NSV - I had JUST one

Oh vey! How is it that I had to go to the urban dictionary to find out what this term meant cuz I'm having a brain fart right now. lol apparently my computer is hard up.

Damn auto correct, turns how is it to housed & nsv to nav. Damn this half hour can't come fast enough so that I can get some more coffee!, & better glasses apparently!

MILF is like Beetlejuice... if you say/type it three times... POOF.

Here I am.

HAHAHAHAHAHA.

I refuse to get in a glass though. I draw the line at that.

The "milf" made me giggle, too!

Does your grandmother know you had WLS? If she does I would be concerned that she is baking things specially for you. At two months out I personally would have declined the cookies, but thanked her anyways.

I understand you feel good that you ate only one, but right now is the time you need to focus on your protein and fluids to get the most out of the honeymoon period. The further out you get the harder it becomes to lose weight.

I agree with LadyGodiva regarding your grandmother making the cookies. If she is aware of your surgery, it's really important to set boundaries with her (and other loved ones) about not bringing these things to you in the first place.

But mostly, here is what concerns me the most about your post:

I decided to eat one. I worried about it haunting me, but one was enough.

You were worried that it would haunt you, but you decided to eat one anyway. Your resolve will never be higher than it is now, and at two months you made the conscious decision to eat the cookie, despite your worries.

It's a slippery slope and you have to be careful. Everybody here wants to see you succeed because we have all been there, done that. Maximizing the "honeymoon" phase is a big part in long-term success IMHO.

Next time you will have two and you will keep having more. This is like an alcoholic only having one drink.

We are food addicts and sugar addicts.

One is too many, one more is never enough.

Drinking with meals is not a good habit to get into.

I've got to chime in that I can't see this as a victory. At two months post-op your resolve and dedication to the plan should be at the highest it will ever be. You knew that this was a bad choice, but you did it any way - why are you sabotaging yourself so early?

Hi Mersh!

You are getting some strong responses here and if I were two months out and had just posted as you did I might feel a little beat up or misunderstood. I'm responding to encourage you not to process the concern that way.

If you look at the members cautioning you, you'll notice that they are several years out. Those of us more that a year or two out of surgery have either seen or done it all. We post out of an abundance of caution and with the experience of seeing probably over at least a hundred fellow members make it to the losers bench.

And then fail.

Not in the first year, or usually even the second. Most people would have to actively work to not lose or to gain in those early months. But something happens after our bodies adjust. It's the dirty little secret of WLS - the thing all of the success stories avoid discussing. The reason we see people drop off the boards here after a relatively short post op period. Regain.

No matter how good we feel early out, how committed we are to losing 100 pounds "forever", our physical bodies have other plans. They are working from our very first post-op hours to fix what they (our bodies) see as a threat to our existence. Bodies are miraculous, unbelievable little machines. They will and DO adjust. What we eat in year one to lose will cause gain by year three or four. It's not something that happens randomly. Every single person will face this down. Your body will not only lose the benefits of surgery - it will learn how to function on less food. Less calories. It's not unusual for members in maintenance to discover to their horror that they must eat less than 1000 calories per day to stay in their desired weight range. It sucks. But it happens to everyone and it will happen to you too.

My WLS doc didn't tell me that. My "free seminars" didn't mention this nasty little fact. I didn't hang around my support groups long enough to listen. I got to learn the hard way. I regained large amounts of weight after those first two years. Once over 40 pounds and once right around 50. (yes, it really did take me TWICE to get it figured out - I'm stubborn and more than a little slow).

All is not lost - I fought my regain both times and weigh less now than I did even early out. But it was hard and not fun and OMG I wished so many times I had paid attention.

Those veteran OH members *****sponded to your post are many times accused of being mean spirited or worse. Truly they are not. They are just like me. They are just like me. Trying only to spare a fellow WLS patient some very tough years of regain, discouragement, and many times useless revisions.

I'll be honest - I read your post late last night and didn't respond because all I could think of was the fact that my surgeons plan didn't even include solids until week 9. And I didn't want to post anything that would discourage you. But I see my fellows have stepped in and I am grateful. As I hope you can be as well. Things sting though so early out and this is my attempt to re-frame those posts in such a way that you and others can see them for what they are. Words posted out of an abundance of caution and kindness.

You haven't done anything "wrong" so please don't think we're going there. Ask any one of those posters and I promise they'll confirm my interpretation of their response here. You're going to be just fine, and you're doing great. We only aim to give you the information you need to continue to succeed.

You can do this and you will. The goal is to save you from having to do it over, and over, and over.

Best of luck on your journey.

This is a great post. Thanks for your input and I hope the OP takes it, and the posts from the other vets, in the manner the advice was given.