Personality change with weight loss

My wife pointed out recently that I am much more likely to speak my mind. (Actually she said I was more of a ***** now...) I think that I am no longer feeding myself to stay quiet... so I say what is on my mind more often. Also when I can't go shopping I get *****y.

Good question. I thought maybe I would be more outgoing but nope, still a shy wallflower at social gatherings. I wish I could get my confidence up! I still see myself as 400 lbs.

My take on it is this....

This is a life changing surgery with life changing results (hopefully). Anytime anyone goes through anything huge and life changing in their lives, I would hope that we go through some sort of growth and change in our personalities. That's how we learn and grow emotionally as human beings. That's the evolution of life.

My personality hasn't changed but I am a lot more self confident and mix with people easily, whereas before I was painfully self conscious and held back with other people and avoided many opportunities. My relationships have become stronger and closer. Many people I know now never knew me fat and when I show them my before photos they don't recognize me.

Getting my weight off and keeping it off with much support from others while learning to manage myself reliably over time has been the most challenging undertaking of my life. It has been an emotional roller coaster, to put it mildly, this business of managing my brain and my mouth and my feet, no excuses no matter what. Much of what I do has now become habit, but I always always will have to keep aware of the slippery slope of returning to old behaviors.

The invaluable payoff- living outside of myself instead of in my inside stuff. My thoughts and emotions and cravings will always be there, I'm just not paying attention to them the way I used to. My health is now excellent, whereas it was tanking before surgery. I feel so much better about myself- I have a lot more fun and ease living with myself. I've learned I actually can do what I need to do, what I didn't think I would be able to do- that's the very best part.