lost the fight tonight....gave in

Tonight I slipped up and had something I KNEW I shouldn't have had. Does this ever happen to you? Feeling very guilty and shameful. I did not binge but I still aweful.

chalk it up to experience and get right back to your plan

You're human. You make mistakes. Don't let it define you. Get back on track and find a therapist to work with to help you to lessen your slip ups in the future.

I know that there are a lot of people here who benefit from therapy, but I'm not sure one moment of weakness is cause for an immediate therapy referral.

The guilt/shame that goes along with the moment of weakness is why I made the suggestion. Sneaky hate spirals can be really insidious.

(Plus I pretty much think everyone would benefit from a good therapist so.... I'm totally owning my bias there.)

It happens to many of us. I've made a good number of mistakes. What's important is recognizing the mistake and finding ways to fix it, or cope with it. I will probably always make mistakes, but we can lessen the severity by learning from them. Don't feel shame, instead figure out WHY you wanted that item that was so off your plan, and think of ways to find healthy alternatives! Like I had a big carb problem (mostly a chip problem, I was craving chips something awful) I followed a lot of suggestions given to me and made my own "chips" using shredded cheese. There is always a way to fix issues that come up, you just have to put your mind to it.

Not binging is a victory in itself. It's ok to feel a little bad - if you didn't then you might be inclined to just do it again. But no need to dwell on the Guilt and shame. That can be counter productive.

Log it in your food journal. Dust yourself off. Move on. :) this happens to everyone from time to time.... keep it a rare occurance and you'll be fine.

I think in a pavlovian way my "slips" actually made me better. First of all, I felt physically awful!! Not just the constriction, but I experienced a blood sugar rush that made me feel like I had the flu. And I felt like I had completely failed myself. I didn't keep my promise to myself and I was so disappointed.

So, yeah, I have messed up and I'm still a little sad with myself. But be kind, try and figure out what your brain was looking for, and double down on your resolve to get healthy and change your mindset.

We didn't put ourselves into a position of needing surgery because we ate well. We (OK, me) have eating issues, and I have finally admitted to myself that I have an eating disorder. Once I started admitting that, it was easier for me to accept the failures, and find ways to help myself regain control.

Do not feel shameful. You are taking steps to better your life, and this is a slip up. Stand back up, be proud that you recognize what happened is an issue, and walk on!

Most importantly, learn from it. Own it. And don't make excuses about it.

dmcs85, Everyone slips up from time to time. Go ahead and feel bad enough that you want to be better to yourself. But don't kick yourself around for too long, or you'll say "what the hell!" and give up. The key is to not slip up every single day, which is how we all got to where we are now. I agree with everyone who has posted, and I usually feel physically horrible after a "slip up" to the point where I don't ever want to feel like that again.

A strategy that works for me now is that I don't deny myself things I may want. I made potato salad today for my granddaughter's birthday dinner. I will take a bite, and I will be happy. I don't need to eat a whole plate of it. There will be corn on the cob, and I plan to have one bite. I don't need a whole ear of corn. There will be chips and dip. I am going to eat one chip. My new stomach allows me to do that now because that is all I really want. So a taste keeps me from feeling deprived, and I'm very proud of myself for being able to take one bite and walk away. I do not do this with desserts or ice cream or trigger foods (like dry cereal). When we traveled, I ordered a small gluten free pizza. I knew I could only eat one slice. Yes, it was higher carb, but the next day I got right back on track no worse for the carbs. I also once ordered GF french toast. Could only eat one piece, and then got back on straight protein right after that.

Find your strategy that keeps you from damaging yourself. I'm really rooting for you!!!!