Uncomfortable praise

(deactivated member)
on 5/12/17 1:42 pm

Why do I feel so embarrassed when people start gushing about my weight loss? it's weird. I am not someone who dislikes compliments. and i am so proud of my accomplishment and hard work. I have always dressed well, had my hair done, worn funky jewelry and had my own style.. but, now 8 months out I am starting to get uncomfortable when people ( girlfriends mostly) start gushing about how great I look But, really, hate the ." How much weight have you lost?" I HATE that! anyone else feel that way?

Cathy H.
on 5/12/17 1:55 pm, edited 5/12/17 6:58 am
VSG on 10/31/16

I don't feel uncomfortable, but if someone other than my close family asks how much I've lost, I'd feel no differently about that than I do about someone asking me how much something cost. Frankly, it's none of their business, and it's gauche to ask (in my opinion).

My response for now is "not enough yet." When I am at my forever weight, it will be "just enough." The vagueness of the answers should be enough for most people to get the subtle message that the number is "nunya." (Nun of ya business lol)

Livin' La KETO Loca!!
134 lbs lost since surgery, 195 overall!! Initial goal reached 9/15/17, (10.5 months)!
5'3", SW*: 299 GW: 175 HW 3/2015: 360 PSW* 5/2016: 330 *PSW=Prog Start Wt; SW=Surgery Wt

M1 -31, M2 -10, M3 -15, M4 -16, M5 -8, M6 -6, M7 -11, M8 -8, M9 -8, M10 -4, M10.5 -7 GOAL

Gwen M.
on 5/12/17 2:23 pm
VSG on 03/13/14

I don't like when people give me effusive praise about anything, so I've become a master of changing the subject :P

VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Surgeries with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL & brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL & mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)

Age 42 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170

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peachpie
on 5/12/17 4:43 pm - Philadelphia, PA
RNY on 04/28/15

I don't care for it either. I just say thanks and not much more to not keep the topic going.

I assume your friends who ask how much you've lost knew you had surgery. Only people that knew I had surgery asks me that. I guess it's a logical question in their head.

5'6.5" High weight:337 Lowest weight:193/31 BMI: Goal: 195-205/31-32 BMI

(deactivated member)
on 5/13/17 5:10 am

Yes, it is mostly the friends that know I had surgery. The ones that don't know I had surgery say " how did you lose your weight"? And I always say " well, a lot of hard work". The friends that know are just being kind I suppose and trying to be supportive but, it just feels wierd.it reminds me of the feeling I used to get when people would ask how my husband and I met and I would tell them we met on line ... it's like I felt they were judging me for cheating and not doing things the old fashioned way.... does that make sense?

Fredbear
on 5/12/17 6:05 pm, edited 5/12/17 11:11 am
VSG on 11/29/16

"Wow, you look great!" == "Thanks!"

"How much weight have you lost?" == "A bunch."

"How much more do you want to lose?" == "A bit."

"How are you doing it?" == "Eating right and lots and lots of exercise."

They usually lose interest once they realize there's no "One Weird Trick" or gimmick.

"Friends are like flowers; no matter how well you pick them, they all eventually die."

Fredbear
on 5/12/17 6:10 pm
VSG on 11/29/16
(deactivated member)
on 5/13/17 5:11 am

Love it!!! Thank you!!

(deactivated member)
on 5/15/17 10:14 pm
Gwen M.
on 5/13/17 5:25 am
VSG on 03/13/14

Yesterday I saw a woman I haven't seen for a while and the FIRST thing she said to me was, "Wow! How much weight have you lost now?"

And I'm thinking... seriously? I haven't seen you for like 6 months and this is the first thing you say to me?

Some people have no filter..

VSG with Dr. Salameh - 3/13/2014
Diagnosed with Binge Eating Disorder and started Vyvanse - 7/22/2016
Reconstructive Surgeries with Dr. Michaels - 6/5/2017 (LBL & brachioplasty), 8/14/2017 (UBL & mastopexy), 11/6/2017 (medial leg lift)

Age 42 Height 5'4" HW 319 (1/3/2014) SW 293 (3/13/2014) CW 149 (7/16/2017)
Next Goal 145 - normal BMI | Total Weight Lost 170

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