Loving yourself

(deactivated member)
on 9/1/17 10:01 am, edited 9/2/17 9:35 am

I am almost four years out from surgery. I will say do I love my body. Nope. But will I ever? I can find flaws about myself over and over again.

I am choosing not to. I have to look at how far I have come. I also have to look at what I am as a human. Someone who is kind and has a heart.

Beating myself up before surgery I was really good at. After surgery I wasn't so bad. The weight was falling off.

Now the weight can creep back up. Very easily.

I am also a sober woman of dignity and grace. I have weight to lose. But I will never give up on myself.

Telling yourself you are worth it can really help with weight loss. That we also deserve to be happy and healthy.

This is a picture of myself at 25. I do not look happy at all.

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I am fifty and proud of the woman I am becoming. This is a woman who can smile again. Not because I lost the weight and look better. But because I am learning to love myself. And know I am worth it.

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This picture is of my best friend we have known each other since we were four. We went on the roller coaster three times in a row. I had the best time.

Life is good.

karenp8
on 9/1/17 10:25 am - Brighton, IL

So true Susan. We all have faults and most of the time we are the only one who sees them. We accept bad traits in others but not in ourselves. Life is all about learning and one of those lessons needs to be working daily to accept ourselves and love ourselves as we are right now. We are each worth it even when we struggle.

   

       

mschwab
on 9/1/17 10:47 am
RNY on 11/21/14

You are so inspirational, and have over come so much. You deserve every bit of happiness you are now enjoying.

 Height: 5'7".  HW: 299, Program starting weight: 290, SW: 238, CW 138 - 12 pounds under goal!  

     

Kathy S.
on 9/1/17 12:21 pm - InTheBurbs, XX
RNY on 08/29/04 with

You inspire me with each and every post! Thank you!

HW:330 - GW:150 - MW:118-125

RW:190 - CW:130

Emiepie
on 9/1/17 1:37 pm
RNY on 08/11/14

RNY 8/11/14 with Dr. Kelvin Higa PS Lipectomy 4/12/17 with Dr. John Burnett HW291.4/CW165/GW150

FluffyChix
on 9/1/17 2:17 pm

You rock! Great message.

H.A.L.A B.
on 9/1/17 4:25 pm

I love to see the smile on your face, in your eyes...

Great Job Susan,

Loving the woman I was, the woman I am now - that is my goal.

Past created my present me. Past shaped me to be the person I am today. No regrets.

Hala. RNY 5/14/2008; Happy At Goal =HAG

"I can eat or do anything I want to - as long as I am willing to deal with the consequences"

"Failure is not falling down, It is not getting up once you fell... So pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start all over again...."

Gina 22 years out
on 9/1/17 6:12 pm - Burleson, TX

Beautiful, beautiful post, my friend!!! Can't wait to get together with you, so WE can ride a roller coaster together!!!!!

RNY 4-22-02...

LW: 6lb,10 oz SW:340lb GW:170lb CW:155

We Can Do Hard Things

Liz WantsHealthForAll
on 9/2/17 5:08 am - Cape Cod, MA
VSG on 03/28/16

I LOVE that picture of you laughing! You are a beautiful woman and I thank you for your honesty and transparency.

Liz 5'3" HW: 219 SW: 185 GW: 125 LW: 113 Desired maintenance range: 120-125 CW: 119ish

(deactivated member)
on 9/2/17 9:46 am, edited 9/2/17 2:47 am

I will admit that my life is not perfect. I worry about my kids my family and a lot of other stuff.

This site has helped me so much. The vets are the ones who guided me. Newbies gave support.

One thing I do not do anymore is to focus so much on is labeling myself. All I used to think about was my WLS. People would get sick of it. I think I got sick of myself hearing it in my head more so.

There are so many things that define us as people. People who do not know I had the surgery I don't feel the urge to tell them anymore it doesn't matter.

I do have to remember when I am eating not to eat too fast. Or it's okay to eat crap if I feel like I am stressed.

Coming here and sharing through out our weight loss life can really help. To read something that someone else is going through can really change on how someone feels about themselves.

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