Worst Thing Said to You After Losing A Lot of Weight...

Pre-Surgery the worst thing for me was when I told my sister (5'11" & 120lbs) that I was having surgery she made this disgusted face and spat out "Why?!". When I explained that I was sick of yo-yoing, etc she said "But it would be weird if you were skinny. You've lost so much from your highest weight to ME you are already skinny."

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Um, I'm sorry it would be weird for YOU. I've had so many people concerned that I will "lose too much" which really translates to "be skinnier than me". My BFF was also greatly concerned prior to my surgery that I would have a "weird diet" and "make her feel bad about her food choices".

Since surgery, I think the most annoying thing has been my father who keeps coaxing/urging me to lose "slow and steady". He's really concerned that I have already lost 36lbs (7 weeks out) and keeps me telling me if I lose too fast I'll put it back on. I try to tell him that I quite literally don't have a choice this early out and this is totally normal and within my surgeon's guidelines.

I know he's just concerned for my well-being, but still it's hard to be celebrating a loss while someone is like SLOW DOWN!

I am glad you lectured the person in the university's lunchroom. That was horrible for her to say.

One of the weirdest thing was when someone asked me when I was going to leave my husband. I was blindsided by that. I don't even remember who said it to me.

I have had stupid things that didn't really bother me. A lot of times it was just stupidity. I had a guy said when is the rest of you going to come walking in. I think he thought it was a compliment. I didn't even say anything I just looked at him. Like WTF?

I do feel the worst thing that someone said to me was. You are going to gain it all back just like some of the people I know. I had just sat down on the beach with these two women. Who I used to call my friends. Let's just say I left the beach.

I was really hurt by this the most. I felt like I did in high school when people would ban together to be bullies.

Lol! Reminds me that someone did ask me what happened to my butt - did I leave it behind somewhere lol .... .... I ran looking but couldn't find it :)

The first year, my parents would say dumb stuff to me all of the time. The usual "Eat something..." Thank goodness they are used to the new me, so I hardly hear it anymore.

The only person who continually says ****ty things to me is my kids' psychiatrist. I don't know what this guy's deal is. In my losing stage, he'd spend half their appointment asking about my surgery. Lecturing me on vitamins, since one of his patients had surgery close to mine, and she's doing horribly bad, she's sick all the time, blah blah. So I just say, "Best decision ever, I'm doing fine." He says all of this in front of my teens so I try to keep changing the subject, but he always brings it up.

OH! That shrink has issues!!! You should flat out tell him the appointment is for your children, and not about you and he needs to mind his boundaries. And you can tell him that's from another shrink!

That seems HIGHLY unprofessional. Are your children thriving with him? Is there a reason you stay? Frankly, I think that's emotionally abusive to you, and unnecessarily stressful on your kids.

Hugs friend. That really stinks. You don't deserve that at all.

It's completely unprofessional, and you should ask to speak to him privately before their next appointment. Then proceed to tell him to no longer discuss your medical issues in front of your minor children, as it is none of their business, and that you have a bariatric physician you work closely with for support and assistance. The rest is none of his business either, as he is not your physician.

What Donna L. said!

"Why is it that when people lose weight, they look so much older? Are you using something on your skin to help with that?"

NO WAY!! omg, i would have squared up.