OH, people do come here for help right?

I also believe that's the post she means, and I agree T Hag. One of the biggest issues was that MANY of us asked the OP a yes or no question..."Do you weigh and measure every bite you eat?" She NEVER answered the question, but circled around it a few times. That was a red flag to a lot of the vets...and I completely understand that.

Let me ask you honestly though Cathy, did that give anyone the right to deliberately in her face name call her or degrade her the way they did? It was very sad.

To be absolutely certain, I just finished re-reading every word of that thread. I see not one place where anyone called anyone else a name. I saw where the very long comment that I originally didn't read because it made my eyes cross, was responded to by someone who said it was a "nice trolling attempt." Is THIS what you are labeling as someone being name called?

You said in another comment here tonight that this is the first forum you have belonged to online. It's not the first for me, I've been in forums since PCs became household items back i***** That long, rambling post from an account that was created that same day, had all the earmarks of a false story. Frankly, I wasn't surprised that someone called it out. Could they have been a tad more diplomatic? Yes.

If you were so outraged by what was said that you could create a new topic and do your own name calling (yes, it's still name calling even if you don't single out an individual person), why didn't you say something right there? "What the heck? How can you be so insulting when you know nothing about this person?"

Instead, you took the passive-aggressive approach of announcing to the entire site how outraged you were, and "hoping the person it applies to would notice." I had a boss once who used the same management style. Called a meeting to let us all know we needed to make sure we dressed appropriately. ONE person was always a mess. Guess which one person was the ONLY person who did not go individually to the boss and ask, "Is it me?" Why? Because she didn't think there was anything wrong with the way she dressed. By the same token, there's every chance the person you "hoped would notice" would never think that you were talking about them. Therefore, all you've managed to do is make yourself look bad.

Innuendo is as bad as outright speech. You use a lot of innuendo in what you've said here. When someone reads between the lines to your true meaning, and addresses it directly, your response is on the lines of "did I use those exact words?" You and I both know that isn't necessary for you to get the same message across.

So all of this could have been avoided if you had just responded to the insult you felt was uncalled for at the time it happened and to the person who wrote it.

If you can't see the truth in this, then I'm sorry. There is nothing else I can do or say to make you understand.

Exactly, their were people who were downright brutal. Thanks T hag!

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lol right it bugs me when other people do it too but I've been o stressed about other things and my thoughts flow, trying to type faster then my fingers allow lol

You might consider, in the future, avoiding the internet when you're stressed out by other things.

Well, I don't find this post to be very nice... so why didn't you just "move on?"

These kinds of things are all subjective. There are plenty of people that think those you listed in your post are the big bullies of these boards. However, I agree with you in that they are some of the most lovely and helpful people around these forums.

I have no compassion for people that make up stories about terminal illnesses. IF you stick around here long enough, you can spot a troll from a mile away. If, somehow, I were proven wrong on my "troll" assessment, I would be the first to apologize. I don't see that happening in this case though.

And, I would highly recommend that nobody change what they wrote. It is considered bad practice in many online communities. If someone felt the need to apologize, they could do an edit or post something additional, but deleting history is not a great idea. Personally, you shouldn't post something you aren't willing to stand behind or leave up for future people to see how much of an asshole you were.

I am sorry for being a little confused:

you stated "if you ain't got nothing nice to say then MOVE ON!"

then you post " A very FEW of these chicks on here though, are self righteous, nasty cruel WITCHES!!! They're unhappy and miserable with themselves or their lives and are trying to bring someone else down to their level"

so you think "people need to do as You Say but not as You Do" right? that should be your mantra... not "if you ain't got nothing nice to say then MOVE ON!" pot is calling kettle black..

interesting...