspect you remember that reference since we are of the same age.

This picture is of me from just a few weeks ago, on the occasion of my 18 month anniversary of surgery. I am somewhere around 263-265 in the pic.

My youngest child is almost 25. My oldest grandchild is 10, and the boys (four of them) are 8,6,4, and 2. I know what you mean about keeping you young. Papaw is a wrestling toy to be attacked whenever possible. We all love it.

I am in maintenance at about 2500 calories a day or so. When I ride my bike, I can boost those days to 3000-3200 without penalty. That means I can enjoy ice cream, bourbon, or whatever takes my fancy without penalty.

You look no where near 260 lbs! You must have a lot of muscle. I gotta get back into high intensity training and weight lifting.

Here I am at 250 lbs, 2 years ago - just 13 lbs lower than I am now at current but I looked more slim. So I need to work out amd lost about 20 lbs and I'll be content to remain there.

The "normal" outcome for a person who has weight loss surgery is to lose 100 pounds the first two years and then have 20 pounds of bounce back regain.

Doing something else takes extraordinary work and dedication.

Everyone is different. You get to make your own choices. You will find with honest food tracking that it takes 10 calories a day to maintain one pound. Eliminate 3500 calories to drop one pound. If you drop 500 calories a day for 20 weeks you will lose 20 pounds.

Thank you for this information. I had scheduled a resting metabolic rate test with the people at my bariatric practice. It was such a FUBAR I walked out before it was done. I waved my arms, said a lot of bad words, and was escorted into the office of the honcho for an extended heartfelt conversation where I aired my grievances. She agreed. Maybe that was so I wouldn?t kill anyone. But anyway...

I resolved to never return. They are corporate. They are incompetent. It will not improve. Your post confirms I am eating what I should, and backs up over six months of relative stability concerning my weight. I am grateful beyond what I can express.

Have you had a dexascan to measure your bodyfat percentage? Another good measurement that can help you determine how healthy you are is to measure your waist or waist to hips ratio (visceral fat is dangerous to our health). HERE is an article that gives some information on healthy waist measurements by height.

At the 3 year mark is when many people start to gain. And often it is hard to stop. I am also in my 50's and plan to keep living an active life. We need to keep fighting for our health!!

wow we are having the same issues. i am doing much the same as you so wont repeat. hoping to read what answer is given to you