Ever feel like giving up on trying to have surgery?

Gwen M.
on 3/8/18 9:03 am
VSG on 03/13/14

Definitely wild - and definitely not the best option for everyone :) I've never regretted it for a moment, though.

I have a handful of friends I could ask, but, like I said another comment, this is actually something that's come up in conversation in my friend circle since we're weird like that.

VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Surgeries with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL & brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL & mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)

Age 42 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170

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(deactivated member)
on 3/8/18 9:14 am

Worth mentioning if she had a solid friend she could ask. A suggestion she probably would not have thought of but worked for you. You never know!

Healthcare costs have gotten insane these days.

Oxford Comma Hag
on 3/8/18 2:53 pm

I am not anything close to conservative, so that is definitely not the cause of my distaste and objection.

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(deactivated member)
on 3/8/18 4:14 pm

It worked for Gwen with a good friend she was just suggesting what worked for her. While not for everyone it worked for her and so she was throwing out the idea. I am open minded and not set to my way only. What works for one person may not work for another. I respect that.

Sparklekitty, Science-Loving Derby Hag
on 3/8/18 8:32 am
RNY on 08/05/19
On March 8, 2018 at 1:01 PM Pacific Time, Gwen M. wrote:

I'm sorry you feel like giving up, I think that's understandable given all that you've been through.

Do you have any friends with great insurance that you could "marry" in order to access their insurance? Obviously you'd need to offer to pay the difference in premium, etc.

This sounds like insurance fraud to me, even if it's within the letter of the law.

I think this is TERRIBLE advice.

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Gwen M.
on 3/8/18 8:35 am
VSG on 03/13/14

Hm, I'm not sure why it would be insurance fraud? People get legally married for all sorts of reasons and it's not like you ever have to justify to your company, or the insurance company, that you got married for the "right" reasons - whatever those are.

VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Surgeries with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL & brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL & mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)

Age 42 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170

TrendWeight | Food Blog (sort of functional) | Journal (down for maintenance)

Sparklekitty, Science-Loving Derby Hag
on 3/8/18 8:37 am
RNY on 08/05/19

Maybe "fraud" isn't the correct legal term. But I'm thinking this sounds very similar to someone having a sham marriage just to get a green card, which is generally frowned upon.

Sparklekitty / Julie / Nerdy Little Secret (#42)
Roller derby - cycling - triathlon
VSG 2013, RNY conversion 2019 due to GERD. Trendweight here!

Gwen M.
on 3/8/18 8:50 am
VSG on 03/13/14

Heh. I'm thinking of that movie, Green Card, now. I might side-eye a person who married someone they didn't know at all, but that's not what I suggested. I can't see legally marrying someone who cares about you enough to marry you so that you can get health care as being a sham.

VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Surgeries with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL & brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL & mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)

Age 42 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170

TrendWeight | Food Blog (sort of functional) | Journal (down for maintenance)

The Salty Hag
on 3/8/18 10:58 am
RNY on 05/20/13

I agree, Julie. It's unethical for sure.

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Erin T.
on 3/8/18 12:02 pm
VSG on 01/17/17

You can actually go on someone's insurance if you're in a committed relationship. You don't need to be married, so theoretically you could do this if you lived in the same place long enough, right? I mean, no one is taking pictures to make sure you have an intimate relationship with the person.

I do also see marriage as a legal contract, but personally, the idea of marrying someone for insurance is terrifying. But, I live in NY and you pretty much have to commit your life savings and a body part from each of your children to get divorced. I wouldn't even get married to Jon when we found out we were having Isis, even though I didn't have insurance and I loved him dearly. But, I wasn't ready to legally tie myself to him (yet). Then you have to throw in the whole 'meeting someone and them understanding' aspect of the puzzle. Societal norm (right, wrong, or indifferent) doesn't support finding someone whose response would be 'oh cool, what you did makes sense'.

In addition, I feel like just the work to make sure you protected yourself legally (with a prenuptial agreement, etc) would cost you roughly the same as a surgery in Mexico would. I actually don't feel like I have friends that I could trust so fully that I would consider it, except my BFF, maybe?

Boy, accessible healthcare would be nice, eh? I appreciate the academic discussion of the option either way

VSG: 1/17/17

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