Birthday Frustrations

I'm going to start using that line for anything people ask me that I don't want to do!

"Can you write up a report on this?" "Ohhhhh... sorry, the last time I wrote a report, I got diarrhea... I'd better not."

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I say something similar: "I don't feel good when I eat stuff like that". It works like a charm. They really don't want to know what that means and you aren't lying. The not feeling good could be mental or physical.

Ask them if they would keep insisting on bringing you a bottle of wine if you were an alcoholic.

I love this response. People understand alcohol addictions but for the most part just don't get food addictions which IMHO are even worse than alcohol. Don't get me wrong, I'm not minimizing those who struggle with alcohol, but you can't not eat. Sometimes I think my life would be much easier if I didn't have to eat at all and could avoid all temptations.

I love this, because it is so true. It is easy to see alcohol as an addiction, but so many people can't see that food can be the same way and food can be just as horrible for your body. Most of us are a prime example, especially me who ate food until I weighed 485 pounds and was very quickly killing myself at that weight. I am fine with living and learning from my mistakes now, because thinking of that weight and what it felt like has become motivation. I never want to be that person again, or feel so hopeless and lost. I refuse to ever live like that no matter how hard it is to be different.

Early out I said something similar to what Grim said. I think I said vodka instead of wine. It really stops people in their tracks to hear that analogy.

Ab...So...Lutely!
(Lol...and then I like to land 'em a good throat-punch!) :D

I had to deal with that with some people at the beginning. Now - cake can be in the house and I often don't care.

But like you I hate when people push their ideas on me. NO means NO.

But I learned to say now "I don't eat cake, I don't want it, I don't like it anymore" or - which is true - "I am allergic".

I also give people ideas of white to do instead : thank you for thinking of me, I don't eat cake anyone, how about you being me a ring if ****tail shrimp? (Or steak, or box of organic berries, or..xxx "fill in the blanks "

I think people want a cake so they can have as n excuse to eat a piece. Specially if they know that they should not eat it themselves. "But it is HER birthday, I have to". Not feeling guilty knowing that for whatever reason the cake is not good for them.

The cake is not really for you, but for them to feel better.

A girl at work who had the sleeve a couple of years ago (and has regained about half her weight) brought me a cake for my birthday back in June when I was 8 months out. I didn't acknowledge it or thank her. I ate some of the healthy stuff that other people brought and totally ignored the cake. She ate some of course.

Since it was at work it wasn't hard to ignore it. At home might be a different story. Throw it away if somebody foists it upon you.

I have had to get VERY firm in the past. You turning down tasty food sometimes makes other people question their own eating habits. Sometimes they think the food will make you happy. Be very firm. No means no. Don't accept cake into your home that you don't want. If someone brings it there, tell them to take it with them or it will go into the trash.

I know we all have guilt issues with throwing food away; however, eating something we don't want or aren't hungry for is the same as throwing it in the waste can. But instead, our bodies are the waste can. That's no good.