Sex life help

I know everyone else has already said it and it's probably the last thing you want to hear, but... yeah, you need to cut yourself free of this jerk. His cheating was not your fault. It was not the fault of your weight. It was his fault and the issues behind it are strictly his. There is SO MUCH blame and guilt thrown at overweight people and it's hard to just not believe that it must have been our fault when people blame ****ty behaviour like this on something like body type. Believe it, though: it was never your fault, you don't deserve it, and he doesn't deserve you. Get out of there and find someone who is truly good to you, someone you can try absolutely anything you're curious about with.

As far as anal sex goes, here's what I can offer for advice: go slowly and use lots of lubricant. Don't try it with someone you don't trust implicitly, because they can really hurt you if it goes wrong. You still need condoms with anal sex. Don't do any sort of butt-to-vag tranferring without changing condoms and washing thoroughly, and obviously not butt-to-mouth!! The bacterial risk is much higher with anal, so much sure all parties are extremely clean. Some people who are into receiving anal sex like to give themselves enemas beforehand (shower attachments for that purpose are popular). You need to time it carefully in terms of when you've eaten, and even then there can be embarrassing moments, but that pretty much goes with the territory: if something is going up the poo-poo chute, there may just be poo-poo. You know. :) It's not the end of the world, but if you would find that embarrassing, be warned!

Whatever you do, good luck to you. But seriously: get out of there. I've been there. Life is better after, no matter how shattering it can be to end it. Do it for yourself. Do ALL of it for yourself. You're worth it.

If you're in a relationship where the other person makes you feel badly, it's not a healthy relationship. You deserve better. He'll cheat on you later just like he cheated on you twice before. He's just looking for an easy lay. Don't be an easy lay.

And if he needs anal to have sex with you, tell him that there are guys on Craigslist that will help him out with that.

Time for you to have some self-respect and pride in yourself.

DTMFA (Dump The M****r F***Ker's A**) Tip of the hat to Dan Savage.