Making poor food choices

"My concern about your post is the stress eating response. Doesn't matter if you ate chicken breasts or carrot sticks instead- we know stress eating is a slippery slope. It's excess calories- period."

This is a FABULOUS thing to note -- and in fact, is very helpful to me as well. There is so much painful truth in this simple revelation. Thanks Peach! You've been a veritable fountain of wisdom to me as of late!

Well you've always been a fountain of wisdom for me. Glad I can return the favor!

I agree Peach - the concerning thing is the emotional part of the eating. Stress, anger, etc are my major triggers and I've been relatively good at not indulging in them the last two year. But occasionally, I make these bad decisions and I know I'm making them. So frustrating.

I'm going to see if I can try the sketching out my thoughts thing to see if that will help.

For me, as someone with BED, these are actually moments I'm happy about. The moments when I CHOOSE to make a bad choice - those are totally cool with me. It's the times that I do it without the conscientious choice that scare me.

But still - I get you. I make a bad choice and it's like, "duh, what are you even doing?!"

thankfully, even at three years out, I make good choices way more frequently than bad ones. And I feel in control of my choices way more frequently than I ever did before :)

I agree with Peach. I love to see that she has a plan to figure out a response to stress eating. I will try to do this next time stress raises it's nasty head in my direction. I do allow myself to have whatever I want like Hala when I am at my lower weight. It is usually something small and it is not a response to an emotion, or mindless eating. I am still working on mindless eating. I often try to think of some food like "crack" like Kat does. I have learned so many coping skills on this board. I do not feel quilty when I have chosen to eat something unhealthy, l just know I will pay the price.

We got out of debt and paid off the house by using Dave Ramsey "Get out of Deb" plan. We saved 20,000 for a house remodeling. We started with a couple of rooms, and found that we really needed to do the entire first floor at the same time. We financed 90,000. It was a choice, I knew the consequences. Each month, I look at the statement and see that I am throwing 280 a month away as interest. We have a plan to have this paid off in 2-3 years. My husband and I both went back to work. To me, this is like eating. Sometimes I am willing to pay the cost for something that I want.

I am the King of poor food choices. Welcome to my realm.

If you ever figure out how to stop them, please let me know.

The only thing I can say is, I try to stop the bad choices after pne hour, or one day. If I don't one hour becomes a month, or a year, and then I'd be royally screwed. No pun intended.

Well, lots of people do this. That doesn't make it good but it happens. An occasional food error is not of huge consequence. Better to examine the reasons. (stress of the event?) and find a better substitute. A 40 calorie sugar free fudge bar or a cheese stick is a better option. Review posts in the vsg maintenance group (see my signature) for lots of analysis. Diane S

You got the rest of your life to figure this stuff out. I haven't yet but I keep working at it.

I have been in your exact place so many times. It can feel like something you can't escape.

I did the critter challenge and I'm staying on it and adding some vegetables and fruit. I've been off all the bad **** for a couple of weeks. That horrifying insistent hunger has been abated. For me that kinda is a miracle. I'm taking it a meal at time.

I'm kinda liking I can control something when so many things are out of my control.

I am at this time completely avoiding bakeries. Those donuts can just up and fly in your mouth.

Take care.

I hear you. I was literally tossing and turning last night, feeling so incredibly angry with myself for bad eating decisions this weekend.

Until I got to maintenance I NEVER ate off plan. Then for about a year, I have been learning how to add bites and treats here and there. But recently those "here and there" bites are more frequent and I find that I am having something off plan almost every day, now. I haven't really gained, yet, but it is only a matter of time if I keep up like this.

But I think the thing that is upsetting me most is that I have the white-hot feeling of self-shame that I haven't felt since I was pre-op. I am really mad at myself and telling myself that I am "bad" and "stupid". I know that negative self-talk is going to point me straight to the bread aisle... so I feel like I am in a shame cycle that needs to stop.

New day today.

Don't make me come to Boston to whomp you on the head for the negative talk.